Mmene Mungathandizire Wokusamalirani

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• Kusamalira Kofunika Kuwerenga
• Kodi Udindo Wanu Monga Wosintha kapena Wosamalira Wakusiyani Mukufuna Chisamaliro?

Ndikudziwa kuti ndili ndi mwayi wokhala ndi wondisamalira mwachikondi. Ngakhale samaziwona motere, matenda anga akhala akundivutitsa monga momwe amandikhudzira ine. Koma amangokhala ndipo samadandaula za zovuta zomwe amayenera kuchita. Ndikumvera chisoni anthu inu omwe mulibe wina wokusamalirani motere. Chidutswachi chimafotokoza njira zingapo momwe mungachepetsere nkhawa za amene akukusamalirani. Amayang'ana makamaka kwa olera omwe ali othandizana nawo koma, pokhapokha ngati wovomerezedwayo ali mwana, malingaliro awa atha kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuthandiza osamalira ena, monga ana anu, makolo, kapena abale anu.

1. Onetsetsani kuti womusamalirayo akusamalira thanzi lake.

Pali chizoloŵezi cha osamalira kunyalanyaza zizindikiro zilizonse zamankhwala zomwe angakhale nazo zomwe sizili zovuta monga zanu. Zotsatira zake, mungafunikire kukakamiza wosamalirayo kukafunafuna chithandizo chamankhwala. Ndipo ngati amene akukusamalirani akuchitiridwa kanthu kena, ngakhale kakang'ono, musaiwale kufunsa momwe akuchitira!

2. Lankhulani moona mtima kwa omwe amakusamalirani pazomwe angakuchitireni kenako kenako, mupemphe thandizo.

Ngati simukukambirana zomwe zikuyenera kuti wokusamalirani akuchitireni, atapatsidwa udindo wosasamalira, womusamalirayo angaganize kuti akuyenera kuchita Chilichonse Izi zimatha kubweretsa kuperewera kwa owasamalira, kukhumudwa kwa owasamalira, komanso kungasokoneze thanzi la wosamalira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti inu ndi omwe amakusamalirani muziyesa kuwunika moona mtima zomwe angathe kuchita.

Mukamaliza izi, ganizirani zomwe mungadzichitire nokha ndiyeno lankhulani ndi omwe amakusamaliraniwo za anthu m'moyo wanu omwe atha kuthandiza ntchito zomwe inu kapena amene akukusamaliranizi sangakwanitse.

Mutha kuyamba ndikuwona nkhani yanga, "Momwe Mungapemphe Thandizo." Ambiri a ife taphunzitsidwa kuti ndi chofooka kupempha thandizo, koma ayi. Wina akandifunsa, sindinaganizepo kuti, "Afooka." Kuphatikiza apo, timaganiza kuti ngati anthu amafuna kuthandizira, akanabwera ndikudzipereka. Zinanditengera zaka kudwala kuzindikira kuti anthu amafuna kuthandiza koma amafunikira kufunsidwa.

3. Pezani njira zotetezera chibwenzi chomwe munali nacho kale.

Kaya amene akukusamalirani ndi mnzanu pamoyo wanu kapena wina m'banjamo, ganizirani zomwe zidapangitsa kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Mwina zinali zophweka ngati kuseka limodzi. Ngakhale simungathenso kupita kumalo ochitira nthabwala kapena kuchita nawo kanema woseketsa, mutha kuwonera azithunzithunzi oyimirira pa TV kapena pakompyuta. Ngati mumakonda kusewera masewera kapena makhadi, ndichinthu chomwe mungathe kuchita mutakhala pabedi ngati simugona. Ngati mumakonda kukambirana nkhani zina, monga ndale kapena zinthu zauzimu, sankhani nthawi yamasana yomwe muli ndi mphamvu zambiri ndikukambirana ndi omwe amakusamalirani momwe mungathere.

Muyenera kukhala opanga pano ndikuganiza kunja kwa bokosilo, titero. Ndapeza kuti kudwala matenda akuwoneka kuti kumafunikira kulingalira kwakatundu wambiri! Zimafunikanso kukonzekera bwino, koma zikafika pakusunga chibwenzi chanu, "nthawi yakukonzekera" yogwiritsidwa ntchito bwino.

4. Limbikitsani omusamalira kuti azichita zinthu popanda inu.

Owasamalira nthawi zambiri safuna kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa iwowo. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zimachokera pachikhalidwe chathu "chonse kapena palibe". Izi zimapangitsa otsogolera kuganizira kuti ngati akusamalira wina, ayenera kudzipereka nthawi 100% kapena akulephera pantchitoyo. Sizowona! Sikuti izi zikuyembekezera zambiri kwa iwo okha, koma zitha kubweretsa kusamalira otopa.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzakhala patsogolo pakutsimikizira womusamalirayo kufunikira kwake kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yocheza nawo. Muyenera kuthandiza womusamalira kuti aganizire njira zopangira zinthu zapakhomo. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuwuza omwe amakusamalirani kuti ayesere Skype kapena FaceTime ngati njira yolumikizirana ndi anthu.

5. Onetsetsani kuti mukudziwitsa womusamalirayo momwe amamuonera.

Ndazindikira kuti nthawi zina ndimakhala wosakhutira. Ndikhala wokonzeka kungolandira chakudya chomwe mamuna wanga wophika osayima pang'ono kuti ndilingalire za kuchuluka kwa chisamaliro komanso khama lomwe adachita pokonzekera - kuwonjezera pa maudindo ena onse. Ndikuyesetsa kuchita chilichonse chomwe amachita ngati mphatso yamtengo wapatali ndikuti, "Zikomo." Kuwonetsetsa kuti amene akukusamalirani amadziwa kuti amamuyamikira ndi mphatso yomwe mungaperekenso.

Kusamalira Kofunika Kuwerenga

Kodi Udindo Wanu Monga Wosintha kapena Wosamalira Wakusiyani Mukufuna Chisamaliro?