Kodi Mumakhulupirira Kwambiri Kapena Mochepera?

Zamkati

• Kuwona Kukhulupirika
• Kulankhulana Moona Mtima
• Malire
• Kudalirika
• Kulosera zam'tsogolo
• Kuphunzira Kukhulupirira

Ngati mwaperekedwa kapena kusakhulupirika kwanu, mukuganiza kuti chidaliro chanu chidasungidwa mwa munthu wosadalirika? Anthu ambiri samangokhulupirira chilichonse. Amatenga zoyipa kwambiri ndipo samakhulupirirana, kapenanso amangodalirana ndipo amatengeredwa mosavuta. Anthu omwe ali mgulu loyambalo amamanga makoma ndikusunga ena patali. Gulu lachiwiri monyadira limanena kuti limakhulupirira wina mpaka litakhala ndi chifukwa chosayenera. Ndiye amadabwa akamadalira munthu wosadalirika.

Masiku ano oyendetsa mafoni, nthawi zambiri, tikakumana ndi munthu koyamba, sitikudziwa chilichonse chokhudza kukhulupirika kwawo kapena zomwe adachita m'mbuyomu, kupatula zomwe amatiuza. Kudalirika kumatsimikizirika pakapita nthawi ndi zochita, osati m'mawu okha. Mutha kupwetekedwa mukamakhulupirira zomwe anthu anena ndikunyalanyaza machitidwe awo Kuti akhale wodalirika, munthu ayenera "kuyankhula zawo" - mawu ndi zochita ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana. Muyeneranso kukhala ndi chidaliro pakumvetsetsa kwanu, luso lovuta kwa ena odalirana omwe amadalira pang'ono kapena kwambiri. Kukhala wokhoza kudalira zenizeni ndi njira yophunzirira.

Mukakulira m'banja losavomerezeka pomwe makolo anu amabisa zinsinsi kapena kuwononga malingaliro anu, mudaphunzira kudzikayikira. Mutha kukhala osakhulupilira kapena / kapena otsutsana, kutengeka ndi zomwe ena anena ndikusiya kulumikizidwa kwanu. Mwanjira iliyonse, simungathe kuwunika mozama anthu ena.

Kuwona Kukhulupirika

Otsatirawa ndi makhalidwe omwe muyenera kuyang'ana mukamadziwana ndi munthu ndikuwona kukhulupirika kwake. Ndi chimodzimodzi ndizinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kudalirana ndi chitetezo m'mabanja.

Kulankhulana Moona Mtima

Kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima ndiye maziko a ubale wabwino ndikulimbikitsa kukhulupirirana. Ili ndi vuto pamaubwenzi odalirana, chifukwa abwenzi amavutika kudziwa komanso kufotokoza momasuka komanso moona mtima momwe akumvera. Kulankhulana nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosalunjika, kwachangu, komanso koteteza. Mukatsekedwa, zimabweretsa kukayikira komanso kusamvana ndi mnzanu.

Kulankhulana moona mtima kumafunikira kuti mukhale otsimikiza pazomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna komanso kuti mufotokozere momasuka zomwe mukumva, kuphatikiza zomwe simukufuna mukamayembekezera kuti mnzanu awerenge malingaliro anu ndikukhala ndi ziyembekezo zosaneneka, zimabweretsa mkwiyo ndi mikangano komanso kumachepetsa kukhulupirirana. Mofananamo, mukabisa malingaliro olakwika, amatuluka mwamakhalidwe, monga kuzengereza, kuiwala, kusakhulupirika, kapena kusiya. Zolankhula komanso zochita zanu sizikugwirizana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu asamakukhulupirirani.

Zachidziwikire, kunama, kuswa malonjezo, kusunga zinsinsi, ndikukana zomwe wanena msanga kumapangitsa kuti tisamakhulupirire. Sikoyenera kutaya kukhulupiriridwa kwanu ngakhale mutanama pang'ono kapena mwachinsinsi. Ngakhale kubisa chowonadi, kumatha kuvulaza kukhulupirirana ndipo kumakhala kovuta kukonzanso. Zingapangitse mnzanu kukayikira zinthu zina zazikuluzikulu zomwe mumanena moona mtima.

