Tiyeni Tisiye Kuyeserera Kupanga Mliri Waubwana "Wabwinobwino"

Mwezi watha Nyuzipepala ya New York Times adafalitsa nkhani yotchedwa "Screen Screen ya Ana Yakula Kwambiri M'kulimbana, Makolo Oopsa ndi Ofufuza." Ndi zinthu zowopsa. Chidutswacho chili ndi mawu owopsa monga "epic achire" ndi "bongo" komanso "kutaya" ana ukadaulo. Zimayerekezera kuchotsa ana kusukulu ndi "kulalikira kuti musamamwe mowa."

Chani?!

Tili mu mliri.

Chilichonse ndichosiyana.

Kukhala ndi ana kwathetsa kale moyo wa makolo, monga zafotokozedwera m'nkhani ina mu Nyuzipepala ya New York Times lotchedwa "Amayi Atatu Pamphepete."

Malangizo anga kwa atolankhani komanso akatswiri omwe amafunsira? Lekani kuwopseza makolo.

Inde, nthawi yophimba pakati pa ana ndi achinyamata yakula kwambiri mu 2020 ndi 2021 kuposa kale. Koma izi ndizofunikira mderalo, osati tsoka. Zithunzi ndizogwirizana pakuphunzira, kulumikizana ndi anzawo, komanso kusangalatsa ana athu pompano. Malangizo athu apano pozungulira ana ndi zowonera amatengera zomwe amaganiza asanafike ndi mliri. Kuyesera kugwiritsa ntchito malangizowa tsopano kulakwitsa chifukwa tili m'dziko losiyana kwambiri ndi momwe tidalili chaka chatha. Zingakhale ngati kudandaula za ndege chifukwa sitingathe kutsitsa mawindo kuti tipeze mpweya wabwino tikamayenda mgalimoto zathu.

Ganizirani Chithunzi Chachikulu

Tiyeni tiganizire chithunzi chachikulu. Gawo lililonse la miyoyo ya ana lakhudzidwa ndi mliriwu pamlingo wina — zoperewera zolumikizana ndi anthu, kuphunzira, ndi kusewera sizinali zosankha. Kupulumuka kwa mliri kwakhala patsogolo. Kupitilizabe kulumikizana ndi digito kwathandiza ana kupitiliza mbali zina za miyoyo yawo, ngakhale m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Koma ndiye mfundoyi. Ndizosiyana kwathunthu. “Zoyenera” zakale sizothandiza pakadali pano — zilibe.

Ndipo ena mwa magawo "akulu oyipa" a NY Times , m'malingaliro mwanga, zinali zopusa. Mnyamata wina adapeza mpumulo m'masewera ake pomwe galu wabanja lake adamwalira. Ndiye? Inde anatero. Tonsefe timayang'ana mtendere pang'ono ndi chitonthozo ndikumva chisoni. Izi sizomwe zimayambitsa matenda. Chisoni chimabwera m'mafunde ndipo kupulumuka mafunde akulu ndikovuta. Ndani sanapeze chitonthozo polankhula ndi mnzake kapena ngakhale nthawi zina ntchito, kuti zinthu zizimvekanso ngati zikulira maliro? Ndipo pakadali pano mwana uyu sangapite kunyumba kwa mnzake kuti akacheze, kuti asokoneze, chifukwa chake masewerawa ndi yankho losinthika.

