Momwe Mungapulumukire Amayi Osokonekera

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• Narcissism Yofunika Kuwerenga
• Zida Zama psychological a Narcissist Atha Kugwiritsa Ntchito

Sapanga makhadi a Hallmark a azimayi omwe sangakonde ana awo. M'malo mwake, samapanga makhadi a Hallmark a amayi athu ambiri.

Pomwe timayang'ana m'makhadi a Tsiku la Amayi, timawerenga za masomphenya okhudzana ndi umayi - amayi omwe adadzipereka kupereka ndalama kwa ana awo, omwe amakhala nthawi zonse chifukwa cha ana awo, omwe amapangitsa ana awo kumva kuti amakondedwa ndi kusamalidwa, komanso omwe adawonekeratu kuti ana awo nthawi zonse amakhala oyamba.

Timawerenga za amayi omwe adakhalapo kuti azipsompsona aliyense-woyendetsa galimoto ndikuyendetsa galimoto iliyonse, yemwe sanaphonyepo masewera a mpira ndipo anali ndi brownies ndi nyerere zodzipangira pa chipika kudikirira chakudya chotsiriza sukulu. Tinawerenga za amayi omwe adakonzekera zokambirana usiku pambuyo pa tsiku loipa, amayi omwe anali ngati bwenzi lapamtima - Amayi Olemekezeka Kwambiri Padziko Lonse Lapansi. Zowonadi, amayi awa alipo kwina?

Kwa ife omwe tiribe amayi omwe Hallmark amalemba za iwo, njira yosankhira khadi ikhoza kukhala yovuta. Ndikutanthauza, makhadi onse ali kuti, "Zikomo pochita zonse zomwe mungathe, ngakhale sizinali zabwino nthawi zonse"?

Koma kwa ana aakazi a amayi okonda zachiwerewere, Tsiku la Amayi limatha kumva kuwawa. Tikudziwa kuti chilichonse chomwe tingachite sichingakhale chokwanira, komabe ambiri a ife timalimbikira. Chifukwa chake chaka chilichonse, chisanu chimasungunuka, ndipo masamba a tulip amayang'ana nsonga zawo zobiriwira kuchokera mu dothi losungunuka, ana aakazi ovulala amathira m'makhadi, kufunafuna imodzi yomwe ingasangalatse amayi awo osapereka chenicheni cha zomwe adakumana nazo. Pofunafuna khadi yosalakwa yomwe angapeze ("Ndikukufunirani Tsiku Lapadera" kapena "Zikukondwereni Inu!"), Amakakamizidwa kupalira kudzera m'makhadi onena za amayi omwe amalakalaka akadakhala nawo ndikuthana ndi kunyalanyazidwa ndikuzunzidwa komwe adakumana nawo . Chilakolako chimawapeza - chilakolako chokhala ndi mayi yemwe sangakhale nawo konse.

Timakhulupirira kuti mkazi akakhala mayi, chikondi chimakhala chobadwa nacho. Ndipo kwa amayi ambiri, ndi choncho. Kusintha kwachilengedwe kumazungulira, ndipo timakopeka ndi ana athu. Phokoso la kulira kwawo limakoka pamitima yathu. Timayang'ana nkhope zawo kwamuyaya. Ndipo sitingakhale ngati tikuchotsa manja athu kumapazi ang'onong'ono amenewo. Chikhalidwe chathu chimakondweretsanso masomphenya awa a umayi, kuwagwiritsa ntchito kutigulitsa chilichonse kuyambira matewera mpaka magalimoto kupita ku inshuwaransi ya moyo.

