Osakhala Dick

Dziko lapansi ladzaza ndi ma jerks. Dick ndi mtundu wapadera wosasamala-amakhumudwitsa dziko lapansi osazindikira pang'ono kuti akuchita izi, ndikukana kuti ali ndi gawo maubwenzi akalakwika. Chowonadi chomvetsa chisoni ndikuti, aliyense akhoza kukhala Dick nthawi zina.

Kodi wina amadziwa bwanji kuti iye ndiwosokonekera?

Mwa anthu ambiri omwe ndidawauza za bukuli mpaka pano, ambiri anena ngati:

"Oo, ndizabwino! Ndikutsimikiza kuti ndigula makope ambiri!"

"Chani?" Ndimayankha, "Bwanji gulu lonse?"

"Chifukwa," akuyankha yemwe angakhale kasitomala wabwino, "Ndikupeza aliyense wa ________ wanga" (nthawi zambiri yankho limakhala "banja" kapena "ofesi").

Kuwona machitidwe a dick mwa ena - monga wakale "mumawona kuti mwamva" - ndichida chabwino kwambiri choyezera nthawi yomwe mumakhala dick. Kukhala Dick kumagwira ntchito ngati chitetezo kuti musazindikire, kuvomereza, ndikukhala ndi gawo lanu pakulimbitsa ubale womwe umatsutsana kwambiri ndi dziko lapansi.

Dziko lidzagwira ntchito molimbika kukuthandizani kudziwa mukakhala Dick; kumva ndi nkhani ina. Kuti tidziwe ngati wina ndi wosokonekera ayenera kuti mwanjira inayake amatulutsa kapena kumasula zodzitchinjiriza (nthawi zambiri timachita zomwe ndimazitcha "zovuta") kuti titha kudziwona tili pachibwenzi chotsutsana ndi dziko lapansi.

Chifukwa chake njira yabwino yodziwira kuti bukuli ndi lanu ndikuti mumaganiza kuti mudaligulira wina.

Kodi zizindikiro zotani?

Wosemphana ndimomwe amadziwika kuti ndiwodzikonda, wokonda kudzikonda yemwe amaganiza ndikuchita ngati kuti wina aliyense padziko lapansi angamvetsedwe-ndipo kufunikira kwake kumangotanthauziridwa-kutengera ubale wawo ndi iyemwini. Koma izi sizifika m'njira zomwe machitidwe a dick, ngakhale akuwonekera komanso akumva kuwawa, kwenikweni akuchita ngati chitetezo cham'maganizo chomwe chimalepheretsa kuzindikira za malingaliro osatetezeka monga kusatetezeka, mantha komanso kupweteka.

Pali mawu abwino ochokera ku Alcoholics Anonymous omwe akuti, "Timaponda zala za anzathu ndipo amabwezera. Nthawi zina amatipweteka, akuwoneka osakwiya, koma nthawi zonse timapeza kuti ... tapanga zisankho kutengera tokha zomwe pambuyo pake adatiyika kuti tivulazidwe. " Awa ndi malingaliro akuti "Si ine ayi ndiwe" ndiye chomwe chimayambitsa - komanso chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti ndi opambana - ndi malingaliro omwe amachititsa kuti munthuyo asawone kuti zomwe akukumana nazo ngati zosokoneza popanda zifukwa kwenikweni zotsutsana.

Kodi ma dick ndi osiyana ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamaluwa? Ndipo ngati ndi choncho, bwanji?

Wina atalembedwa, kudziwika, kapena kusankhidwa chifukwa chamakhalidwe onyansa padziko lapansi (ndiye kuti, anthu ena onse), zilibe kanthu kuti mumawatcha kuti ndani. Mutha kudzitcha nokha chilichonse chomwe mungafune (kuyambira "bleep" kupita ku motherf * ker). Si mawu omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, koma momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito - zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chamakhalidwe anu - zomwe zimauza dziko lapansi kuti: Uyu ndi Dick.

Ngati muli ndimakhalidwe anu osiyanasiyana, njira yodzilankhulira yokhayo yomwe ili yovulaza komanso yonyansa kwa anthu ena, ndiye kuti mwina mungayenerere zomwe ndikunena kuti "Dick" ngakhale mutagwiritsa ntchito liwu lotani kuti muchepetse kuwomba. Chifukwa chake, ma dick ndi ma jerks ndi ma motherf * amatha kukhala cholengedwa chomwecho malingana ndi momwe amadzilankhulira okha, ena komanso dziko lapansi.

Kodi machitidwe oyipa amayamba bwanji ndikukhala gawo la repertoire yamunthu?

