Kodi Mungataye Mokwanira Chipembedzo Chanu?

Ndimakonda kuseka kuti ndinasiya chipembedzo chifukwa cha Lent chaka chimodzi ndipo sindinabwererenso. Koma kunena zowona, kudzipatula kwanga ku Tchalitchi cha Katolika kudali kochitika pang'onopang'ono.

Ndili mwana, ndinkakhulupirira chilichonse chimene ansembe ndi masisitere ankandiphunzitsa kusukulu yophunzitsa maphunziro apamwamba. Kusukulu yasekondale, komabe, kusamvana komveka kwa chikhulupiriro cha Katolika komanso kusasintha kwamakhalidwe a Akatolika kunayamba kundivuta. Pofika zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, ndidatsimikiza kuti kulibe mulungu, komabe ndidakhalabe wokangalika mu Tchalitchi, ngakhale ndimangotenga gawo.

Nditapita ku koleji ndipo ndinali wopanda banja langa lachikatolika ndi abwenzi, ndidayamba njira ngati "Roamin 'Katolika," ndipo sindinabwererenso. Koma Akatolika ali ndi mwambi wakuti: "Ngati tingakhale ndi mwana mpaka zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, tili naye kwamuyaya." Anali ndi zikhadabo zawo mwa ine kawiri nthawi imeneyo, ndipo ndidakali ndi zipsera pambuyo pazaka makumi anayi ndi theka ngati wokonda kulingalira kuti kulibe Mulungu.

Ndiye, kodi mungathenso kusiya chipembedzo chomwe mudakulira? Kapena kodi malingaliro anu ndi zizolowezi zanu zidzawonongedwa kwamuyaya ndi kuphunzitsidwa kumeneku kwaubwana? Ili ndi funso lomwe katswiri wazamaganizidwe a Hope College a Daryl Van Tongeren ndi anzawo adafufuza pa kafukufuku yemwe wangofalitsidwa kumene mu Makhalidwe ndi Psychology ya Anthu .

Van Tongeren ndi anzawo akuyamba ndikuwona izi, kutsimikiziridwa ndi kafukufuku wakale, kuti anthu achipembedzo komanso osapembedza amakonda kuganizira zamakhalidwe mosiyanasiyana. Makamaka, anthu achipembedzo nthawi zambiri amalingalira za nkhani zamakhalidwe abwino ngati china chake chalakwika, sichabwino nthawi zonse. Mwanjira ina, amaganiza zamakhalidwe monga mndandanda wa-to-thou's-not -'s's.

Mosiyana ndi izi, anthu omwe siopembedza nthawi zambiri amatha kuganizira zamakhalidwe mofananamo. Ndiye kuti, amawona chinthu china ngati chabwino kapena cholakwika kutengera momwe zinthu zilili. Nthawi zambiri, amafunsa ngati wina wavulazidwa ndi zomwe adachitazo, ndipo ngati ndi choncho, ngati pali zowopsa kapena zopindulitsa.

Komabe, monga ofufuza akunenera, mawu oti "osakhala achipembedzo" amaphatikiza mitundu iwiri ya anthu. Choyamba, pali ena onga ine omwe adasiya chipembedzo chawo paunyamata kapena pokula msinkhu. Ndipo chachiwiri, pali omwe ali ngati ana anga, omwe anakulira opanda chipembedzo konse.

Mwachidziwikire, padzakhala "zotsalira zachipembedzo" m'malingaliro amkhalidwe a iwo omwe adasiya chipembedzo chawo ali ana. Zotsatira zotsalira zachipembedzozi ndizomwe Van Tongeren ndi anzawo adayesa pamndandanda wamaphunziro atatu.

Pa kafukufuku aliyensewa, ofufuzawo adalemba anthu angapo omwe pakadali pano anali achipembedzo, kale anali achipembedzo, kapena osapembedza. Ophunzirawo adawerenga zingapo zamakhalidwe ndikuwonetsa momwe amathandizira aliyense.

