Wotsutsa Mumtima vs. Wolera Wam'kati: Ndi uti Yemwe Mungalimbikitse?

Zamkati

• Chifukwa chiyani?
• Makochi awiriwo
• Kodi wotsutsa wamkatiyu akuthandizanidi inu?
• Kumanga mnofu wamkati wamkati
• 1. M'malo mozisiya mwangozi, khalani ndi cholinga chodzikomera mtima.
• 2. Lembani za nthawi yomwe munabwerera m'mbuyo kapena munavutika koma munathana nayo.
• 3. Pangani malo oti mupume.
• Mawu omaliza:

Ganizirani za izi zomwe ndi zoona kwa inu: Kodi muli ndi mawu amkati achikondi, othandizira, okoma mtima, komanso olimbikitsa omwe amakutsatirani tsiku lonse, ngati liwu la mphunzitsi wachifundo? Kapena muli ndi liwu lamkati lodzitsutsa lomwe limati, "China chake chalakwika, china chikusowa ... sichikwanira?"

Ili ndi funso lomwe ndafunsa anthu ambiri pazokambirana zomwe ndapereka, ndipo zomwe ndapeza mobwerezabwereza ndikuti anthu ambiri amati ali ndi liwu lodzitsutsa, ndipo nthawi zambiri palibe amene amati ali ndi mawu achisoni imeneyo ndi gawo lazokambirana zawo zamkati tsiku ndi tsiku.

Chifukwa chiyani?

Timakonda kudziweruza tokha, kudzitsutsa tokha, kudziimba mlandu, ndikumadziona kuti ndife operewera, pazomwe Tara Brach amatcha "chizungulire chosayenera." Izi mwina zidali ndi phindu lina kwa makolo athu. Kukhala ndi ubongo womwe umayang'ana kwambiri pazolakwika kunathandiza makolo athu kupulumuka mavuto. Kukhala ndi ubongo womwe umangoyang'ana malo athu kuti tiwopsezedwe ndipo udalimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti tisasokonezedwe (chifukwa zitha kutipulumutsa miyoyo yathu) zidamveka bwino kwa makolo athu a Stone Age.

Koma wotsutsa wamkatiyu akugwirabe ntchito m'moyo wathu wamakono, ngakhale m'malo omwe sangakhale ofunikira kapena othandiza. Ndipo kwa anthu ambiri, wotsutsa wamkatiyu akhoza kuyambitsa chikhulupiliro chakuti "ngati sindili wouma mtima, sindingakwaniritse zolinga zanga kapena kukwaniritsa zomwe ndikufuna."

Makochi awiriwo

Taganizirani kwa kanthawi ndikuwonera masewera awiri ampikisano wamasewera aku sekondale pafupi. Pazochitika zina, wophunzira A akukhala ndi nthawi yovuta, ndipo mphunzitsiyo amafuula kuti: “Kodi chalakwika ndi chiyani ndi iwe? Mukuwoneka ngati simunachite nawo milungu ingapo.Ndizokhumudwitsa kwambiri! ” Pazochitikazi, wophunzira B akukhala ndi nthawi yovuta, ndipo mphunzitsiyo akuti: “Hei, zikuwoneka ngati mukuvutikira masiku ano. Mukumva bwino? Tiyeni tiwone ngati tingagwiritse ntchito phazi mwachangu momwe ndakuwonerani mukuchita bwino kwambiri. ”

Mukuganiza ndi mphunzitsi uti yemwe angalimbikitse osewera awo? Ndi mwana uti amene angachokere ali wokondwa ndikukhala wokondwa kudzachita nawo mawa? Kodi mungafunire mwana wanu kapena nokha?

Kodi wotsutsa wamkatiyu akuthandizanidi inu?

Zomwe ndimawona mobwerezabwereza ndikuti ngakhale anthu amakhulupirira zomwe amafunikira kuti azikhala ovuta kuti achite bwino, kudzidzudzula kumapangitsa anthu kusunthira kuzolinga zawo. Akazembera, pamakhala manyazi komanso kudzudzulidwa komwe kumawatsekereza kuti asafune kupita mtsogolo.

M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wosangalatsa yemwe adasanthula ma correlates a kudzidzudzula komanso kudzilimbitsa amathandizira lingaliro ili. Kafukufukuyu adawona kuti anthu akamadzidzudzula okha, magawo aubongo omwe amathandizidwa ndikuwunika zolakwika, kulangidwa, komanso kupewetsa machitidwe amayambitsidwa. Mosiyana ndi izi, anthu akamadzilimbitsa mtima, zigawo zamaubongo zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndikuwonetsa chifundo ndi kumvera ena zimakhala zotakataka. Njira imodzi yomasulira izi ndikuti anthu omwe amangokhalira kudziona ngati opanda cholakwa amangotsatira zolakwa zawo, amadzilanga okha, ndipo amakhala ndi chizolowezi chotseka kapena kudziletsa kuti asatengere kupita patsogolo - mwina khama, monga olemba a kafukufukuyu akuti, "kuchepetsa kuwonongeka komwe kumachitika chifukwa cholakwitsa."