Ndi mkwiyo wolungama womwe umakhazikika ndikuwonjezera mavuto. Khalidwe lachiwerewere ndi kusintha komwe kumagwira ntchito poyambirira ngati njira yothanirana ndikuchepetsa kuzindikira kwa munthu kukhala m'malo omwe akumva ngati malo ankhanza. Kuchokera pamalo ano, dick yemwe akuyambiranso amabwera "kudalira" kuti iye kapena iye angadalire kuti ena awapweteketsa, kuwapezerera ndi kuwakhumudwitsa. Chikhulupilirochi chimagwira ntchito kuti chikhale chodzikhutiritsa pomwe Dick amakhulupirira kuti akhoza kudalira - chifukwa chake safuna aliyense. Kwa dick, malingaliro osalungama osaneneka amalingalira zonyansa / zodzitchinjiriza zomwe zimamulekanitsa- ndi dziko lomwe limadzimva-nthawi zambiri kuyambira koyambirira kwa moyo wake-kukhala wopanda chitetezo.

Kodi machitidwe achiwerewere amateteza bwanji?

Dick amagwiritsira ntchito machitidwe awo ngati chitetezo cham'maganizo kuti asadzimve osatetezeka. Izi zimachitika ngati mkhalidwe wamavuto komanso chitetezo chokhazikika, pomwe wina amawona zolimbikitsa komanso zomwe zimayambitsa machitidwe ena mwa ena (ziyerekezo). Dick amakhala mumkhalidwe wokana womwe umalimbikitsidwa ndikufunika kupewa gawo lake pachilichonse chomwe chimasokonekera muubwenzi. Ndikupempha owerenga kuti awone mchitidwewu womwe umayamba ngati njira yodzipulumutsira yomwe ingatiteteze kuti tisadere nkhawa (zamunthu).

Chifukwa chiyani mukukhulupirira kuti tikukumana ndi mliri wamakhalidwe oyipa?

Ndikukwiya kwambiri, magawano ambiri mgulu lathu (kusankhana, kunyalanyaza, chinyengo, kuponderezana), ma dick amatumikiridwa ngati zomwe timakonda komanso zomwe sitingathe kuvomereza za ife eni. Kudzera m'makhalidwe awo amatha kuwoneka ngati amene ali ndi udindo pazonse zomwe sizili bwino muubwenzi, banja, dera kapena gulu. Dick amalola aliyense kuchoka pachiwopsezo cha gawo lawo lamanja / ubale pongokhala dick. Komabe, ma dick omwe ali ndi ufulu kwambiri sagwirizana ndi kuwunikaku, samakana kuyankha mulimonse momwe zingakhalire zolakwika, ndipo, m'malo mwake, amati ndi amene amachititsa zonse - zonse zomwe zikuyenda bwino!

Ndipo chosiyana ndi machitidwe achiwerewere ndi ...?

Kuvomereza tokha, ena komanso dziko lapansi-monga momwe zilili.

Mukunena mosabisa kuti kukhala mukuyang'ana ma dick, osakhala ndi chowunikira choyenera cha dick, ndibwino kuti mukhale maubale. Chonde fotokozani.

Tiyenera kudziwa omwe ma dick ali m'moyo wathu (ofesi, abale ambiri, ndi zina zambiri) ndikusunga mtunda wakuthupi ndi wamaganizidwe. Koma tikamachita ndi "dick wamkati," sitikhala okongola kwa ma dick ena. Dick nthawi zambiri amapezana. Chifukwa chake, kuthana ndi dick wamkati kumatiteteza ku "dick wakunja," chifukwa chake simudzafunika kuyang'anira ndi kuyang'anira machitidwe oyipa a anthu ena.

Kodi mungathe kufotokozera mwachidule zomwe mumazitcha Dick Fix? Kodi ndizofunikira ziti zosiya zovuta?

Dick Fix, mwina ndizodabwitsa, ndikudzivomereza nokha, ena komanso dziko. Ndi kuvomereza kumadza kuyankha mlandu, ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti tidzayankha mlandu pazomwe timapereka kudziko lapansi (ena), komanso kukhala ndi umwini. Pachifukwa ichi ndili ndi malamulo awiri:

1. Ikani chidwi chanu pa inu nokha,

2. Tchulani lamulo # 1.

Ndichoncho. Kuchuluka kwa zodandaulitsa ndizomwe zimayamba chifukwa cha chikhulupiriro chakuti zinthu zikuchitidwa kwa ife — zinthu zomwe zimatipweteka komanso kutipangitsa mantha ndipo sizingatheke. Kulandila, kuyankha, komanso kukhala ndi umwini (kumbali yathu) pamapeto pake kumatilola kukhala mwamtendere ndi ife eni komanso ndi ena.

Kodi pali yankho labwino pakudandaula kwa munthu wina?

Ikani kaye pang'ono, ndipo musachite nawo. Awa ndi Satyagraha: Ziwonetsero zosachita zachiwawa. Ndikudzipereka kwathunthu kuti tisavulaze aliyense, kuphatikiza tokha-osadziyika tokha munjira yovulaza, osalola ena kutizunza.

Kodi mukuwona uthenga wofunikira kwambiri womwe mukufuna kuti owerenga atenge kuchokera kwa Musakhale Dick?

Kuleka kugwiritsa ntchito dickery kotetezera kumakhazikitsa njira yosiyana kwambiri yolumikizirana ndi ife eni, ena, komanso dziko lapansi. Ndi njira yomwe kusintha kwathu kungasinthire dziko.

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Osakhala Dick