Kodi Tili Ndi Chisokonezo Chadziko Lonse?

Popeza ndakhala moyo wanga wonse ndimadwala matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika, ndakhala ndikupenga kwambiri. Ndikutha kukuwuzani zonse zamkati mwa zipinda zamisala zokhoma komanso zopindika, zotsatirapo zoyesera kudzipha, mbali zakunja zakukhazikika. Koma zovutitsa monga momwe zondichitikira pa Dziko Lapansi zakhala zikuchitika, ndikuganiza 2020 iyenera kukhala chaka chodabwitsa kwambiri kuposa zonse zomwe ndidadziwapo.

Si mliri wokha komanso ndale; ndi momwe chowonadi chokha chikuwonekera kuti chatenga mawonekedwe osintha mawonekedwe. Kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi matenda amisala ngati ine, amene amafunikiradi kuda nkhawa kuti angataye mwayi ndi zomwe zili zenizeni ndi zomwe sizili, izi ndizosokoneza modabwitsa. Koma ziyenera kukhumudwitsa kwambiri anthu omwe sanazolowere matenda amisala, omwe amayembekeza kudzuka m'mawa ndipo lero ali ofanana ndi dzulo.

Ndikuwona kuti ndikofunikira kunena china chifukwa ndili ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zomwe ndikuwona zikuchitika kwa anthu pompano, komanso kwa ine ndekha. Tikupangitsa zomwe zili zoyipa kwambiri kuposa kale.

Ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi mbiri yoti ndimaliza izi. Sindimangodziwa ndekha matenda amisala; Ndalemba mabuku atatu okhudza izi. Monga loya wazamisala komanso loya, ndimayankhula zamtunduwu kudziko lonse komanso padziko lonse lapansi. Pakadali pano, ndikutha kuzindikira mosavuta zizindikilo za mavuto mwa ena-ndipo mwa lingaliro langa, sikuti tili pangozi yokha yotaya malire; Tili pachiwopsezo chotaya kulingalira kwathu.

Zomwe ndikuchitira umboni ndikufalikira kwakusokonekera kwazindikiritso: njira zosaganizira, zopanda nzeru zakuganiza za ife eni ndi dziko lotizungulira, zomwe nthawi zonse zimabweretsa mantha, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, komanso mikangano pakati pa anthu. Ingoikani google mawu oti "zopotoka zamalingaliro," ndipo mupeza mndandanda wa khumi ofala kwambiri, omwe akuwoneka ngati achiwiri kwa ambiri a ife masiku ano. Mwachitsanzo:

• Maganizo akuda ndi oyera, pomwe nkhani iliyonse ndi munthu aliyense ali wolondola kapena wolakwika, wabwino kapena woyipa
• Kuwononga, komwe tsogolo ladzakhala kosatha
• Kuwerenga malingaliro, pomwe timaganiza kuti tikudziwa kale zomwe ena akuganiza, popanda kufunsa
• Kudalirana, kumene Chilichonse ndi zoopsa, ndipo palibe ndizomveka

Zikumveka bwino? Mwamwayi, pali zambiri zomwe tingachite za izi. Zolakwitsa zazidziwitso ndi chigawo cha chidziwitso-machitidwe othandizira ("CBT"), omwe maphunziro ambiri amazindikira kuti ndi njira yothandiza kwambiri yolankhulira masiku ano. Ngakhale kuli koyenera kukhala ndi katswiri wowongolera panthawiyi, pali zambiri zomwe tingachite patokha kuti tithane ndi malingaliro olakwika.

Kungodziwa kuti malingaliro anu atha kusokonekera ndi chiyambi chachikulu. M'malo mwake, njira yayikulu ya CBT ndikuzindikira kupotoza ndikutsutsa lingalirolo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuzindikira kuti mukuganiza zakuda ndi zoyera, dzipangeni nokha ndi mawu mumthunzi wa imvi. Kapena ngati mukuwononga, dzikakamizeni kulingalira zotsutsana zotsutsana zomwe mukutsutsana nazo.

Osangoganiza kuti zomwe mukumva ziyenera kukhala zowona: Fufuzani umboni wotsimikiza. Ndizovuta poyamba, koma zimakhala zosavuta kuchita. Ndipo ndikofunikira ngati tikufuna kuyambiranso kuganiza-monga dziko, komanso monga aliyense payekhapayekha.

Ndiye dzichepetseni pang'ono. Palibe amene amasankha kuganiza moperewera. Kuzindikira kwamalingaliro kumachitika poyankha kupsinjika; Ndi njira yolakwika yolimbana ndi zovuta, ndipo Ambuye akudziwa, tidakumana ndi zovuta chaka chino. Koma ndiopanda phindu, amatisiya tikumva chisoni, ndikuwunika phindu, samayesayesa khama kapena malo omwe akukhala mitu yathu komanso zokambirana zathu zadziko.

Tiyenera kuphunzitsidwanso momwe tingaganizire. Ndi zophweka choncho. Sitingathe kusintha zomwe takumanapo nazo mu 2020. Koma titha kusintha momwe timawawonera mu 2021.