Njira 8 Zokulimbikitsira Kudzidalira Kwanu

Zamkati

• Kudzidalira Kofunikira Kuwerenga
• Chifukwa Chimodzi Chimene Anthu Amavutikira Kukhala Okonda

Ponena za kudzidalira kwanu, lingaliro limodzi lokha ndilofunika kwambiri - lanu. Ndipo ngakhale ameneyo ayenera kuyesedwa mosamala; timakonda kukhala otsutsa athu ankhanza.

Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D, wolemba Buku Lantchito Yodzidalira , imalongosola kudzidalira koyenera monga lingaliro lenileni, loyamikirira. Iye akulemba kuti, "Kufunika kwaumunthu kosagwirizana ndi malingaliro kumaganizira kuti aliyense wa ife amabadwa ndi kuthekera konse kofunikira kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino, ngakhale aliyense ali ndi maluso osiyanasiyana, omwe ali m'magulu osiyanasiyana a chitukuko." Akutsindika kuti kufunikira kodziyimira palokha sikudalira zakunja komwe msika umawakonda, monga chuma, maphunziro, thanzi, udindo - kapena momwe amathandizidwira.

Ena amayenda mdziko lapansi - komanso maubale - kufunafuna umboni uliwonse kuti atsimikizire zomwe amakhulupirira. Mofanana ndi oweruza ndi makhothi, nthawi zonse amadziyesa pawokha ndipo nthawi zina amadzitsutsa pa moyo wawo wonse.

Zotsatirazi ndi zinthu zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe mungachite kuti mukulitse kudzidalira kwanu.

1. Muzikumbukira.

Sitingasinthe china chake ngati sitizindikira kuti pali china choti tisinthe. Mwa kungodziwa zazolankhula zathu zoyipa, timayamba kudzipatula kuzomwe zimabweretsa. Izi zimatithandizira kuti tizizindikira pang'ono. Popanda kuzindikira izi, tikhoza kugwera mumsampha wokhulupirira zokambirana zathu, komanso monga aphunzitsi osinkhasinkha Allan Lokos akuti, "Osakhulupirira zonse zomwe mukuganiza. Maganizo ali chabe - malingaliro. ”

Mukangoyamba kumene kudzidzudzula, onetsetsani zomwe zikuchitika, khalani ndi chidwi ndi izi, ndikudzikumbutsa kuti, "Awa ndi malingaliro, osati zowona."

2. Sinthani nkhani.

Tonsefe tili ndi nthano kapena nkhani yomwe tidalenga kuti izipange momwe timadzionera, momwe chithunzi chathu chachikulu chimakhalira. Ngati tikufuna kusintha nkhaniyi, tiyenera kumvetsetsa komwe idachokera komanso komwe tidalandira mauthenga omwe timadziuza tokha. Ndi mawu a ndani omwe tikulowetsa?

Jessica Koblenz, Psy. D. “Malingaliro awa amaphunziridwa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti atha kukhala osaphunzira . Mutha kuyamba ndikuvomereza. Kodi mukulakalaka mutakhulupirira za chiyani? Bwerezani mawuwa kwa inu tsiku lililonse. "

A Thomas Boyce, Ph.D., Amathandizira kugwiritsa ntchito zivomerezo. Kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi Boyce ndi anzawo awonetsa kuti "kuphunzitsa mosadodoma" motsimikiza (mwachitsanzo, kulemba zinthu zambiri zabwino zomwe mungakwanitse za inu munthawi yochepa) kumatha kuchepetsa zipsinjo zakukhumudwa monga kuyerekezera ndi kudzidziwitsa nokha pogwiritsa ntchito Beck Kukhumudwa Kwambiri. Ziwerengero zikuluzikulu zamawu abwino olembedwa zikugwirizana ndikusintha kwakukulu. "Ngakhale ali ndi mbiri yoipa chifukwa cha TV yausiku kwambiri," akutero a Boyce, "kutsimikiza kungathandize."

3. Pewani kugwera mdzenje la kalulu poyerekeza ndi kutaya mtima.

"Zinthu ziwiri zofunika zomwe ndikugogomezera ndikuchita kuvomereza ndikusiya kudzifananitsa ndi ena," akutero Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW, katswiri wama psychology. “Ndikugogomezera kuti chifukwa chakuti winawake amaoneka wosangalala pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kapena ngakhale pamaso pamunthu sizitanthauza kuti ali osangalala. Kudziyerekezera ndi ena kumangoyambitsa miseche, yomwe imabweretsa nkhawa komanso kupsinjika. ” Kudziona ngati wopanda pake kungasokoneze thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe komanso magawo ena m'moyo wanu, monga ntchito, maubale, komanso thanzi.

4. Sakanizani nyenyezi yanu yamkati yamatanthwe.

Albert Einstein adati, "Aliyense ndi waluso. Koma ukaweruza nsomba chifukwa chokhoza kukwera mumtengo, imakhala moyo wake wonse ndikukhulupirira kuti ndiyopusa. ” Tonsefe tili ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka zathu. Wina akhoza kukhala woyimba waluso, koma wophika wowopsa. Palibe mtundu womwe umafotokozera kufunikira kwawo. Zindikirani zomwe mumachita bwino komanso kudzidalira komwe kumabweretsa, makamaka munthawi ya kukaikira. Ndikosavuta kupanga zongopeka muka "sokoneza" kapena "mukalephera" pachinthu china, koma ndikudzikumbutsa momwe mumagwedezera momwe mungadzionere nokha.

Kristie Overstreet, LPCC, CST, CAP, wama psychotherapist komanso wovomerezeka, akuwonetsa kuti mudzifunse kuti, "Kodi panali nthawi ina m'moyo wanu yomwe munadzilimbitsa? Kodi unali kuchita chiyani nthawi imeneyi? ” Ngati ndizovuta kuti muzindikire mphatso zanu zapadera, funsani mnzanu kuti akuuzeni. Nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kuti ena awone zabwino mwa ife kuposa momwe ife tingaziwonere tokha.

Kudzidalira Kofunikira Kuwerenga

Chifukwa Chimodzi Chimene Anthu Amavutikira Kukhala Okonda