Kukopana Osakopana: Zolakwa Zisanu Ndi zitatu Za Wokonda Kuyambira

Zamkati

• Munkhaniyi, tiwunikiranso zolakwika zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe anthu ochita zoyipa oyamba adachita.
• Kukopana popanda kukopana, ndizotheka?
• Zolakwa 8 zoyeserera zoyambira ndi mayankho 8 okuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi luso lochezera
• 1. Pitani kukakopana
• 2. Pali msungwana wamaloto anga.
• 3. Tulukani muno!
• 4. Ndiwe wachisoni!
• 5. Ichi ndi namiza
• 6. Ndikufuna chakumwa chimodzi
• 7. Kugonana ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri mdziko lapansi
• 8. Ndimadana ndi atsikana, onse ndi ofanana ndipo ndifa ndekha
• Mapeto

Munkhaniyi, tiwunikiranso zolakwika zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe anthu ochita zoyipa oyamba adachita.

Ndi potsiriza Loweruka usiku! Sabata yatha, ndipo takhala tikuyembekezera kumapeto kwa sabata kuti tizipita kukakopana.

Cholakwika!

Kuganizira kwambiri za kukopana sikungatithandize mulimonsemo. Kulimbikitsana kwambiri kungakhudze kuchita bwino kwathu ndipo kudzatipangitsa kupita kunyumba tokha ndikumenyedwa ngati sitikwaniritsa cholinga chathu chokha. Kodi ndinu m'modzi mwa iwo omwe amapita usiku ndi lingaliro lokhalo lofika kwa azimayi onse omwe akudutsani kuti muwone ngati pali kuyabwa kulikonse? Mukugwiritsa ntchito njira yolakwika, yolakwika kwambiri.

Ngati mukumva choncho, yang'anani izi: "Njira 10 zokongola (zatsimikiziridwa mwasayansi)"

Tiyenera kuphunzira kutero kukopana osakopana!

Kukopana popanda kukopana, ndizotheka?

Ndikuganiza kuti mukuganiza: ndi chani "chocheza osakopana"?

Zitha kuwoneka ngati tautology kapena zamkhutu, koma ndi nzeru zomwe zimagwirira ntchito amuna ambiri omwe akufuna kukumana ndi akazi. Mukapitiliza kuwerenga, mumvetsetsa chifukwa chake zinthu zina zimagwira ntchito zokopa atsikana pomwe zina zimatitsogolera.

Zolakwa 8 zoyeserera zoyambira ndi mayankho 8 okuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi luso lochezera

Ngakhale mawu awa angawoneke ngati achilendo, pansipa tidzaulula zolakwika zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe tonsefe timakonda kupanga tikapita kukakumana ndi atsikana, ndi mayankho asanu ndi atatu oti muphunzire kusangalala osati kuyang'ana kukopana.

1. Pitani kukakopana

Monga tafotokozera kumayambiriro, ngati titaya mphamvu zathu zonse ndi nthawi yathu kuchita zibwenzi ndikulankhula ndi atsikana, tidzakhala tikubetcha chilichonse pa khadi limodzi ndipo, ngati tilephera, izi zimakhudza kudzidalira kwathu. Kukopana ndi chinthu chimodzi chomwe titha kuchita pocheza. Chosangalatsa ndichosakayikitsa, koma osati chokhacho kapena chofunikira kwambiri.

Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti ndichabwino kwambiri kupita kokasangalala ndi kucheza ndi mitundu yonse ya anthu posatengera kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi. Kuyamba kucheza ndi anzathu komanso anzathu ndikusangalala nawo kudzatithandiza kuiwala za kukopana komanso kutipumitsa.

2. Pali msungwana wamaloto anga.

Mtsikana ali pabala ndi mnzake, amatikopa ndipo timamva kufunikira koti timumange. Timalingalira za njira yochenjera yomufikira kuti timusangalatse, ndipo tikaganiza zolankhula naye, timamva mantha akutilowerera ndikutifooketsa.

Cholakwika!

Sitiyenera kusangalatsa aliyense. Sitinabwere kudzapanga makombola kapena kuwonetsa china chake chophweka monga kuyankhula ndi wina. Tiyenera kusintha maluso omwe timakhala nawo panthawiyo. Sikutanthauza kukonda aliyense: ndi za kupeza kuti mukudziwa winawake. Chofunika kwambiri. Ngati tikhala ofunikira kwambiri pakuyanjana, mpata kuti tigonjetsedwe ndi mantha olephera komanso kuchita china chake cholakwika.Chopambana kwambiri ndikufikira msungwanayo nthawi yomweyo modzichepetsa ndikuyesa kusangalala naye. Zosavuta Moni nthawi zina zimagwira ntchito bwino kuposa mawu anzeru kwambiri padziko lapansi.

