Momwe Zolankhulirana Zitha Kutetezera Kugwiriridwa

Kulankhula ndi ana zokhudzana ndi kugonana kungakhale kovuta kukambirana kwa makolo. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti makolo ambiri akuchita izi: Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Planned Parenthood ndi Center for Latino ndi Adolescent Family Health adapeza kuti 82% ya makolo amalankhula ndi ana awo zakugonana. Kuphatikiza apo, zokambiranazi zikuyamba koyambirira, theka la makolo lipoti kuti adalankhula ndi ana awo asanakwanitse zaka 10 ndi 80% amalankhula ndi ana awo zakugonana asanakwanitse zaka 13.

Komabe, makolo ambiri amaganiza kuti "zokambirana zakugonana" ndizokambirana kumodzi kokhazikika pamakina ogonana. Akatswiri azamaphunziro azakugonana amanena kuti zokambirana pazakugonana ziyenera kukhala zokambirana zomwe zikuchitika makamaka makamaka pazokambirana zamakhalidwe abwino ogonana. Izi ndizofunikira popewa zachiwawa zogonana chifukwa akuti pafupifupi wachinyamata m'modzi mwa achinyamata atatu amachitiridwa nkhanza zakuthupi, zogonana, zam'maganizo kapena zamwano kuchokera kwa omwe amakhala naye pachibwenzi nthawi yachinyamata. Kafukufuku wina wamkulu wa achinyamata azaka zapakati pa 12 ndi 18 adapeza kuti 18% akuti adachitiridwa zachipongwe m'mabanja awo. Ziwawa m'mabanja nthawi zambiri zimayambira azaka zapakati pa 12 ndi 18, ndiye kuti izi zikutanthauza kuti zaka ndi zaka zofunikira kwambiri kukhazikitsa zovomerezeka ndi zosavomerezeka muubwenzi wabwino. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti achinyamata omwe amatha kukambirana ndi makolo awo zokhudzana ndi kugonana nthawi zambiri amatha kuchedwa komanso kuchita zachiwerewere atagonana. Ngakhale makolo ena amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti kuyankhula zakugonana kumakulitsa mwayi woti mwana wawo azigonana, kafukufuku apeza zosiyana. Kafukufuku wofufuza achinyamata adapeza kuti achinyamata amakhala ndi malingaliro ofanana ndi makolo awo pankhani yakugonana komanso kuti chisankho chochedwetsa kugonana chikanakhala chosavuta akanalankhula momasuka ndi makolo awo.

M'munsimu muli malangizo omwe makolo ayenera kutsatira mukamakambirana ndi ana awo zakakhalidwe kabwino pakugonana ndikusunga njira zolumikizirana:

1. Pasapezeke nkhani imodzi yokha yokhudza kugonana. Zolankhulirana zogonana ziyenera kuyambira pazaka zoyenerera (mwachitsanzo kulembetsa ziwalo zathupi ndi mayina olondola) ana anu atakula kuti amvetsetse ndikupitilira paunyamata ndi uchikulire pafupipafupi Cholinga cha zokambiranazi ndikupangitsa kuti njira zolankhulirana zizikhala zotseguka kuti ana ndi achinyamata azimasuka kudzalankhula ndi makolo pazokhudzana ndi maubwenzi ndi chiwerewere.
2. Zokambirana zakugonana siziyenera kukhala zovomerezeka. Ana akakhala achichepere, ingoyankhani mafunso awo pazoyenera msinkhu moona mtima komanso moona mtima. CDC imalimbikitsa kuti kukambirana mwamwayi ndi achinyamata kumatha kugwira bwino ntchito mpata ukapezeka. Mwachitsanzo, akuwonetsa kuti kukambirana pamasom'pamaso kungakhale kovuta pazaka zaunyamata, ndipo zochitika monga kuyendetsa galimoto ikhoza kukhala nthawi yabwino kuti mukambirane mitu yanuyi.
3. Zokambirana zakugonana koyenera zimayenderana ndi zokambirana zopewa zachiwawa. Momwe makolo amafunira kupewa nkhanza zakugonana, kuti athe kutero, zokambiranazo ziyeneranso kukambirana zokambirana zogonana. Kudzidalira kwa thupi (osachita manyazi kumaliseche ndi chiwerewere mwanu) kumakhudzana ndi machitidwe achiwerewere omwe siabwino, omwe amachepetsa chiopsezo cha
4. Kupitilira 75% yamapulogalamu oyambira nthawi yayitali amakhala ndi mtundu wina wogonana, ndipo zogonana pa intaneti ndizochuluka. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti makolo adziwe komwe ana awo akuphunzira zakugonana komanso zomwe akuphunziradi. Makolo akufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti zomwe ana awo akulandila ndizolondola komanso zamankhwala komanso kuti malingalirowo akuwonetsedwa ngati malingaliro am'banja.
5. Makolo ayenera kukhala omasuka komanso omasuka pokambirana zakugonana ndi ana awo. Ngati ana azindikira kuti makolo ali omasuka kukambirana za mutuwu, apeza mwayi woti adzafunsire chitsogozo cha makolo mtsogolo.
6. Pewani kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire. Nthawi zambiri makolo amakwiya akamva zambiri zomwe sizikusangalatsa kapena zomwe zimawopsyeza / zimawapangitsa kukhala osasangalala. Kumbukirani kuti zoyipa zomwe makolo amachita zimatumiza uthenga kwa ana kuti achita choyipa kapena cholakwika. Izi zingawapangitse kuchita manyazi potero amachepetsa mwayi wofikira makolo mtsogolo.

Kuyankhulana pakati pa kholo ndi mwana ndikofunikira popewa nkhanza zogonana. Ngakhale masukulu ambiri amaphunzitsa kwamtundu wina, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri ndipo sizingafotokozere mbali zonse zakugonana moyenera komanso kupewa zachiwawa. Chifukwa chake, zili kwa makolo kuti awonetsetse kuti ana ali ndi chidziwitso chofunikira kuti awateteze. Makolo ayenera kulankhula ndi ana pafupipafupi za machitidwe oyenera ogonana. Zokambiranazi zisintha mu mawonekedwe ndikugwira ntchito ana akamakula, koma kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kukambirana pafupipafupi ndi ana kungathandize kuwateteza ku nkhanza zakugonana.