Zikhulupiriro Zowopsa Zokhudza Nkhanza za Narcissistic

Kukhala m'ndende kunyumba, mavuto azachuma, komanso kusokonekera kwamachitidwe pakati pa mliriwu zadzetsa mikhalidwe yothetsera nkhanza zapabanja. Ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu chakuzunzidwa, anzawo ndi abale awo omwe ali ndi matenda amisala kapena matenda osokoneza bongo (NPD) akukumana ndi chiopsezo chachikulu.

Kafukufuku waposachedwa wa American Psychiatric Association of Life panthawi ya matenda a coronavirus apeza kuti anthu ambiri aku America (59%) akukumana ndi zovuta tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu aku America (36%) akukumana ndi mavuto azaumoyo. Mizinda padziko lonse lapansi ikunena zakusokonekera kwamilandu yanyumba. Ndipo pa Epulo 6, wamkulu wa United Nations a António Guterres adadzudzula "kuwopsa koopsa padziko lonse lapansi kwankhanza zapabanja" ndikupempha maboma padziko lonse lapansi "kuti aziika chitetezo cha amayi [ndi atsikana] patsogolo akamayankha mliriwu."

Kufotokozedwa ndi kusakhazikika m'maganizo, kusowa chisoni, komanso kunyada ndi ulemu, NPD imalumikizidwa ndi kuzunza anzawo, ukali, komanso nkhanza, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawonekera kwa abale. Choipitsanso zinthu, narcissists amakana mwamakhalidwe awo ndikuziwonetsera kwa anthu omwe amawapweteketsa, ndipo nthawi zambiri amalimbikitsa anthu okondedwa kapena abwino kwambiri omwe amachitira nkhanza zawo mobisa.

Otsatirawa ndi malingaliro olakwika asanu ndi atatu okhudzana ndi nkhanza zomwe zili zowopsa monga zonama.

1. Sili yakuthupi, chifukwa chake si nkhanza. Kuzunzidwa kumatha kukhala kwakuthupi komanso kwakugonana, koma nthawi zambiri kumakhudza kuphwanya kwamalingaliro monga kuweruza kosalekeza, kunyoza, ndi kudzudzula. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti nkhanza zosagwiritsa ntchito thupi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zopweteka monga kuzunzidwa, kusiya zipsera zosatha zomwe zimakhudza thanzi lamthupi komanso lamisala (CPTSD).
2. Koma aliyense amationa ngati banja / banja langwiro. Narcissists amayamikira zolemba zakunja zakutukuka ndi udindo wawo ndipo nthawi zambiri amayesetsa kupereka zabwino kwa akunja. Kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwanuko kumachitika mnyumba zamtundu uliwonse, mosatengera kusiyana kwachuma komanso maphunziro. Kaya mwavala zovala zapamwamba kapena zodzikongoletsera, mumakhala pachiwopsezo cha nkhanza komanso zoopsa.
3. Si matenda amisala kwenikweni chifukwa sanapezedwe. M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto lodzikongoletsa samadziwika. Chikhulupiriro chawo chabodza chakuti sangadzudzulidwe komanso kukana kwawo kudziwonetsa okha kapena kutenga udindo kumatanthauza kuti samakonda kupeza kapena kumamatira. Monga mwambiwu umanenera, "Narcissism ndi matenda omwe aliyense amachiritsidwa koma wodwala."
4. Iye / amalephera kudziletsa ndipo sangathandizire. Narcissists amadziwa bwino zabwino ndi zoyipa monga wina aliyense ndipo amatha kuwongolera machitidwe awo akagwirizana nawo. Akafuna china chake kapena ali ndi wina amene amamusilira, amatha kukhala osangalatsa komanso / kapena osangalatsa. Ndipo akatulutsa mkwiyo ndi kunyoza, amadziwa zomwe akuchita ndipo akupanga chisankho kuti achite.
5. Iye anali ndi ubwana wovuta. Anthu ambiri amakumana ndi zovuta komanso zovuta ndipo samangokhala nthabwala kapena nkhanza. Kukhululukila nkhanza za narcissists ndikuwateteza ku zotsatira kumangowonjezera kuchitira nkhanza komanso kupititsa patsogolo mavuto m'mabanja komanso m'mibadwo yonse.
6. Koma iye ndi wabwino nthawi zina. Anthu ambiri amakhala abwino nthawi zina, ndipo ma narcissists nawonso amachita chimodzimodzi. Popanda kuwopsezedwa, okwatirana, abale, kapena makolo atha kukhala othandiza, ozindikira, kapena osangalatsa kukhala nawo. Izi sizikupeputsa kapena kufafaniza zoyipa zomwe amachita akamva kuti anyansidwa, ali ndi mpikisano, kapena ali ndi ufulu wowonjezera.
7. Akuluakulu amatha kusiya izi. Kusiya wozunza, makamaka wankhanza kwambiri komanso wobwezera, sikophweka kuchita. Ochita nawo zankhanza, makamaka azimayi, nthawi zambiri amakhala kutali ndi abwenzi komanso abale, kutaya ndalama, komanso kupezerera anzawo kuti awopseze kuti amenyedwa, kuchotsedwa pantchito, kusungidwa kwa ana, komanso kusowa pokhala. Nthawi zambiri amakhala ozunzidwa ndiubwana, omwe amakhala pachiwopsezo chazunzo.
8. Kuzunza kwenikweni kumachitika kokha m'banja la wina, mtawuni ya wina. Mwina chikhulupiriro chowononga kwambiri chakuzunza ndichakuti "sizingandichitikire." Omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza zamankhwala nthawi zambiri amakhala akuzunzidwa kwa zaka zambiri kuti azidziwika, azitetezedwa, komanso akhale amisala pomwe akuwuzidwa kuti nkhanza sizikuchitika kapena ali ndi mlandu. Kukana zofooka zathu ndi zopweteketsa nthawi zambiri kumachitika mwachilengedwe tikakumana ndi zoopsa, makamaka muubwana pomwe tilibe mphamvu pazochitika zathu. Koma kuzunzidwa ndi gawo la umunthu, ndipo ozunza amakhala amoyo m'mabungwe athu ndi mdera lathu, oyandikana nawo komanso mabanja.

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