Chowonadi - motsutsana ndi zomwe Pampers amafuna kuti tikhulupirire - ndikuti kukhala mayi kumakhala kovuta. Chikondi chimaphatikizidwa ndi mphindi za chidani (monga mayi wa mwana wakhanda, nditha kunena izi motsimikiza kwambiri). Timakhumudwa, timatopa, ndipo nthawi zina timalephera kupatsa ana athu zomwe akufuna. Pali nthawi zina pamene timafuna kutha, pomwe timadzifunsa kuti: Chifukwa chiyani ndidaganiza kuti ili lingakhale lingaliro labwino? Koma ndiye mwana wathu amabwera ndikutikumbatira, kapena mawonekedwe omvetsa chisoni, opepesa, kapena kuvomereza kuti, zowonadi, tinali olondola tikamanena kuti ndizosatheka kuyika masokosi anu pambuyo nsapato zanu, ndipo mitima yathu isungunukanso. "Kukhala mayi wokwanira" mosalephera kumadzaza ndi zophulika, zolephera, ndipo - mwina zofunika kwambiri - kukonza.

Koma nthawi zina zolephera izi zimakhala zoyipa kwambiri kuposa zomwe zimachitika muubwenzi wokonda mayi ndi mwana. Nthawi zina china chake chimasokonekera kwambiri pakubereka.

Amayi ena amalephera kumukondadi mwana wawo.

Dziko lapansi silikudziwa choti apange ichi; siyimutu wocheza nawo pamabulogu ama amayi kapena pamasewera, ndipo nthawi zambiri sitimayankhulanso za anzathu apamtima. Ngati simunadziwe nokha, nkovuta kulingalira kuti azimayi ena amalephera chifukwa chakupwetekedwa mtima kwawo ndipo amafunitsitsa kudzaza zopanda pake zawo kotero kuti sangathe kuwona ana awo ngati anthu apadera oyenera kukondedwa.

Amayi omwe ali ndi vuto lamakhalidwe oyipa amamuwona mwana wawo ngati chowonjezera cha iwo okha - chinthu chomwe angapangire zinthu zomwe akana kapena zosafunikira pazokha, ochita nawo mpikisano, komanso nsanje. Amayi achisembwere amakhala muzochitika zawo, omangidwa mozungulira masomphenya a iwo okha ngati "abwino" komanso oyenera kuwayang'anira ndi kuwapembedza. Adzachita chilichonse kuti ateteze chithunzichi, osazindikira zovuta zomwe zatsalira. Wolemba mbiri weniweni sangathe kupanga ubale - mwina osati momwe anthu ambiri amawaonera. Mayi wankhanza amangowona anthu ena, kuphatikiza ana ake, ngati zinthu zomwe zimakwaniritsa kapena kusokoneza zosowa zake.

Psychoanalyst ndi dokotala wa ana DW Winicott adati, "Mayi amayang'ana mwanayo m'manja mwake, ndipo mwanayo amayang'ana nkhope ya amayi ake ndikupeza kuti ali mmenemo ... bola ngati mayi akuyang'anitsitsa munthu wapadera, wocheperako, wopanda thandizo ndipo sakufotokozera zomwe akuyembekezera , mantha, komanso mapulani a mwanayo. Zikatero, mwanayo sangadzipeze pamaso pa amayi ake, koma m'malo momuganizira mayi ake. Mwana uyu amakhala wopanda kalilole, ndipo moyo wake wonse amakhala akufunafuna izi galasi pachabe. "

Ana ndi ovuta kufunafuna chikondi ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi makolo awo. Akapanda kuchilandira, amakhulupirira kuti ndichifukwa choti sakukondedwa. Ndikotetezeka kukhala m'dziko lomwe muli oyipa kuposa kukhala m'dziko lomwe munthu amene akuyenera kuti amakukondani, kukusamalirani, ndikukutetezani sangathe kuchita izi. Kupatula apo, ngati tili vuto, titha kungodzisintha tokha kenako kukondedwa. Ana ambiri amagwira ntchito mwakhama kufunafuna chikondi ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi amayi, koma zimawoneka ngati kuyesa kufinya magazi mwala.

Narcissism Yofunika Kuwerenga

Zida Zama psychological a Narcissist Atha Kugwiritsa Ntchito