Pa Zakudya Zosapatsa Thanzi Komanso Kugonana Kwachilendo

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• Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa
• Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo

"Chakudya chachikulu chili ngati kugonana kwakukulu. Mukakhala ndi zochuluka zomwe mumafuna." —Gael Greene

Kugonana ndi chakudya zimalumikizidwa m'njira zambiri. Kodi alinso ofanana pankhani yamakhalidwe? Kodi kuchita chiwerewere kunja kwa nyumba yanu ndi kwabwino komanso kololeka ngati kudyera?

Kugonana ndi chakudya

"Wokondedwa wanga wotentha amandidyetsa ndi chokoleti chapamwamba kwambiri ndi tiyi wobiriwira atagonana; Nthawi zonse ndimafuna kuti zogonana zithe msanga. ” —Mkazi wokwatiwa

Kuyambira kale, kudya ndi kugonana zakhala zikugwirizana m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Pazochitika zonsezi, mphamvu zonse zimakhudzidwa ndipo chakudya chabwino, makamaka kuphatikiza vinyo, chimapangitsa kuti anthu azikondana. Palinso mitundu ya zakudya, monga chokoleti, maapulo, ndi nkhono, zomwe zimawerengedwa kuti zimalimbikitsa chilakolako chogonana. Zakudya zina zimawoneka kuti ndizotakasuka chifukwa cha mawonekedwe ndi kapangidwe kake-mwachitsanzo, nthochi, katsitsumzukwa, ndi peyala. Zakudya zina, monga kukwapulidwa kirimu ndi chokoleti, nthawi zina zimakhala gawo lamasewera ogonana.

Kugonana, kudya ndi makhalidwe

“Kugonana sindiye nkhani yofunika basi monga kudya chakudya chabwino.” --Catherine Hakim

"Ndimakukondani kuposa khofi, koma chonde musandipange kuti nditsimikizire." —Elizabeth Evans

Catherine Hakim (2012) akunena kuti kukumana ndi wokonda zachinsinsi kukumana modzidzimutsa kuyenera kukhala chizolowezi chongodyera m'malo odyera m'malo mongodyera kunyumba. Hakim amavomerezana ndi iwo omwe samawona chilakolako chogonana ngati chotengeka, koma choyendetsa ngati njala ndi ludzu. M'malingaliro ake, "Chakuti timadyera kunyumba nthawi zambiri limodzi ndi okwatirana komanso anzathu sizimatanthauza kuti tikadye m'malesitilanti kuti timenye zakudya zosiyanasiyana komanso anzathu kapena anzathu."

Roger Scruton (1986) akukana kuyerekezera pakati pa chilakolako chogonana ndi chilakolako cha chakudya. Amati chilakolako chongogonana ndimayankhidwe okhudzana ndi malingaliro a wina ngati munthu wapadera yemwe amasinthidwa ndi wina, ndipo si njira yothetsera, koma kutha mwa iye yekha. Scruton akumaliza kuti chomwe chimasiyanitsa chilakolako chogonana ndi njala si kapangidwe kake komwe kamakukakamiza, koma mtundu wa mabungwe omwe amapita nawo.

Scruton ndikulondola, ndipo chikhalidwe cholemera cha china chomwe chimasiyanitsa pakati pa kudya ndi kugonana. Malo odyera sangakhumudwitsidwe ngati mumangodya kamodzi kokha, koma mnzanuyo akhoza kukhumudwa mukamamuchitira manyazi komanso motayika.

Kuyerekeza kwina pakati pa kudya ndi kugonana ndiko "kukulitsa chilakolako chako panja, komanso kudya kunyumba." Mosiyana ndi malingaliro a Hakim, mchitidwewu sufanizira zipinda zodyera ndi malo odyera, koma "chabe" amawaphatikiza m'njira yosungabe mbale yayikulu (ndi mchere) mkatimo osatulukamo.

Monga malingaliro ena, chilakolako chogonana chimangokhudza munthu. Njala ndi ludzu ndikumverera, kuwonetsa mayiko akusowa. Udindo wa malingaliro pakupanga njala ndi ludzu ndi wocheperako poyerekeza ndi chilakolako chogonana. Mutha kulingalira chakudya chabwino, koma malingaliro oterewa sangalowe m'malo mwa kudya kwenikweni. Zimanenedwa kuti Mgiriki wakale Dioginisi Wosuliza anapezeka akuchita maliseche pamalo opezeka anthu ambiri. Atadzudzulidwa chifukwa cha zomwe amachita, adalongosola kuti: "Ndikulakalaka ndikadapukuta m'mimba kuti ndithetse njala."

Monga kudya, kugonana kumatha kuchitidwanso m'malo osiyanasiyana komanso ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Komabe, chikhalidwe chosintha cha kugonana (ndi chikondi cha pakati pa amuna ndi akazi) sizitanthauza kuti demokalase iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa iyo komanso kuti ili ngati nsalu - nthawi zambiri amasintha, amakhala okoma. Osatengera izi, anthu omwe amasintha msanga anthu omwe amagonana nawo akhoza kukhala ndi vuto kupanga ubale wachikondi kwambiri. Kudya ndi kosiyana; kudya nthawi zonse m'malesitilanti osiyanasiyana kulibe vuto lililonse pamakhalidwe. Chifukwa chake, sitingakhale osakondera zogonana monga momwe timadyera, ngakhale pali zochitika zina pomwe chilakolako chogonana sichimakhudzana ndi chikondi. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti chikondi ndi kugonana zitha kupatukana koma angakonde kuti ziphatikizane. Kuphatikiza apo, anthu ambiri angaganize zakugonana pakati pa wokondedwa wawo ndi mnzake wowopseza ngati chiopsezo ku chibwenzi chawo.

Kugonana kopanda pake komanso maubwenzi okondana

Kugonana mopanda pake kuli ngati zakudya zonenepetsa — zosayenera kuzipewa, koma sizabwino kwenikweni kuti munthu azidya mosadalira. ” —The Urban Dictionary

“Ndakhala ndikudya sangweji yopanda mayonesi, letesi, tomato, kapena tchizi ndi mkazi wanga. Tsopano ndikhoza kudya sangweji yonse. Wokondedwa wanga ndi condiments ndi veggies. . . wokondedwa wanga nyama kapena maziko okhazikika omwe ndakhala nawo kwazaka zopitilira 25! Ndili ndi zonse ziwiri m'moyo wanga, ndatopa koma sikuti ndakhuta mopitirira muyezo! ” —Mkazi wokwatiwa

Kugwiritsidwanso ntchito kwa mawu oti "zopanda pake" kumatanthauza kuti zonse zakudya zopanda pake komanso zogonana moperewera ndizotsika "zenizeni" ndipo motero ndizopanda thanzi. Komabe, kodi ndi zopanda thanzi mofananamo? Mawu oti “zopanda pake” amatanthauza chinthu chosayenera. Kodi vuto lachiwerewere ndi liti? Kodi tiyenera kupewa kuchita zachiwerewere, monga momwe akutilangizira kuti tipewe zakudya zopanda pake?

Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa

Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo