Njira Zisanu Zothanirana ndi Wofunafuna-chidwi

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• Tcheru Kuwerenga Kofunika
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Kusakhala ndi chidwi chokwanira kumavulaza; kusungulumwa ndi wakupha womvetsa chisoni komanso wosalankhula (onani "Malangizo 10 Omwe Atha Kukuthandizani Kutha Kusungulumwa"). Kumbali inayi, kuyang'aniridwa kosalekeza kumatha kubweretsa zovuta zazikulu kwa munthu wovuta komanso pagulu. Munthu wovuta akhoza kuyamba kudalira chidwi chakunja ndikukhala wosadzidalira komanso wosakhazikika. Nthawi zambiri, izi zimayambitsa nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso kukwiya kufuna chidwi chochulukirapo.

Ambiri omwe amafunafuna chidwi nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa ndipo amakhala kuti "akukonzekera" kuti amve kufanana kwa mtendere wamkati. Ngakhale atha kuwoneka wolimba, pali zovuta zambiri "pakufuna zina." Chimwemwe chenicheni ndi kusapezeka kwa kufuna zambiri komanso kutseguka kudziko lapansi pamene zikuwonekera.

Pakadali pano, chilengedwe cha ofuna chidwi chimakhala chodzaza ndi zofuna; aliyense amatopa ndikudzudzulidwa. Pomwe sewero likuyamba, aliyense amakhala wosasangalala.

Omwe amafuna chidwi kwambiri amakhala ndi machitidwe a Histrionic Personality Disorder ndipo amawotcha banja, abwenzi, aphunzitsi, othandizira, kapena gulu lonse.

Liwu loti "histrionic" limatanthauza zisudzo ndipo lachokera ku liwu Lachilatini histriōnicus - "la ochita zisudzo." (Izi ndizosiyana ndi kukhala wopitilira muyeso, wosalamulirika, wodziwika kuti wopenga. "Hystera" ndi liwu lachi Greek ndipo limatanthauza "chiberekero." Amakhulupirira kuti ndi akazi okha omwe angadwale nawo, malingaliro olakwika omwe onse awiri adachita akatswiri komanso pafupifupi aliyense amene wamvetsera zomwe zikuchitika pa TV.)

Malinga ndi DSM-V ¹ , Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la histrionic ali ndi zaka zosachepera 18 ndipo ali ndi vuto lakukonda kwambiri ndipo khalidwe lofunafuna chidwi. Ali ndi zizindikiro zosachepera zisanu:

1. Sakhala womasuka pazinthu zomwe sakhala chidwi chawo.
2. Kuyanjana ndi ena nthawi zambiri kumadziwika ndi kukopa kosayenera kapena mchitidwe wogonana.
3. Kuwonetsa kusunthika kwachangu komanso mawonekedwe osazama.
4. Amagwiritsa ntchito mawonekedwe mofananira kuti adziwonetsere kudzikonda.
5. Ali ndi kalembedwe kamene kamakhala kosavuta komanso kosasinthika.
6. Amawonetsa sewero lokhalokha, zisudzo, komanso mawu okokomeza.
7. Ndizotheka, mwachitsanzo, kutengeka mosavuta ndi ena kapena zochitika.
8. Amaona maubwenzi kukhala okondana kwambiri kuposa momwe alili.

Tithokoze za zisudzo komanso munthu amene amakhala ngati 'moyo wachisangalalo.' Timaphunzira kuchokera pazowonetsedwa; angatilimbikitse kukhala anthu abwino. Ndipo timakonda kusangalatsidwa, makamaka munthawi zovuta komanso zovuta.

Komabe, tikadzipeza tili pagawo la moyo weniweni ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mbiri yayikulu ndikuyamba kuchita zina zomwe sitinalembetsepo, tikubedwa misala.

Anthu olemba mbiri ali ndi talente yogawa anthu. Mwadzidzidzi, kholo limodzi limakondedwa kuposa linzake, ndikumangoyendetsa ntchito mawa. Nthawi zina milandu yoopsa imapangidwa. Ngati munthu wodziwika bwino atamupeza ali kuchipatala, othandizira amatha kuyamba kumenyana wina ndi mnzake mavuto akayamba.

Gulu lomwe limakopeka ndi munthu wodziwika bwino atha kuyamba kudzimva kuti ndiogawika komanso wosakondedwa, munthu yemwe amakhala ndi mbiri yayikulu amatenga chidwi ngati ngwazi kapena wovulalayo pomwe gululi limagawika pazokondera komanso zopezera anthu ena.

Mwachidule, kusokonekera kwa mbiriyakale kumatha kufalikira, kulemetsa mabanja kwambiri, kuwononga magulu amphamvu, ndikulimbana pakati pa anthu.

Kodi tichite chiyani?

Choyamba, kuvomereza kuti kufunafuna chidwi chochulukirapo sikungakhazikike mosavuta chifukwa palibe zizolowezi zina zomwe zimasinthidwa popanda kuyesetsa ndi kuthandizira.

Chachiwiri, chonde tcherani khutu kwa abale kapena mamembala omwe nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa. Tiyenera kumvera otopa, otopa, achisoni, ndipo mwina omwe takhumudwitsa ena ndikuwathandiza mwachifundo. Anthu ayenera kuzindikira kuti anali ogawanika ndipo achita maudindo m'malo mokhala momwe alili. Ngati ndinu kholo la wina yemwe ali ndi mikhalidwe ya histrionic, onetsetsani kuti mukutsatira kudzisamalira kwambiri komanso kusamalira ana omwe safuna zambiri. Mugulu lirilonse, tiyenera kuphunzira kumverana wina ndi mzake pamene tikupeza kutalika kwa sewero lomwe tidachita mosazindikira.

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