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Kawirikawiri amati okwatirana amakula mofanana pazaka. Koma kodi ukwati ungasinthe umunthu wako? Kafukufuku watsopano wa katswiri wama psychology waku University of Georgia a Justin Lavner ndi anzawo akuwonetsa kuti umunthu wa anthu umasintha, m'njira zodziwikiratu, mchaka choyamba ndi theka atangomanga mfundozo.

Akatswiri azamaganizidwe amagawika pa funso loti umunthu umatsimikizika mwachibadwa ndi majini anu kapena wopangidwa ndi zokumana nazo kuyambira ali mwana, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti mwina ndizophatikiza chilengedwe komanso kusamalira. Pakukula, komabe, umunthu umakhazikika ndipo sasintha pambuyo pake. Komabe, kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti zochitika zazikulu m'moyo zimatha kusunthira umunthu mwanjira zina: Mwachitsanzo, wolowerera mwamphamvu ndi chidwi chofuna kuphunzitsa amatha kuphunzira kukhala wopitilira muyeso mkalasi.

Ukwati, ndichachidziwikire, ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri m'moyo wamunthu. Popeza anthu okwatirana amayenera kupeza njira zopezera zokambirana tsiku ndi tsiku, mwina sizosadabwitsa kuti amasintha umunthu wawo akamazolowera moyo wogwirizana. Ichi ndiye lingaliro lomwe Lavner ndi anzawo adayesa.

Pakafukufukuyu, okwatirana 169 omwe adagonanapo ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha adalembedwa kuti ayankhe mafunso omwe ali ndi mfundo zitatu m'banja lawo - pa miyezi 6, 12, ndi 18. Mwanjira imeneyi, ofufuzawo amatha kuzindikira momwe zinthu zasinthira. Nthawi iliyonse, maanja (omwe amagwira ntchito payekhapayekha) adayankha mafunso awiri, limodzi lakuwunika kukhutira m'banja ndi zina zoyesa.

Lingaliro lodziwika bwino kwambiri la umunthu limadziwika kuti Big Five. Chiphunzitsochi chikuwonetsa kuti pali magawo asanu oyambira umunthu. The Big Five nthawi zambiri amakumbukiridwa ndi dzina lotchedwa OCEAN:

1. Kutseguka. Ndimotseguka bwanji kukumana ndi zatsopano. Ngati muli otseguka, mumakonda kuyesa zinthu zatsopano. Ngati simutseguka, mumakhala omasuka ndi zomwe mumadziwa.

2. Kusamala. Ndinu wodalirika komanso wadongosolo. Ngati muli ndi chikumbumtima chachikulu, mumakonda kusunga nthawi ndikusunga malo anu okhala ndi malo antchito. Ngati mulibe chikumbumtima chokwanira, simukumbukira za nthawi yomwe mukufuna, ndipo mumakhala m'malo omwe mumakhala anthu ambiri.

3. Zowonjezera. Momwe mumakhalira ochezeka. Ngati mumakonda kwambiri, mumakonda kucheza ndi anthu ena ambiri. Ngati mukuchepera (ndiye kuti), mumakonda kukhala ndi nthawi yanu panokha.

4. Kuvomerezeka. Mumakhala bwino ndi ena. Ngati mumavomereza kwambiri, ndinu ochezeka komanso osangalala pochita zomwe ena akuchita. Ngati simukugwirizana kwenikweni, muyenera kukhala ndi zinthu momwe mumafunira, ziribe kanthu zomwe enafe tikufuna.

5. Neuroticism. Mukukhazikika pamalingaliro. Ngati muli ndi vuto la neuroticism, mumakhala osinthasintha komanso mumatha kupsa mtima. Ngati mulibe nkhawa kwambiri, kusakhazikika kwanu kumakhala kokhazikika, ndipo mumakhala moyo wanu pachilichonse.

Ofufuzawo atasanthula izi patatha miyezi 18 akwatirana, adapeza izi pakusintha umunthu pakati pa amuna ndi akazi:

• Kutseguka. Akazi adawonetsa kuchepa pomasuka. Mwinanso kusintha kumeneku kumawonetsa kuvomereza kwawo machitidwe amukwati.
• Chikumbumtima. Amuna amakula kwambiri pakuchenjera, pomwe akazi sanasinthe. Ofufuzawo adazindikira kuti azimayi amakonda kukhala achikumbumtima kuposa amuna, ndipo zidali choncho ndi amuna ndi akazi mu kafukufukuyu. Kuwonjezeka kwa chikumbumtima cha abambo mwina kukuwonetsa kuphunzira kwawo kufunika kokhala odalirika komanso odalirika muukwati.
• Zowonjezera. Amuna adayamba kutulutsa mawu (osatsika pang'ono) chaka choyamba ndi theka laukwati. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti okwatirana amakonda kuletsa malo ochezera a pa intaneti poyerekeza ndi nthawi yomwe anali osakwatira. Kuwonjezeka uku kukuwonetsa zomwezo.
• Kuvomerezana. Onse amuna ndi akazi sanasangalale nawo pamaphunziro, koma kutsika uku kumawonekera makamaka kwa akazi. Mwambiri, azimayi amakonda kukhala ovomerezeka kuposa amuna. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti akazi awa anali kuphunzira kudzilimbitsa kwambiri pazaka zoyambirira zaukwati.
• Matenda osokoneza bongo. Amuna adawonetsa kuwonjezeka pang'ono (koma kosafunikira powerengera) pakukhazikika kwamaganizidwe. Akaziwo adawonetsa chokulirapo. Mwambiri, azimayi amakonda kunena kuti mitsempha yayitali kwambiri (kapena kusakhazikika kwamalingaliro) kuposa amuna. Ndikosavuta kuyerekezera kuti kudzipereka kwaukwati kudawakhudza mtima kukhazikika kwamaganizidwe a akazi.

Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kuti kukhutira ndi banja kunasokonekera kwa amuna ndi akazi pamaphunziro onse. Pofika miyezi 18, nthawi yokondwerera ukwati inali itatha. Komabe, ofufuzawo adapeza kuti machitidwe ena mwa amuna kapena akazi adaneneratu zakukhutira kwawo m'banja.

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