Nkhani ina m'nkhaniyi ndi yokhudza bambo amene amamva kuti wamwalira mwana wake ndipo walephera monga kholo chifukwa mwana wake wazaka 14 amaganiza kuti foni yake ndi "moyo wake wonse". Miyoyo ya ana inali kusamukira kuma foni awo mliriwu usanachitike. Ndipo asanafike mafoni am'manja, monga ana azaka 14, tinasamukira kuchipinda chodyeramo, waya yolumikizidwa, pomwe tidakhala mumdima ndikulankhula ndi anzathu, ndipo makolo athu adatidzudzula chifukwa chosafuna kucheza nawo panonso. Ana a msinkhu umenewo amayenera kutuluka kuti alumikizane ndi anzawo-akumanga okha. Tiyenera kutayika pang'ono pofika pano. Ndipo pakadali pano kulumikizana ndi anzawo ndi miyoyo yawo ili m'malo okhala ndi digito chifukwa ndizo njira zokha zomwe mungachite. Tithokoze kuti atengapo gawo pantchito yachitukuko iyi. Kusunthira kwamakhalidwe awa m'malo a digito ndikusintha, osati kowopsa.

Tonsefe Timafunikira Chiwombankhanga

Kutayika, chisoni, komanso mantha munthawi ya mliri ndizowona. Ubongo wathu uli m'malo oyenera atcheru. Izi ndizotopetsa-mwakuthupi, mwanzeru, komanso mwamalingaliro. Ndipo zikadutsa, zimavuta kubwezera - kubwerera ku chilichonse monga maziko athu. Timafunikira nthawi kuti tizimasulira, osachita chilichonse, kuti tidzipatse chilolezo chowonjezeranso mafuta. Nthawi zonse timafunikira izi m'miyoyo yathu; Nthawi yopumula ndiyofunikira kuti tikhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ndipo tikuchifuna tsopano kuposa kale.

Kufunika kwa "kukhetsa ubongo" sizowona kwa ana kuposa akulu. M'malo mwake, m'njira zambiri, ana amatopa kwambiri. Akuwongolera zovuta zonse zomwe zimakhalapo pakukula monga kumanga ubongo ndi thupi, kukulitsa maluso am'malingaliro ndi machitidwe, ndikuyenda m'madzi achinyengo aubwana ndiunyamata. Ndipo tsopano akuchita izi ndi mliri. Nthawi zina ana amangofunika kukhala pawokha osaganizira kwambiri chilichonse. Ndipo mwina, mwina, akuchifuna ngakhale tsopano.

Kutengera Kafukufuku Wogwirizana

Malingaliro owopsa a nkhaniyi akuphatikizaponso kutchula zolemba zofufuza zomwe zimatanthauza zoyipa kwambiri za ana ndi zowonera. Nkhani imodzi yomwe amalumikizana nayo ndi yokhudza kusintha kwaubongo komwe kumawoneka mwa achikulire omwe ali ndi Internet Gaming Disorder, yofalitsidwa kale mliriwu usanachitike. Zomwe zatchulidwanso ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Julayi 2020 wotsatira nthawi yomwe ana ang'ono amakhala pazenera. Ofufuzawo adagwiritsanso ntchito momwe ana anali kulumikizira zinthu za achikulire, mwachidziwikire makolo awo osadziwa. Deta yofufuzirayi inasonkhanitsidwanso mliriwu usanachitike, popeza nkhaniyi inavomerezedwa kuti ifalitsidwe mu Marichi 2020.

Kupeza zosagwirizana ndi zaka zakubadwa komanso kuthekera kwa kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazenera pazovuta ndi zovuta ndizomwe zimayambitsanso mliriwu ndipo sizodziwika kwenikweni ndi miliri. Vuto pakupereka izi mu New York Times ndikuti imaganiza kuti magwiritsidwe ntchito azithunzi pazaka za COVID-19 amangobweretsa zovuta zapamwamba zomwe zafufuzidwa. Sitingachite izi. Tilibe njira yodziwira zomwe zingachitike, ngati zingachitike. M'malo mwake, titha kulingalira njira zomwe mavutowa angachepere. Mwinanso makolo ndi ana omwe amakhala kunyumba kwambiri ndikugwiritsa ntchito zowonera pafupipafupi zotere zimathandizira kuti mumvetsetse bwino komanso mwatsatanetsatane mu digito yomwe ingachepetse mavutowa ndi / kapena kupereka mayankho ochepetsa mavutowo.

