Chithandizo Chokhala Ndi Makasitomala

Mu blog yapitayi ndidakambirana momwe chithandizo chosalamulira sichikutanthauza chitsogozo koma kuti chithandizocho chimachokera kwa kasitomala osati wothandizirayo. Koma lingaliro la chithandizo chopanda chitsogozo likupitilizabe kumvedwa.

Nthawi zambiri chithandizo chosalamulira chimaganiziridwa ngati chosasamala, chosakhazikika, komanso chongokhala. Sindikugwirizana nazo, makamaka ndi lingaliro loti ndi njira yothandizirayi, chifukwa kwa ine imatanthawuza kutsatira mosamalitsa malangizo a kasitomala, mosamala, mosamala komanso mozama.

Othandizira osayang'anira amayesetsa kutsatira momwe kasitomala akuyendera komanso kuwongolera, kubweretsa zomwe angathe panjira yothandizira zosowa za kasitomala. Imeneyi ndi njira yogwirira ntchito, osati kungomvetsera mwachidwi, momvera, moganizira, komanso ndi chidwi chenicheni, komanso kudzipereka nokha ngati wothandizira m'njira iliyonse yomwe mukuganiza kuti kasitomala angapindule nayo. Izi zitha kuphatikizira kugwiritsa ntchito mayeso a psychometric, masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena chilichonse, koma nthawi zonse kuchita izi m'njira yolemekeza ufulu wa kasitomala wodziyimira pawokha.

Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe zimamvekera chifukwa kuti mulemekeze ufulu wa wina kudzisankhira muyenera kuchita izi chifukwa chazomwe mukuyenera kuchita, osati chifukwa zimakwaniritsa cholinga china. Ngati ndilemekeza ufulu wanu wodziyimira panokha chifukwa cholinga changa ndikupangitsani kuti muchite china chosiyana ndi zomwe mukuchita, ndiye potanthauzira sindikulemekeza ufulu wanu wodziyimira panokha. M'malo mwake, ndikuyesera kukusandulizani m'njira yomwe ndikuganiza kuti muyenera. Mwanjira ina ndikungonamizira kwa inu ndekha kuti ndimalemekeza ufulu wanu wodziyimira panokha.

Cholinga cha wothandizira omwe sali wowongolera ndikulemekezadi kudzidalira kwa kasitomala, ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndipamene anthu amadzipeza okha ngati odziwongolera okha adzadzipangira zisankho zabwino zomwe angathe, ndipo chifukwa chake kasitomala idzasunthira kumapeto kuti igwire bwino ntchito. Monga Brodley (2005) adalemba:

“Malangizo osakhala olamulidwa ndi ozama m'maganizo; si njira. Kumayambiriro kwa chitukuko cha othandizira zitha kukhala zachiphamaso komanso zongopeka - 'Usachite izi' kapena 'Usachite izo'. Koma pakapita nthawi, kudziyesa nokha ndi chidziwitso cha mankhwala, chimakhala gawo la mawonekedwe a wothandizirayo. Zimayimira ulemu wapaderadera pazomwe zingapangitse anthu kukhala omvetsetsa ndikumvetsetsa za kusatetezeka kwawo ”. (tsamba 3).

Komabe, ndimamvetsetsa bwino kuti kusakhala owongolera ndizosokoneza chifukwa ngakhale kutiuza zomwe sitiyenera kuchita sizimatiuza choti tichite. Njira yothandiza kulingalira lingaliro la kusayendetsa ndikuwona ngati mbali imodzi yokha ya ndalama. Mbali ina ya ndalamayi ndi malangizo a kasitomala. Wothandizira samakhala wowongolera chifukwa akutsatira malangizo a kasitomala. Ichi ndichifukwa chake, monga ndidanenera mu blog ina, a Carl Rogers adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti chithandizo chothandizidwa ndi kasitomala m'malo momwe zidatengera lingaliro la kupita ndi malangizo a kasitomala. Monga Grant adalemba:

“Othandizira okhudzana ndi makasitomala samangoganiza za zomwe anthu amafunikira kapena momwe angakhalire omasuka. Samayesetsa kulimbikitsa kudzilandira, kudziwongolera, kukula bwino, kudzipangira okha, mgwirizano pakati pa enieni kapena kuzindikira, masomphenya enieni, kapena chilichonse .... ufulu wodziyimira pawokha kwa ena ”(Grant, 2004, p. 158).

Zolemba

[Adasankhidwa] Brodley, B. T. (2005). Makhalidwe okhudzana ndi makasitomala amachepetsa kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe zapezedwa pakufufuza - vuto lokambirana. Mu S. Joseph & R. Worsley (Mkonzi.), Matenda a psychopathology okhudzana ndi umunthu: Psychology yabwino yathanzi (tsamba 310-316). Ross-on-Wye: Mabuku a PCCS.

Grant, B. (2004). Chofunikira pakulungamitsidwa kwamakhalidwe mu psychotherapy: Mlandu wapadera wa psychotherapy wokhudzana ndi kasitomala. Zaumoyo Wanu Zomwe Zimakhala Zazokha komanso Zazotheka, 3 , 152-165.

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