Kodi Ndingadziwe Bwanji Kuti Ubale Wathu Watha?

Sabata yatha ndidalandira maimelo otsatirawa:

"Ine ndi chibwenzi changa takhala limodzi kwanthawi yopitilira chaka. Anzathu apamtima atatu. Tangoyamba kukhalira limodzi. Kuyambira pamenepo tidayamba kukhala ndi chizolowezi chodziwikiratu ndipo mwadzidzidzi tsiku lina ndidaopa kuti sindingakondane ndipo Ndikusowa chisangalalo mwa iye / ife. Ndili ndi nkhawa, choncho ndikuopa kuti izi zitha kunditsimikizira kuti zatha. Kodi? "

Funso limeneli ndalifunsapo kale, zomwe sizingalephereke koma zokhumudwitsa kumapeto kwa chibwenzi. Koma mu positiyi, ndidayigwiritsa ntchito meta kapena mwauzimu. Nthawi ino ndimaganiza kuti ndiyankha funso lomweli momveka bwino komanso mothandiza.

Wokondedwa Rebecca (osati dzina lenileni):

Funso lanu limandipatsa chitsinikizo mumtima mwanga chifukwa ndimatha kumva kuda nkhawa ndikuchita mantha, komanso nkhawa zonse zomwe zimakhalapo. Ndiloleni ndiyesere kuyankha funso lanu momveka momwe ndingathere.

Choyamba, nkhani zoyipa: Kutsitsimuka, kuyenda komanso chisangalalo chomwe mudakumana nacho chomwe chidakulimbikitsani kuti mupite limodzi - mwina zatha, mwina momwe mumaganizira kale. Ndikukayika kuti mudzatha kutenganso kumverera kwamatsenga kongofunikira kukhala pakati pa anzanu kuti mumve kuledzera komanso kukhala athanzi, kuti musangalale kungokhala inu komanso kukhala okwanira. Mupeza, monga maanja ambiri omwe analipo inu musanakhale, kuti simuli otetezedwa mwamatsenga ndi zomwe banja lina lililonse padziko lapansi limalimbana nalo: kusungulumwa ndi kuipidwa ndikutengana mopepuka, komanso pafupifupi nkhani zina zilizonse anali otsimikiza kuti sizingakuchitikireni chifukwa chikondi chanu ndi chapadera.

Tsopano, nkhani yabwinoko: Zomwe mwafotokozazi zikuyenera kuchitika, ndipo ndendende momwe mungafotokozere. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti gawo lachikondi laubwenzi - zomwe mumawona pa TV komanso m'makanema komanso zomwe mumamva mpaka mutakhala limodzi - zimatha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi mpaka zaka zitatu. Mwatambasula gawo lanu lachikondi kumapeto kwakunja kwa belu, ndiye zikomo kwambiri.

Kusintha kuchoka pagulu lachikondi kupita kumalo omwe nthawi zina amatchedwa "kulimbana mwamphamvu" nthawi zambiri kumachitika pakakhala kudzipereka kwakukulu: kulengeza za kukhala ndi mkazi m'modzi, kuchita chinkhoswe, kusamukira limodzi. Momwemonso, mulidi komwe muyenera kukhala.

Anzanga ku dera la Imago ndipo timakonda kuseka kuti gawo lachikondi ndi njira ya Mulungu yokunyengerera kuti mudzipereke. Mukadzipereka, ntchito zenizeni zaubwenzi wanu zimayamba. Ndiosavuta kugwa mchikondi. Ndizovuta kwambiri, koma zopindulitsa kwambiri komanso zopindulitsa, kudziwa momwe mungakhalire mosangalala mpaka pano.

Zomwe zimachitika pambuyo pake zimatengera kudzipereka kwa mnzanu kuubwenzi wozindikira. Ndikupangira kuti mupeze zida zokhalira ndi munthu wina chifukwa sitipeza zolemba zake kusekondale. Mumatenga driver's ed kuti muphunzire kuyendetsa galimoto mosamala. Bwanji "ubale ed?" Pali mapulogalamu abwino kunja uko omwe mungaphunzirepo. Yemwe ndimamudziwa bwino kwambiri motero nditha kumulangiza molimba mtima kwambiri kuti ndikhale Loweruka ndi Chikondi Chimene Mukufuna kuchokera kwa wowonetsa msonkhano wa Imago.

Chachikulu kwambiri chomwe ndimapeza pazomwe zimasiyanitsa maanja omwe amakula ndikulimbana ndi mabanja omwe amira mwa iwo ndikufunitsitsa kutenga udindo wawo. Ndizoyesa modabwitsa kuti mum'peze wokondedwa wanu pazolakwika koma sizikufikitsani komwe mukufuna kupita. Yang'anani pagalasi ndikudzifunsa nokha onse awiri "Ndikuthandizira chiyani kuvina kovutaku?" komanso, "Kodi kumbuyo kwanga ndi chiyani chomwe chimandipangitsa kukhala womvera pamutuwu pomwe mabatani anga akukankhidwira?"

Awa ndi malingaliro ochepa chabe omwe ndili nawo poyankha funso lanu lowopsa. Ndikulakalaka iwe ndi mnzako zabwino zonse pamene mukukulunga manja anu ndikupita ku bizinesi yayikulu kwambiri yophunzira kukhala ndi munthu wina.