3. Tulukani muno!

Tatha kuyandikira kwa iye; Tili naye patsogolo pathu ndipo timawona kuti ndiwokongola monga amawonekera patali. Timamuyang'ana ndipo timazindikira kuti akutiyang'ana kwambiri ndipo watopa. Kuopa kukanidwa atiukiranso, timatembenuka ndikutuluka mwachangu, iye asanatero lolani kupita a malire kapenanso salankhula nafe ndi kutembenuza nkhope zathu.

Cholakwika!

Tanena kale izi tiyenera kupita kwa mtsikana kuti tisangalale osati kumukopa. Koma ndizotheka kuti, ngakhale tidaganizira izi, timaopabe kumva kuti takanidwa. Atsikana, makamaka mu kalabu yausiku, amazoloŵera ndikukhutitsidwa ndikukhala ma chandamale ndikulandila ndemanga zikwizikwi kuchokera kwa anyamata omwe akufuna kukopana nawo. Ndizabwinobwino kuti sasangalatsidwa kuti "katundu wina" ayandikire.

Pachifukwa ichi tiyenera kumvetsetsa mwamasewera kuti ambiri amatiyang'ana mwankhanza. Tisamaganizire izi ndipo tikupepesa chifukwa chokana kuyamba kwanu. Tikufunabe kusangalala ndipo ngati simulola khomo lotseguka kuti tisangalale, amasowa. Komanso, ngati watichitira mwano, tiyeni timumvere chisoni chifukwa chosowa nzeru; tidzapeza wina wophunzira yemwe ayenera kumuganizira.

4. Ndiwe wachisoni!

Timabwerera, tili ndi anzathu, tili osangalala komanso okhutira chifukwa tatulutsa chimodzi chosasangalatsa. Sizinatikhudze konse ndipo tasangalalanso ndikulephera, koma anzathu amaganiza mosiyana : amatiuza kuti timachita zoseketsa chonchi ndipo timanyazitsa ena; tiyenera kuchita monga iwo osayesa kukhala zomwe sitili. Timaweramitsa mitu yathu ndikuganiza mwakachetechete kuti akulondola: timalumbira kuti sitidzayandikiranso mtsikana kwa nthawi yotsala yausiku.

Cholakwika!

Ngati anzathu adalipira tikiti kuti apitirize kumwa, penyani moyo ukupita patsogolo pa mphuno zawo ndipo zonse zomwe amadziwa kuchita ndikutipatsa timitengo m'manja mwathu, ndiye vuto lawo, osati lathu. Sitiyenera kuchita manyazi ndi chidwi chathu pokumana ndi anthu atsopano ndi kusangalala nawo. Ndipo ngati samamvetsetsa ndikupitiliza kutiseka, mwina tiyenera kuyamba kudandaula kuti anzathu ndi ndani.

5. Ichi ndi namiza

Takhala pamalowo kwa nthawi yoposa ola limodzi, timayang'ana pozungulira ndipo tazindikira kuti sitimakonda nyimbo zomwe omwe amapita nawo kuphwando amasewera.

Cholakwika!

Ndikofunika kuti tisankhe malo omwe timapita bwino chifukwa cholinga chathu chachikulu ndikuti Sangalalani ndikumverera bwino. Ngati sitimakonda nyimbo ndipo timamva kuti palibe chomwe tingafanane ndi wina aliyense, tidzamva ngati "weirdos". Nthawi ina tidzayenera kuganizira bwino komwe tikufuna kupita. Izi zithandizira kuti zinthu zikhale zosavuta. Ngati tili ndi zinthu zomwe timafanana ndi omwe abwera, zidzakhala zosavuta kumva ngati mmodzi wa iwo ndipo, mwina, tidzakhala ndi zinthu zambiri zoti tigawane nawo, chifukwa chake, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti tiyambe kukambirana, mwachitsanzo , za zokonda ndi zosangalatsa.

6. Ndikufuna chakumwa chimodzi

Kuyesera kuteteza tokha ndikuyamba kukhala ochezeka, timagwiritsa ntchito ndalama komanso nthawi kumwa mowa.

Cholakwika!