Monga momwe zimayembekezeredwa, zotsatira zake zidawonetsa "masitepe" momwe opembedza pakadali pano amapendekera mwamakhalidwe osapembedza, pomwe omwe kale anali achipembedzo adayimirira pakati pa awiriwa. Zitsanzo zamphamvu izi pamaphunziro atatu zimapereka chitsimikizo champhamvu pazotsalira zachipembedzo. Mwanjira ina, chifukwa choti mwataya chipembedzo chanu, sizitanthauza kuti mwasiya konse malingaliro anu akale pankhani zamakhalidwe.

Koma kodi zotsalira zachipembedzo izi zimachokera kuti? Van Tongeren ndi anzawo akuganiza zopezeka m'magulu awiri, omwe adayesa kafukufuku wachiwiri ndi wachitatu.

Gwero lina la zotsalira zachipembedzo likhoza kukhala kuchokera pakupitilizabe kucheza ndi anthu achipembedzo. Anthu akasiya chipembedzo chawo, nthawi zambiri amakhala m'malo ochezera anzawo komanso abale awo omwe akupitilizabe kukhulupirira. Kuyanjana kopitilira uku kungalimbikitse kulingalira komwe novice omwe siali okhulupirira akuyesera kuti adzipatule okha.

Mphamvu zakuchezera ochezera pa intaneti zinayesedwa mu kafukufuku wachiwiri. Monga kunanenedweratu, ofufuzawo adapeza kuti osakhulupirira omwe adalumikizana kwambiri ndi mabanja achipembedzo komanso anzawo akuwonetsa malingaliro osatsutsika kuposa omwe anali ndi zibwenzi zochepa.

Gwero lina la zotsalira zachipembedzo likhoza kubwera chifukwa cha zizolowezi zozikika mozama. Ubwana woyambirira ndi nthawi yophunzirira momwe timaphunzirira chilankhulo ndi chikhalidwe chathu, ndipo umunthu wathu ndi malingaliro athu amapangidwanso panthawiyi. Ngakhale titakana mwadala ziphunzitso za ubwana wathu, timakopedwabe ndi malingaliro omwe sitimadziwa kwenikweni.

Kafukufuku wachitatu adayesa kukopa kwamomwe anthu amaganizira. Monga zikuyembekezeredwa, iwo omwe atangosiya kumene chikhulupiriro chawo adawonetsa kulingalira kwamakhalidwe kofanana ndi kwa anthu achipembedzo. Komabe, nthawi yomwe idadutsa kuyambira pomwe anthu adasiya chipembedzo chawo, malingaliro awo amakhalidwe adayamba kukhala odalira.

Mwachidule, mphamvu zonse pagulu komanso malingaliro azikhalidwe zimathandizira pakupanga zotsalira zachipembedzo. Kupatula apo, kulumikizana pakati pa zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo ndi malingaliro azikhalidwe mwina sikuwonekeratu kwa omwe kale anali opembedza. Komabe, akamacheza ndi ena omwe siali okhulupirira ndikuwerenga pazokambirana zakuti kulibe Mulungu, amakumananso ndi malingaliro amalingaliro amalingaliro. Mwanjira ina, okhulupilira akale nthawi zambiri amapezeka pakati pa okhulupirira anzawo ndi malo awo ochezera osakhulupirira, ndipo zimatenga nthawi kuti malingaliro atsopano akhazikike.

Pomaliza, pali chowonadi china mwambi wachikatolika kuti ngati ali ndi inu mpaka zisanu ndi ziwiri akhala nanu moyo wonse. Ngakhale kungakhale kosavuta kukana malingaliro azipembedzo zachipembedzo chanu, ndizovuta kwambiri kuthana ndi malingaliro azizolowezi, ndipo ambiri omwe siali okhulupirira zimawavuta kuti adzichotsere ku zoyanjana ndi anzawo achipembedzo komanso abale. Mphamvu yakuphunzitsidwa kwachipembedzo paubwana zitha kutenga zaka zambiri kuti zisinthe.