Kodi Mwana Wanu Akhoza Kupanikizika?

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• Kupsinjika Kofunika Kuwerenga
• Mpumulo wa Kupanikizika 101: Buku Lophunzitsira Sayansi

Mlendo uyu adathandizidwa ndi Yana Ryjova, wophunzira maphunziro mu USC Psychology department's Clinical Science program.

Aliyense amakumana ndi mavuto, ndipo achinyamata amakhudzidwa.

Achinyamata akapanikizika, kuda nkhawa, kapena kukhumudwa, ndizodziwika kuti amapewa chilichonse chomwe chimayambitsa kukhumudwa. Tsoka ilo, ngakhale kupeŵa kumawathandiza kuthana ndi kanthawi kochepa, kumatha kubweretsa mavuto ena komanso kumadzetsa nkhawa pakapita nthawi. Monga kholo, mutha kuthandiza mwana wanu wachinyamata kupewa MNYAMATA iyi ndikubwerera ku TRAC!

Njira ndi malingaliro otsatirawa adakhazikitsidwa ndi psychotherapy yozikidwa paumboni yotchedwa Behavioral Activation (Chambless & Hollon, 1998). Kafukufuku wofalitsidwa m'magazini asayansi odziwika bwino, monga Kubwereza kwa Clinical Psychology , apeza kuti njirayi ndi njira yabwino yothandizira kukhumudwa (Cuijpers et al., 2007; Ekers et al., 2008). Mfundo yayikulu yakukhazikitsa machitidwe ndikuti zomwe timachita (kapena zomwe sitimachita) zimalumikizidwa ndi momwe timamvera. Mwachidule, Kuchita Khalidwe kumagwira ntchito pochepetsa kupewa komanso kuwonjezera kuchita nawo zinthu zosangalatsa kuthandiza anthu kuti azimva bwino. (Ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri zamomwe mungadzithandizire nokha kapena wachinyamata wanu pogwiritsa ntchito Behavioural Activation, chonde pitani patsamba lino kapena ganizirani kugula "Kuyambitsa Chimwemwe: Buku Loyambira Pothana ndi Kulimbikitsana, Kukhumudwa, kapena Kungomverera Kukhalitsa," -buku lothandizira lolembedwa ndi Dr. Hershenberg ndi Goldfried.)

Kodi msampha ndi chiyani?

MSAMPHA umaimira:
T: Choyambitsa
R: Yankho
AP: Njira Yopewa

Mwana wanu akapanikizika kwambiri, mungawaone ayamba kupewa zinthu zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azipanikizika kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mwina mwawawona akuluma Netflix, kutumizirana mameseji ndi anzawo, ngakhale kuyeretsa chipinda chawo kuti apulumuke kuphunzira mayeso a masamu. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukukayikira kuti ankanamizira kuti akudwala kuti apite kokacheza kapena kuphwando. Zowona kuti achinyamata amapewa "zoyambitsa" izi zimakhala zomveka. Kupewa kupsinjika ndi nkhawa kumakhala bwino kuposa kuthana ndi nkhawa mwachindunji! Achinyamata akamapewa machitidwe, sayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro omwe amabwera nawo. Chifukwa zimakhala zosangalatsa kusiya kuphunzira komanso zosangalatsa, mutha kupeza kuti kupewa chimodzi kapena ziwiri zomwe zimayambitsa mwana wanu kumapewa zochitika zina zambiri. Ili ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri popewa. Vuto lina limakhudza zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chopewa. Ngakhale zitha kukhala zabwino kwakanthawi kuti mupewe kuphunzira, zitha kubweretsa zovuta zina, monga kulephera mayeso a masamu.

Njira iyi yopewa ndi MSAMPHA kuti achinyamata akhoza kugweramo.
Gwiritsani ntchito njira zotsatirazi kuti muzindikire Msampha umenewo komanso kuti muthandize mwana wanu kubwerera ku TRAC.

Gawo 1: Unikani zinthu zoyambitsa kupewa ndi mwana wanu

Zoyambitsa ndizo zomwe mwana wanu amakumana nazo zomwe zimawatsogolera kuti azigwiritsa ntchito njira zopewera. Aliyense ali ndi zoyambitsa zosiyanasiyana, koma mndandanda wotsatirawu ungakuthandizeni inu ndi mwana wanu kuyamba kuzindikira zovuta zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti asiye, kuzengereza, komanso kupewa.

Gawo 2: Lankhulani ndi mwana wanu momwe zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azimverera

Zitha kukhala zokopa kuuza mwana wanu zinthu monga, "ingochitani, sizovuta chonchi," kapena "palibe chifukwa chokhalira opanikizika ndi izi," pokambirana zomwe zayambitsa. Komabe, mawu ngati awa atha kupangitsa mwana wanu kutseka, kukutsekani, komanso kumapanikizika.

Chowonadi ndichakuti achinyamata nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito kupewa kupeŵa zovuta zina. Zomwe zimayambitsa zimawapangitsa kuti azimva kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa kwambiri. Amatha kukhala opsinjika kwambiri, amantha, kapena othedwa nzeru kotero kuti ngakhale zinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zazing'ono kwa inu, monga kutsegula buku lowerengera, sizili zophweka kwambiri kwa iwo.

Mukamalankhula ndi mwana wanu, yesetsani kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera poyankha zomwe zimayambitsa. Onetsani chithandizo chanu, kumbukirani kumvetsera, ndipo modekha muwathandize kudziwa zinthu zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azimva kupeŵa.

Gawo 3: Gwirani ntchito ndi mwana wanu kuti muwone njira zopewera

Inu ndi mwana wanu mukazindikira zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto ndikukambirana momwe zimapangidwira, yesetsani kuti mumvetsetse zomwe amapewa. Pali njira zambiri zomwe mwana wanu wachinyamata angapewere. Mwachitsanzo, mwana wanu amatha kupewa homuweki powonera ma TV nthawi yayitali, kapena kupewa zochitika paphwando podzikhululukira chifukwa chomwe sangapiteko.

Gwiritsani ntchito mndandanda wotsatirawu kuti mudziwe njira zomwe anthu ambiri amapewa, ndipo kambiranani ndi mwana wanu kuti adziwe njira zina zomwe amapewa zomwe zimayambitsa.

Gawo 4: Kubwereranso ku TRAC

TRAC imayimira:
T: Choyambitsa
R: Yankho
AC: Kuthana Ndi Njira Zina

Kubwereranso ku TRAC sikutanthauza kuchotsa zoyambitsa, kapena kusintha mayankho a mwana wanu kwa iwo. Ndizokhudza kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina zothana ndi zovuta kuti mupewe zovuta zazitali zopewa. M'malo mopewera, kubwerera ku TRAC kumaphatikizapo kuthandiza mwana wanu wachinyamata kuchitapo kanthu kuti athane ndi zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azimva bwino pamapeto pake.

Funsani mwana wanu wachinyamata za:

Zotsatira zakutali zopewa zomwe zimayambitsa.

Zolinga ndi zikhulupiriro zawo — zikukupewa kuwalepheretsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo?

Momwe angamvere ngati sakanapewa zomwe zimayambitsa. Angamve bwanji akamakumana ndi vuto? Kodi amamva bwanji atagonjetsa vutoli?

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