Zomwe Tikuphunzira Poyesera Kudzipha Kwa Odwala

Akayesera kudzipha kapena kumaliza, atsogoleri abwino nthawi zambiri amalimbana ndi lingaliro loti, chifukwa samawona zoopsa zomwe wina ali nazo, ayenera kuti adalephera.

Madokotala omwe ali patsogolo pa nkhondo zamaganizidwe amamvanso chimodzimodzi, ngakhale nthawi zambiri timalephera kukhala pachiwopsezo chogawana izi. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tipite kumeneko.

Pa Feb. 24, 2012, ndinali mchipatala, ndikubweretsa mwana wanga wamkazi wakhanda kuti adziwe za tsogolo lake. Patatha milungu ingapo, nditabwereranso kuntchito yanga yaukatswiri pachipatala china chotumizira omenyera ufulu wawo, ndidazindikira kuti tsiku lomwelo, nthawi yomweyo mwana wanga wamkazi amabadwa, wodwala wanga anali mgulu lina a chipatala chomwecho-atapopa m'mimba atayesa kuzimitsa kuwala kwa moyo mkati mwake.

Ndimachita manyazi kuvomereza izi, koma zomwe ndidayamba kuchita ndidakwiya. Lingaliro langa loyamba linali "Kodi angandichite bwanji izi ?!" Monga katswiri wama psychology, ndikudziwa kuti mkwiyo nthawi zambiri umakhala wophimba anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo. Nditakumba pansi pamkwiyo wanga, ndidapeza chitsime chachikulu chamantha ndikukhumudwa ndikusowa chochita.

Momwe ndikulemba m'buku langa lomwe langotulutsidwa kumene NKHONDO: Momwe Mungathandizire Omwe Amatiteteza , uku kunali kusakanikirana kodziwika bwino: Ndidaziwonapo kale, pankhope ndi m'maso mwa odwala anga, atabwera pamisonkhano atataya bwenzi lawo lankhondo, wina yemwe adapulumuka pakuwombedwa ndi mdani koma kenako adagwa-- kudzanja lawo.

M'magawo awa, za ine tsopano, panali kupsa mtima koyambirira komwe kumazungulira mchipindacho, osafunikira. Ndipo pansi pamkwiyo uwu, panali mantha ndi chisoni komanso kusowa chochita. Monga ine, adafunsa mafunso opanda mayankho omveka, mafunso owawa m'matumbo monga:

"Zikutanthauza chiyani za ine komanso ubale wathu kuti sanandiwuze zowawa zake?"

“Bwanji sanandikhulupirire ndi izi? Kodi sakudziwa kuti ndikadasiya zonse ndikukwera ndege yotsatira akanangondidalira? "

"Ngati wina wamphamvu ngati uyu atha kudzipha, zikutanthauza chiyani kwa ine?"

Kuphatikiza pa mantha, panali kukayikira ponseponse pazinthu monga: ’Ngati sindikanatha kuwona izi zikubwera, ndiye izi zikutanthauza chiyani kwa ena omwe ndingataye? Ndikusowanso chiyani? ”

Mafunso awa, zowawa izi, ndizofala kwa anthu ambiri, ndipo mutuwo ndikuti omwe amasamala ndi omwe amalimbana ndi zowawa izi.

Odwala akadzipha, azachipatala amandiuza kuti, kwakanthawi, amavutika kukhulupirira zikhalidwe zawo zamankhwala. Atha kukhala ndi chidwi chambiri pokhudzana ndi kutayika kwa wodwala wina.

Mapulogalamu odziletsa nthawi zambiri amalimbikitsa kuphunzitsa anthu kuzindikira zizindikilo zodzipha. Tikuwoneka kuti tikuganiza kuti zizindikirazo mwina zikuwoneka.

Kwa ife omwe chithandizo chathu chikuyang'anira odwala, omenyera ufulu wakale komanso omwe akuyankha koyambirira, zomwe ndikuganiza kuti timayiwala nthawi zina ndikuti ankhondo athu ali ndi luso lotha kubisa ululu wawo. Sindikunena kuti ndizoyipa kuphunzitsidwa kuzindikira zizindikirazo. Ndibwino kudziwa zizindikilozo - koma ndikofunikanso kusinthasintha izi ndikumvetsetsa kuti palibe amene amawona X-ray wamaganizidwe.

Ndipo sizomveka kukakamiza atsogoleri - kapena azachipatala - kuti awerenge pakati pamizere ngati kuti ali ndi mphamvu yachisanu ndi chimodzi. Theka lina la equation ndi iyi: Tiyeneranso kuthana ndi vuto la kusalidwa komanso manyazi ndikupanga chikhalidwe chomwe anthu angamve kuti ndi otetezeka kunena kuti "sindili bwino."

Kuyesera kudzipha kwa msirikali, woyendetsa sitima, woyendetsa sitima zapamadzi, woyendetsa ndege, kapena wodwala wazachipatala kuti adziphe sikokwanira ngati umboni wakulephera kugwira ntchito yake. Kudzimva kuti tili ndi udindo wazinthu zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira kumangopweteka kumene nthawi zambiri kumakhala kopanda phindu. Ngati anthu atembenuza ululuwu kukhala wolakwa kapena lingaliro loti "akadayenera" kuchita china chake, ndiye kuti izi zitha kuwaika pachiwopsezo chachikulu chazotsatira zawo.

Kudziwa zizindikilo sikokwanira; Udindo umakhalanso ndi ife tikamavutika kuti tidutse malire amantha ndikuuza omwe timawakonda ndi kudalira kuti timawafuna. Mu ubale uliwonse, ngakhale muubwenzi wazachipatala, kudalirana ndi njira ziwiri.