Zifukwa 5 Zoti a Narcissist Amakonda Kukonda

Ngati mumachita nawo zonena zamankhwala osokoneza bongo, mwayi wake kuti mwakumana ndi zosasangalatsa zingapo chifukwa chake. Makasitomala anga ambiri omwe akhala akulandilidwa nkhanza ayesa kudzipatula kwa omwe amawazunza koma mobwerezabwereza, amabwezeretsedwanso munjira ya wankhondo. Narcissists amafuna anthu omwe amawakumbukira kuti ndi osadabwitsa, amachitiridwa nkhanza, kapena samamvedwa. Amafuna kuwongolera anthu ndikuwapweteketsa ndi kuwawa. Narcissist amakula bwino pamasewera ndikukhala ndi anthu oti awazunze kapena kuwawonetsa ngati ozunza. Ngakhale munthu wankhanza pamoyo wanu angakupangitseni kumva bwanji, ngati mukukwaniritsa zosowa zawo mwanjira ina, amakufunirani. Pokhala aluso kwambiri pakuwanyengerera, achita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akubwezereni, kuphatikiza.

Kubisalira kwa nkhanza kumatanthawuza zoyesayesa zopangidwa ndi wankhanza kuti akubwezereni m'moyo wawo - nthawi zambiri mutakhala patali. Makamaka ngati uwu ndi mkhalidwe watsopano kwa inu, wolemba nkhaniyo akhoza kudikirira kwakanthawi kochepa kuti awone ngati mukufunadi kutero. Mukapezeka kuti ndinu, ayatsa hoover.

Kukoka pamtima

Zikafika pakudya mopitirira muyeso, a narcissists azitha kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu. Akuuzani kuti amakukondani komanso akusowani bwanji, ubale wabwino bwanji womwe anali nawo ndi inu, kuti sangakhale opanda inu. Amatha kusewera wovutikayo yemwe akufuna kuti mulowemo ndikuwapulumutsa. Mwachidule, amakupusitsani kwambiri. Mwinanso mudakhalapo pachibwenzi chofanana ndi wamisala m'mbuyomu ndikumverera kuti mukukopeka ndi gawo lomwe mumalidziwa.

Kugwiritsa ntchito chowiringula mwachisawawa kuti mulumikizane

Tonya anandiuza kuti, “Ine ndi mlongo wanga sitinali kulumikizana kwazaka zambiri, kutsatira ndewu yayikulu. Kenako, mosasinthasintha, adandiimbira foni 7 koloko m'mawa kuti andiuze kuti msuweni wamwalira. Pomwe ndimamumvera chisoni, sindinamuwone kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 10. Zinthu zazikulu kwambiri zidachitika mzaka zonsezi, kuphatikiza amayi anga omalizira kuchipatala pa ulonda wa mlongo wanga. Sanayimbire foni izi. Ndidawona kuti ndimakhalidwe oyeserera ”. Narcissists atha kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wonse wazomwe zingakukhudzeni kuti mubwererenso.

Amakupangitsani kumva chisoni

Mark adandiuza kuti abambo ake adayesa kumunyengerera pomuuza mavuto omwe adakumana nawo ndipo njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli ndikubwerera kubanja. "Abambo anandiuza momwe ndimakwiyira amayi - abambo ndi ine tinasemphana chifukwa chakuzunza amayi. Amandiyimba mlandu kuti banja lonse lisiyane ndi yankho lokhalo lomwe lingakhalepo loti ndiyanjanenso ndi bambo anga okonda zachiwerewere. Ndidawonekeratu kuti sindikufunanso kulumikizana ndi banja langa komabe, ndidali pano, ndikumva ngati ndiyenera kubwerera kwa iye kukathetsa chisokonezo ichi ".

Amakuwonetsani

Pomwe mutha kupezeka kuti mulandila mphatso, kuyamikiridwa ndi kufotokozeredwa za chikondi chosatha, mutha kulumikizidwa mofananamo. Wolemba zamankhwala amatha kulumikizana nanu ndi cholinga chowononga kudzidalira kwanu ndikupangitsani kukayikira mtundu wazomwe zachitika. Amanama poyera, amapotoza zowona, ndikukhutitsani kuti ndinu munthu woyipa yemwe malingaliro ake ndi osokonekera. Mwinanso mungakhale othokoza kuti akufuna kukhala ndi chochita chilichonse ndi inu.

Amakutsimikizirani kuti asintha

“Chibwenzi changa chakale chinanditumizira meseji yotalikilapo yonena kuti yagwira ntchito ndipo yasintha. Anandipempha kuti ndibwerere ndikulonjeza kuti zinthu zisintha. Sanali. Pasanathe milungu ingapo adayamba kuchita zofananira zakale zomwezo, "Daniel adandiuza. Olemba ma Narcissist samangokhulupirira pang'ono pankhani yabodza ndipo angakutsimikizireni chilichonse ngati angawapeze zomwe akufuna.

Mfundo yopezera ndalama ndikubwezeretsani. Wolemba zamanyazi adziwa omwe ali ofooka komanso ngati akukuvutitsani, kukupemphani kapena kusewera wovutikayo ndiye njira yothandiza kwambiri yoyamikiramo. Mutha kudzipeza muli m'mavuto kangapo. Ndipo, kwa anthu ena, ngakhale kamodzi kokwanira kukukokerani m'malo owopsa, mwachitsanzo, komwe kuchitiridwa nkhanza m'banja. Ngati mukufuna thandizo kuti mudzipatule kwamuyaya ndi wamankhwala osokoneza bongo, chonde pemphani thandizo lomwe mukufuna.