Kumwa sikungatithandize. Zitha kutipangitsa kuti tizikhala ochezeka kwakanthawi, koma zidzatilamulira tokha ndipo, ngati tikhala nthawi yayitali tikumwa, chinthu chokhacho chomwe tingachite ndikuwonjezera mwayi wathu wokanidwa ngati oledzera. Kumwa ayenera kukhala zochitika pagulu, osati zofunikira. Tisagwiritse ntchito kumwa ngati mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso ngati chodzikhululukira chakulephera kwathu ponena kuti "sindinagwirizane chifukwa ndinali nditaledzera." Tiyeni tiphunzire kuthana ndi mantha popanda kufunika kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kuyang'aniridwa bwino ndi maluso athu kungatithandize kukhala olimba mtima komanso kuthekera kolumikizana ndi ena.

7. Kugonana ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri mdziko lapansi

Kwatsala mphindi zisanu kuti kilabu itseke, takumanapo ndi atsikana angapo koma sizokwanira: tikufuna kupita kunyumba ataperekezedwa chifukwa sitinagonane ndi aliyense kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo, tikumva kuti ngati sitichita, tidzatayika chifukwa cha kugonana Ndizabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi.

Cholakwika!

Kusimidwa ndi chosowa sizosangalatsa konse. Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti kugonana ndichomwe chimalimbikitsanso m'moyo koma palibe amene wamwalira chifukwa chosagonana. Pali zolinga zinayi zoyambirira zomwe zimasuntha munthu: njala, ludzu, kugona ndi kugonana. Ngati sitidya kwa nthawi yayitali timamwalira, ngati sitimwa kwa nthawi yayitali timamwalira, ngati sitigona kwa nthawi yayitali timamwalira ngati sitigonana kwa nthawi yayitali palibe chomwe chimachitika chifukwa palibe amene wamwalira chifukwa chosowa kugonana, ndi mitundu yomwe singafe ngati sitigonana.

Tiyenera kuyamba kuyamikira zinthu zina, kupatula kugonana, zomwe zimatipangitsa kumva bwino; monga kusewera masewera, kusangalala ndi anzathu, kuphunzira, kuphunzira kusewera chida ... Tiyenera kukhazikitsa kudzidalira kwathu pazinthu zomwe zimangotidalira komanso kugonana sizimodzi mwazo. Sitimakhala osangalatsa kapena amuna ochepera chifukwa chogonana sabata iliyonse.

8. Ndimadana ndi atsikana, onse ndi ofanana ndipo ndifa ndekha

Tili panjanji yapansi panthaka, tikupita kunyumba, tili tokha kapena timatsagana ndi anzathu, ndipo tilibe mphamvu zoyimirira. Tikuwona momwe usiku udayendera komanso mphamvu zomaliza zomwe tili nazo timagwiritsa ntchito pomaliza mfundo imodzi: Ndimadana ndi atsikana!

Cholakwika!

Misogyny ndi machismo sizinakopeke kwa munthu amene amadzidalira ndipo zitha kuwononga mayendedwe athu mtsogolo. Kuteteza malingaliro athu mwanjira imeneyi kudzatipangitsa kumva bwino panthawiyi, koma ngakhale titabwereza kangati chikwi, sitidzakhala olondola. Atsikana angaganize za ifenso. Amatha kuganiza kuti palibe anyamata omwe amadziwa momwe angakhalire ndi atsikana komanso kuti tonse timachita zomwezo.

Tiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zathu kuganizira zomwe talakwitsa komanso momwe tingakonzere zolakwa zathu ndikuwongolera momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito mtsogolo. Ndiponso, tiyeni tiganizire za nthawi zabwino ; momwe taseka ndi anzathu, mu nyimbo ija yomwe timakonda kwambiri ndipo tavina ngati kulibe mawa. Tiyeni tikondwere kuti tafikira msungwana ndipo tapambana mantha athu pang'ono. Tiyeni tisangalale kuti nthawi iliyonse yomwe tikufanana ndi munthu amene timafuna kukhala.

Mapeto

Mwachidule, tiyenera kutero phunzirani Pitani kokasangalala osati kukopana. Kukopana osakopana iyenera kukhala mutu wa nkhaniyi. Kuopa zotsatira kudzatipangitsa kukhala ofunika kwambiri kuzinthu zazing'ono komanso zopanda vuto monga kukumana ndi anthu atsopano.

Kuphunzira kukulitsa maluso ochezera ndi njira yocheperako yomwe ingakhale yodzaza ndi zopambana komanso zolephera. Kusangalala ndi kuchita bwino kwathu komanso kuphunzira pazolakwitsa zathu kudzatipangitsa kuti tizipanga chikhulupiriro chomwe chimatithandizira. Kukopana si chinthu chofunikira kwambiri padziko lapansi, tili ndi anzathu ndi okondedwa athu omwe tiyenera kuwasamalira, kuyambira tokha.