Kukhala ndi Ana Kumatha Kupangitsa Zaka Zikuwoneka Zodutsa Mwachangu

Lingaliro loti miyoyo yathu imathamanga tikamakula ndakuchulukirachulukira kotero kuti lakhala nzeru wamba. Ndalemba za zotsatira zanga kuchokera ku 2005 mu Psychology yapita blog blog, komwe tidapeza mu 500 aku Austrian ndi Ajeremani omwe adayankha funso "Kodi zaka 10 zapitazi zidakupitirani mwachangu bwanji?" kuwonjezeka kwazomwe zimadalira zaka zakumverera kwamalingaliro pakupita kwanthawi. Kufulumizitsa kwa moyo wokhazikika wokhala ndi zaka zowonjezeka kudawonekera kuyambira achinyamata mpaka achikulire, azaka zapakati pa 14 ndi 59. Sipanakhalanso kufulumizitsa kwakanthawi kokhazikika kwa anthu okalamba. Zikuwoneka kuti dera lamapiri limakwaniritsidwa ali ndi zaka 60. Zotsatirazi zidanenedwa ndi anthu ochokera ku Netherlands ndi New Zealand, komanso ndi omwe akutenga nawo mbali ku Japan.

Kutanthauzira koyenera kwakukhudzana ndi msinkhu uwu pakuwona kwakanthawi kukugwirizana ndi kukumbukira kwa mbiri yakale. Tikayang'ana m'mbuyo m'miyoyo yathu, timadalira kukumbukira kuti tiweruze nthawi yayitali. Zochitika zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa zomwe zasungidwa pokumbukira munthawi yapadera, nthawi yayitali imamveka kuti yakhala ikuyang'ana kumbuyo. Tikamakula, timakhala ndi chizolowezi chochuluka m'miyoyo yathu, ndipo kusowa kwachilendo kumabweretsa kuchepa kwa zochitika zosangalatsa zomwe zimasungidwa kukumbukira. Kafukufuku wochokera ku Israel wasonyeza kuti kuchita zambiri pamoyo, kutchuthi komanso pantchito, kumabweretsa nthawi.

Kuchuluka kwa zochitika zanthawi zonse, zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti muchite ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi ana ndikuwapatsa mawonekedwe ndikumverera kuti ali otetezeka, zitha kukhala ndi chikoka champhamvu pakukumbukira mbiri ya makolo mwa makolo. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti nthawi yokhazikika ifulumire kwambiri kwa achikulire omwe ali ndi ana poyerekeza ndi achikulire opanda ana. Popeza palibe umboni wowoneka bwino mpaka pano womwe udanenedwapo m'mabuku ofufuzira okhudzana ndi izi, Nathalie Mella waku University of Geneva ku Switzerland ndipo tidasanthula kafukufuku wanga wakale kuchokera ku 2005 ndikulemba nkhani yomwe yangotulutsidwa kumene mu magaziniyi Kusintha kwa Nthawi & Nthawi .

Tidapeza kusiyana pakati, pakati pa akulu omwe ali ndi ana ndi akulu omwe alibe, pazochitika zodutsa zaka 10 zapitazo. Poyerekeza magulu awiriwa, zidadziwika kuti kwa akulu omwe ali ndi ana, nthawi yazaka 10 zapitazi idadutsa mwachangu kwambiri. Kusiyana kumeneku sikunawoneke kwakanthawi kochepa kwa sabata, mwezi, ndi chaka. Zotsatira zakazaka 10 zapitazi zidawonedwa kwamagulu azaka zapakati pa 20 ndi 59, gulu lazaka zomwe zikulera ana, osati okalamba. Kuphatikizika kwakanthawi kochepa pakati pa kuchuluka kwa ana ndikuwona kuthamanga kwakanthawi kunapezekanso.

Zotsatira ndizachidziwikire. Komabe, kutanthauzira sikuli. Chimodzi mwazomwe zingafotokozere zakusiyana komwe tidapeza kukugona pakuwona momwe ana amakulira msanga. Pazaka zopitilira 10, ana amasintha modabwitsa osati kokha mmaonekedwe awo komanso maluso awo ozindikira komanso udindo wawo. Kukumana ndi kusintha kotereku mwa munthu yemwe timakhala naye, pomwe achikulire amasintha pang'ono, kumatha kubweretsa lingaliro lakuwonjezeka kwanthawi. Kukondera uku kungathandize kufotokoza chifukwa chomwe makolo amaganizira kuti nthawi yadutsa mwachangu kwambiri.

Kulongosola kwina ndikuti makolo amapereka nthawi yawo yambiri kwa ana awo ndipo amakhala ndi nthawi yochepera zofuna zawo. Kumverera kokhala ndi nthawi yocheperako kumatha kubweretsa kuganiza kuti nthawi yadutsa mwachangu kwambiri popeza nthawi yodzipereka pa moyo wawo idachepetsedwa moyenera. Pomaliza, kukhala ndi ana kumawerengedwa ndi ambiri ngati gawo lofunikira m'moyo, ndipo kulingalira zakudutsa gawo ili m'moyo wanu kumatha kukhala ndi chikumbukiro chazambiri. Maphunziro ena ayenera kufufuza mozama kwambiri momwe zimakhalira ndi makolo pakukweza nthawi mwachangu.