Malire

Malire ndi malire. Ndizofunikira chifukwa zimapanga chitetezo. Kuti mudziwane bwino ndi munthu wina, ndikofunikira kukambirana moona mtima za malire ndi zachinsinsi zomwe mumakhala nazo. Mutha kufuna malire okhudzana ndi katundu wanu, malo, maimelo, ndi zokambirana, zomwe, zikaphwanyidwa zingakupangitseni kuti musakhulupirire mnzanu. Mutha kumverera kuti mwatayika ngati zokambirana zachinsinsi ndi mnzanu zibwereza kwa mnzake, kapena ngati alankhula ndi m'modzi mwa abwenzi kapena abale anu za inu.

Zaka zapitazo nditakhala loya, ndimamva kuti malire anga aphwanyidwa tsiku lomwe limatumiza maluwa kuofesi yanga popanda chifukwa, chomwe ngakhale chinali chabwino, chimandichititsa manyazi kuntchito. Ndinkafuna malire pakati pa ntchito yanga ndi moyo wanga wachinsinsi. Zinandipangitsa kukayikira malingaliro ndi nzeru za mwamunayo. Maganizo anga anali owonekera ndipo adawonetsa kusowa chidwi komanso malire m'malo ena. Khulupirirani chibadwa chanu. Mukauza munthu wina malire anu koma osawanyalanyaza, izi zimabweretsa kuphwanya kwachiwiri-kopanda ulemu. Muyenera kufotokoza zifukwa za malire anu ndi munthu amene ali ndi malingaliro osiyana.

Malire ofunikira ndi omwe ali pafupi ndi thupi lanu komanso kugonana. Mumakhala omasuka bwanji ndikamakhala pachibwenzi, liti komanso kuti? Kodi simukhala otakataka, okonda zachiwerewere, kapena odzipereka? Malire akuthupi ndi ogonana ndiofunikira kuti mulole ndikuteteza chibale chomwe chili pachibwenzi chanu. Nsanje ndi kusakhulupirika kapena ngakhale lingaliro la kusakhulupirika kungathe kuwononga ubale. Inu ndi bwenzi lanu mutha kukhala ndi mfundo zosiyana pa zomwe zili zovomerezeka. Kambiranani moona mtima za zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale otetezeka komanso achikondi. Osangokhala kapena kungokhulupirira za izi — zikhale zenizeni!

Kudalirika

Zinthu zosavuta, monga kuchita zomwe munena kuti muchita, kubweza katundu wobwerekedwa, kukhala munthawi yake, ndi kusunga madeti, pangani chidaliro. Izi zonse ndi zitsanzo za "kuyenda mukulankhula." Kuswa malonjezo, ngakhale ang'onoang'ono, kumabweretsa zokhumudwitsa. Zimatumizanso uthenga kuti malingaliro ndi zosowa za mnzakeyo zilibe kanthu. Zikachitika nthawi yokwanira, mnzanu amataya chidaliro ndikupanga mkwiyo womwe umasokoneza ubalewo.

Kulosera zam'tsogolo

Mukamudziwa winawake, mumapanga malingaliro m'maganizo mwanu kuti ndi ndani ndipo zimakupatsani chisangalalo komanso chitetezo. Ngati ayamba kuchita zinthu zosayembekezereka kapena m'njira yosemphana ndi zomwe zakhala zachizolowezi, zimayambitsa kukayikira ndikukayikira zaumoyo wamunthu, kukhulupirika, kapena momwe amathandizira pazachuma. Ngati mukusintha zina, monga kusintha ntchito kapena kusamva zakugonana, ndibwino kuti muzilankhulana momasuka, moona mtima za mafunso musanabuke.

Kuphunzira Kukhulupirira

Kuphunzira kudalira sizokhudza munthu winayo koma kuphunzira kudalira malingaliro anu ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi kukayika kwanu ndi chidwi chanu. Mukakhala ndi munthu wina, sungani chidwi chanu kuti muwone zomwe mumamva pamaso pawo. Mkwiyo, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, ndi kupwetekedwa ndi malingaliro omwe atha kukhala chizindikiro kuti malire anu awoloka ndi mawu achipongwe kapena mawu achipongwe. Khalani ndi inu nokha ndikuwona kusiyana ndi kutali ndi munthu winayo.

© Darlene Lancer 2012.