Kusakhazikika: Kugonjetsa Nkhawa ndi Mavuto

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• Kuda Nkhawa Kuwerenga
• Kukhazikika Kwadzidzidzi: Pakati pa Thanthwe ndi Malo Ovuta

Chaka chilichonse pafupifupi aku America aku 40 miliyoni azivutika ndi nkhawa. Pa nthawi yonse ya moyo wanu, pali 25% mwayi woti mukhale ndi vuto lodana ndi nkhawa. Uwu ndi mulingo wodabwitsa wazosautsa. Zikuwoneka kuti tazolowera chizolowezi chatsopano chazisokonezo. Takhala chizolowezi cha-ndipo mwachibadwa-mliri wa nkhawa.

Ngati anthu 40 miliyoni adadwala modzidzimutsa, The Center for Disease Control ikadakhala ikugwira ntchito nthawi yochulukirapo kuti ipeze choyambitsa ndi kuchiritsa. Monga chikhalidwe, timangoyang'ana mopepuka pazomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa ndikuyang'ana kwambiri chithandizo - makamaka kasamalidwe kudzera mwa mankhwala. Tiyenera kuchita bwino kwambiri. Monga dokotala wama psychology, ndakhala ndikuyang'ana chifukwa chomwe timavutikira motere. Yakwana nthawi yoti tisokoneze kudzidalira kwathu pakuzunzidwa.

Kupsinjika kumakhala kwachilendo m'moyo wathu wothamanga. Titha kuyang'ana kupsinjika ngati chotulukapo chakusintha kwathu kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe timakumana nazo. Kupsinjika ndi chifukwa chakukhudzidwa kwathu mozama ndi moyo komwe kumatha kubweretsa kukula, kuphunzira kwatsopano ndikupanga zokolola. Koma kupsinjika kukasanduka kukhumudwa kumatilepheretsa kukhala moyo wabwino, kukhala mosangalala. Mavuto amayamba kukhala ndi nkhawa. Chifukwa chake, funso nlakuti: chifukwa chiyani timavutika ndi nkhawa iyi? Nazi zomwe ndaphunzira.

Kuda nkhawa — magwero ake — kumadza chifukwa cha ubale wathu ndi malingaliro athu. Makamaka awa ndi malingaliro omwe nthawi zonse amafuna kutsimikizika. Tikufuna kudziwa zamtsogolo, komanso zotsatira zakusankha kwathu. Koma tsogolo limenelo sichidziwika. Chifukwa chake, timakhala ndi nkhawa pamene tikuyesera kuthawa zosadziwika. Izi zimapangitsa kuti tisakhale mu mayendedwe amoyo pamene tikufuna kubweza mtsogolo. Dzifunseni kuti, “Nchiyani chimandipangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa?” Kodi zikukhudzana bwanji ndi kusatsimikizika kwanu kwamtsogolo, mantha anu pakupanga zisankho?

Ndimagwira ntchito ndi mayi wina wazaka zapakati yemwe amabwera kudzawona nkhawa zake zamtsogolo. Adakhala atakwatirana kwanthawi yayitali ndipo adagawana kuti iye ndi mwamuna wake sanachite bwino pamaubwenzi. Iwo anali atapatukana, anali okonda mikangano ndipo anali osiyana kwambiri.Ankawona kuti ukwati wake unali wovuta pamoyo wake. Popeza kuti analibe mwana ndipo anali wodziyimira pawokha pazachuma ndinamufunsa chifukwa chomwe akusankhira kukwatiwa. Iye anati, "Sindikudziwa yemwe ndingakhale ngati mkazi wosudzulidwa."

Apo izo zinali. Mantha ake mozungulira zomwe sizikudziwika - zomwe zidamupatsa mpumulo komanso mwayi watsopano - zidamupangitsa kuti akhale m'ndende ndi nkhawa. Sanasankhe kukhala momvetsa chisoni m'malo mothana ndi kusatsimikizika kwa njira ina-yomwe mwina ikadamubweretsera chisangalalo. Funso, "Ndingakhale ndani ine?" chisungire ndi mantha.

Timalimbikitsa kusatsimikizika m'magawo ambiri m'miyoyo yathu. Timakonda kuwonera masewera ndi makanema chifukwa chosangalatsidwa ndi kusadziwa. Koma m'miyoyo yathu timasokonezedwa ndi kuneneratu komanso kutsimikizika. Kufunafuna kuneneratu kumadodometsa ubale wathu, chidwi chathu komanso kutengapo gawo kwathu kwakukulu pamoyo.

Ndiye zidatheka bwanji kuti tizingokhala okonda kudziwa zamtsogolo pasadakhale? Ndikuyang'ana chifukwa cha wasayansi wamkulu wa 17th century Isaac Newton. Iye adalangiza kuti ngati titakhala ndi chidziwitso chokwanira -malingaliro amakono titha kunena izi - titha kuneneratu zamtsogolo. Izi zidadziwika kuti determinism. Ndipo tazolowera kuganiza kotere.

Kutsimikiza kwatipindulitsa m'njira zambiri, koma mopambanitsa kwadzetsa matenda ambiri. Timakhala moyo ngati kuti timasewera masewera a chess. Timakhala pansi ndikuwerengera zomwe tidzachite. Tikhoza kuda nkhawa kuti mwina chisankho chathu ndi "cholakwika". Timagawanika ndikuwunika ndikuwunika zomwe zingachitike chifukwa cha zisankho zathu ndipo timazizira. Sitimapita patsogolo chifukwa mantha amtunduwu amatilepheretsa kuyenda kwathu. Ngati mumakhala ndi nkhawa pakupanga zisankho, mwina mumakonda kwambiri kulosera zamtsogolo.

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Kukhazikika Kwadzidzidzi: Pakati pa Thanthwe ndi Malo Ovuta