Ngakhale anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kudzipeputsa kungawapangitse kuti asochere pa zolinga zawo, kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti ndikudzimvera chisoni, osadzitsutsa, ndiye chomwe chimalimbikitsa kwambiri. Koma kumasulira izi ndikuchita sizachilendo kwa anthu ambiri. Kodi ndingakhale bwanji wokoma mtima komanso wachifundo kwa ine ndekha? Ndife abwino kuchitira ena izi, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuti tizichitire tokha.

Kumanga mnofu wamkati wamkati

M'malo mongokhala ndi lingaliro losawoneka, nazi njira zingapo zomveka zoyambira kukulitsa khalidweli mwa inu nokha, kuti mukhale mphunzitsi wamkati wothandizirako nokha.

1. M'malo mozisiya mwangozi, khalani ndi cholinga chodzikomera mtima.

Kumayambiriro kwa tsiku lanu, lembani njira imodzi kapena zitatu zomwe mungadzichitire chifundo lero. Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha zinthu zazing'ono, zenizeni, zomwe mutha kutsata (ndipo ngati mwangozi simukutsatira, dzikomereni mtima ndikuyesanso mawa!). Onetsetsani kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo monga, "Lero ndidzadzikomera mtima mwa ..." chifukwa izi zimatsimikizira kuti ichi ndichinthu chokomera mtima. Mwachitsanzo:

"Lero, ndidzikhala wokoma mtima kwa ine ndikupita kokayenda mphindi 10 kuti ndikakhumudwe panthawi yopuma. Ndikumvera nyimbo zomwe ndimakonda ndikuthokoza chifukwa chotenga nthawi ino kudzisamalira. "

"Lero, ndidzakhala wokoma mtima kwa ine ndikumadzipangira chakudya chamasana. Ndiye, ndikamadya, ndiyang'anitsitsa momwe chakudyachi chimamvera kukhala chopatsa thanzi kwa ine."

Osangodutsa momwe ntchitoyi ikuyendera. Onetsetsani kuti mwatenga mphindi zochepa kuti zolembetsazi zidziwike ngati kudzikonda komanso kudzisamalira.

2. Lembani za nthawi yomwe munabwerera m'mbuyo kapena munavutika koma munathana nayo.

Lembani mwa munthu wachiwiriyo, ngati kuti inuyo panopo mumalankhula ndi moyo wanu wakale. Tchulani zina mwazabwino zanu kapena zomwe zakuthandizani munthawi yovutayi. Dzichitireni nokha kukoma mtima pazovuta zilizonse zomwe zakuchitikirani.

Ngati izi zikukuvutani, ganizirani mawu omwe mungagwiritse ntchito mukamalembera mnzanu wapamtima kapena mwana yemwe adakumana ndi zotere. Mwachitsanzo, "Wokondedwa Wanga, ndikudziwa kuti nthawi yomwe mudazizira pamsonkhano wantchitoyo zinali zochititsa manyazi kwambiri kwa inu, koma mudalimba mtima kuti musachoke, kuchira, ndikupitilizabe. Pepani kuti mwakumana nazo izi, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zinali zopweteka panthawiyo, koma munadzilimbitsa mwaukadaulo, ndipo munabwerera komweko kumsonkhano wotsatira. Ndikunyadira kupirira kwanu. ”

3. Pangani malo oti mupume.

Mukamayenda tsiku lanu lero, nthawi iliyonse mukakumana ndi zovuta kapena kukakamizidwa kapena kutsutsidwa mwanjira ina, imani pang'ono, ikani dzanja lanu pamtima (ngati muli pamalo omwe mumatha kuchita izi), ndipo tengani atatu wodekha mpweya. Pa mpweya woyamba, tchulani zomwe mukumva (mwachitsanzo, ndakhumudwitsidwa). Mukapumira kachiwiri, nenani mumtima mwanu, "Palibe vuto kuti ndikumva izi - ino ndi nthawi yovuta." Pa mpweya wachitatu, nenani, "Ndikulakalaka ndekha kuti ndisamve zowawa," kapena "Ndikufunira mtendere," kapena mawu aliwonse achifundo akumvera.

Mawu omaliza:

Sitiyenera kuchotsa "wotsutsa wamkati (kapena sitingathe kutero), koma tithokoze poyesera kutiteteza ndikudzikumbutsa kuti tili ndi magawo atsopano amisempha yathu" ”Social engagement system) yomwe ingathe kuthana ndi vutoli ngakhale bwinoko. Pamene tikutenga njira zolimbikitsira wosamalira mkati, pakapita nthawi, mawu awa amakula kwambiri, ndipo omwe timayamba kumvera ndikudalira omwe titha kutembenukira pamene zinthu zavuta.