Zinthu 7 Zomwe Aliyense Ayenera Kumvetsetsa Zokhudza Kugonana

Posachedwa, wophunzira wanga, yemwe amadziwika kuti ndi wamwamuna kapena wamkazi, adafunsa chifukwa chake anthu akumvetsetsabe za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndizowona. Kafukufuku wanga komanso kafukufuku wa ena amatsimikizira kusamvana komwe kukupitilira. Ngakhale anthu ambiri amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kodi ndi chiwerewere chotani chomwe chimapitilizabe kusokoneza anthu ambiri.

Chomwe chikuvutitsanso nkhaniyi ndi kuchuluka kwa zongopeka komanso zabodza zomwe zikuphatikizira mawuwa. Tiyeni tiyambire pamenepo, ndikutanthauzira zakugonana kenako ndikukambirana zabodza zomwe zimasokoneza tanthauzo. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndiko kugonana komwe munthu amakhala nako kuthekera kogonana, kutengeka, kapena kukondana ndi ena mosatengera kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi kapena amuna. Awa ndi malongosoledwe osavuta. Tsopano ndikulitsa lingalirolo pongonena zabodza.

BODZA 1: Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi chiwerewere. Adzagona ndi aliyense.

Zabodza. Kungoti muli ndi kuthekera kokopa zakugonana kwa aliyense posatengera kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi kapena amuna, imeneyo ndi njira yayitali yonena kuti ali amakopeka ndi aliyense ndipo amagonana ndi aliyense. Zingakhale zofanana ndikunena kuti mkazi yemwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akufuna kugona naye zonse amuna. Kuyambira pachiyambi, ndi lingaliro lopanda pake, komanso lotukwana.

ZABODZA 2: Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si chinthu chenicheni.

Zabodza. Sikuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndichinthu chenicheni, omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amavomereza kuti ndi osiyana ndi anzawo.

BODZA 3: Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amangofunika "kusankha mbali" ndikumamatira.

Ayi, satero. Ndipo kodi angasankhe mbali iti? Pan amachokera ku mawu achigiriki otanthauza “onse.” Monga "onse" akunena za amuna ndi akazi, palibe mbali. Ngati mukuwauza kuti ayenera kusankha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga chinthu chomwe amakopeka nawo - kachiwiri - ayi, satero.

ZABODZA 4: Kugonana ndi chinthu chatsopano. Ndi machitidwe aposachedwa kwambiri.

Zabodza. Mawu oti "pansexual" adakhalapo kwazaka zopitilira zana. Gululo linayambitsidwa ndi Freud, koma ndi tanthauzo losiyana kwambiri. Freud adagwiritsa ntchito chiwerewere kuti agwirizane ndi chibadwa chogonana. Mawuwa asinthidwa ndikuwongoleredwa mzaka zambiri kupitilira tanthauzo lomwe tikupatsa.

ZABODZA 5: Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikofanana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Zabodza. Kupanga kusiyana pakati pa ziwirizi ndikofunikira. Ngakhale pali zovuta pazosiyanazi, ndiyesa kuziphweketsa pano ndikuthana ndi zina nthawi ina. Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi ina kumawoneka ngati njira yogonana komwe munthu amatha kukopa amuna ndi akazi. Izi sizilinso choncho chifukwa timazindikira kuti jenda siyabwino. Ndizowona kunena kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo (kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha). Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, sikuti sikuti zonse zimangophatikiza kugonana ndi amuna, koma amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakopeka ndi ena mosatengera kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi kapena amuna. Mwanjira ina, amatenga zogonana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Anthu ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha atengera mawu oti "Mitima Yosakhala Mbali" posonyeza kuthekera kwawo kukopeka ndi kukondana ndi munthu wina ngakhale kuti ndi wamkazi kapena wamkazi. Pofuna kuthetsa chisokonezo chimodzi pakati pazakugonana ziwirizi, anthu amafunsidwa kuti ngati kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumaphatikizapo zokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwina, amuna kapena akazi ena ambiri, kodi sizofanana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Ayi. Mwachidule, zingapo sizofanana ndi zonse .

BODZA 6: Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangasangalale ndi munthu m'modzi yekha.

Zabodza. Zili ngati chinyengo cha chiwerewere. Chifukwa choti munthu amatha kukopeka ndi aliyense mosaganizira kuti ndi wamkazi kapena wamwamuna, sizitanthauza kuti amakonda aliyense kapena akufuna kukhala ndi aliyense. Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi vuto lofananira lokhala ndi mkazi m'modzi kapena polyamory monga aliyense.

BODZA 7: Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amasokonezeka pazokonda zawo.

Zabodza. Chifukwa choti zokonda zawo zitha kukhala zophatikizira, izi sizitanthauza kuti sakudziwa zomwe akufuna kapena omwe amakopeka nawo.

Pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yazikhalidwe zachiwerewere komanso malingaliro azakugonana omwe anthu angasankhe kuti adziwone bwino. Zina mwazizindikiritsozi ndizofala (LGBT), pomwe zina ndizocheperako koma zimangotuluka nthawi zonse (kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha). Zomwe sizodziwika bwino, monga kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (momwe nzeru zimafunikira kukopa) kapena kutha kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (komwe kumangokhalira kukopeka kwambiri pazokopa zogonana), nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosamvetsetseka chifukwa chabodza lomwe limafalitsa mayina ena, kuphatikizapo kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Musanakayikire zowona zakugonana kapena kuvomereza mosavuta zomwe mukukayikira, yesetsani kudziphunzitsa nokha pamndandanda wautali wa ma LGBTQIA +. Komanso, mukakumana ndi munthu wina akunena za ena mwa iwo, mverani iwo. Apatseni mwayi kuti akuphunzitseni pofotokoza kuti ndi ndani. Kuyesaku sikungokupatsani mwayi wodziwa bwino anthu okuzungulirani, koma chidziwitso chimathandiza kuchepetsa kusala, tsankho, ndi tsankho zomwe zimakhudza anthu am'magulu a LGBTQIA +.

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