Kuphulika kwadzidzidzi kwadzidzidzi komanso nthawi yophimba zabweretsa zovuta kwa makolo, aphunzitsi, ndi akatswiri azaumoyo wa ana mzaka zapitazi zapitazi, popeza ana athu a Gen Z anali mbadwa zoyambirira zadijito. Zowopsa zanthawi yochulukirapo pazenera, makamaka ngati zikulowa m'malo mwazinthu zina zofunika kuchita monga kucheza, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndikuchita ntchito yakusukulu, zimadziwika ndikofunikira kuphunzira. Komabe, kupezeka kwa zochitika zonsezi kwasintha kwambiri mdziko lathu lino. Izi sizitanthauza kuti timanyalanyaza kufunika kochita zinthu zina; zimangotanthauza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito muyezo wakale "wamba" sikugwira ntchito pano. Izi sizitanthauza kuti ndi zoyipa kapena zoyipa — ndizomwe ziyenera kuchitika pano kuti mupulumuke.

Tili m'malo opwetekedwa mtima pamodzi ndikulira. Tili munjira yopulumuka. Zosintha ndi kusiyana kwa magwiridwe athu ntchito kulipira misonkho yathu yonse, mkati ndi kunja, kwa ana ndi akulu omwe. Timasintha, monga kugwiritsa ntchito zowonetsera zambiri, m'dzina la kupulumuka. Sitili mu "Nthawi Zakale," ndipo sitingakhale ndi chiyembekezo chokhazikitsidwa munthawi imeneyo. Tikusintha chifukwa tiyenera kutero, komanso ana athu.

Kodi Kuyesa Kuyesa Kuli Ndi Mavuto Otani?

Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani zingakhale zowopsa kuyesera kupanga ubwana "wabwinobwino" kwa ana pompano? Kodi ndi vuto lanji poyesa? Zambiri. Chodziwika kwambiri ndikulakwa komanso kutaya mtima makolo amamva ngati timanena kuti ndife "olephera" ana athu pomwe sitingathe kukhala "abwinobwino." Maganizo olakwikawa amawononga zomwe tili nazo kale, kutipatsa madzi ochepa oti titha kusintha momwe tikumvera ndikuthana ndi mavuto omwe akukhala padziko lapansi masiku ano.

Vuto lina lalikulu ndikuchulukitsa mikangano yosafunikira ndi ana athu. Ngati cholinga chathu ndikuti ana athu (ndi ife) tiganizire, kumva, ndikukhala moyenera "(monga momwe mliri unalili kale), izi zitha kukhumudwitsa aliyense - pambuyo pofuula komanso kulira mbali zonse, china chake chomwe sitifunikiranso masiku ano. Padzakhala nthawi zochuluka osazipangitsa kukhala zoyipa ndikuyembekezera zosatheka.

Pomaliza, ngati timangoganizira zosunga zinthu momwe zimakhalira, timakhala pachiwopsezo chochepetsa kuthekera kwa ana athu kuti azolowere zatsopano komanso zosadziwika. Kulenga, kukula, komanso kusintha ndizofunikira kwambiri munthawi yosintha kwambiri komanso kupsinjika kwakukulu. Kuyesera kusunga zinthu chimodzimodzi-kukhazikitsa "zachibadwa" monga cholinga-kungatichotsere njira zopangira maluso awa ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito.

Chifukwa chake, Kodi Makolo Ayenera Kuchita Chiyani?

Dulani nokha ndi ana anu nthawi yopuma. Musachite mantha ndi mitu yankhani zowopsa komanso zonamizira za ana omwe ali mliriwu. Iwo akupulumuka. Nkhani zawo, mwakutanthauzira, zikhala gawo la nthawi imeneyi komanso kusokonekera kwakale kuyambira nthawi ndi nkhani zam'mbuyomu. Kuvomereza izi sikusintha zotayika komanso mantha omwe tonsefe timakhala nawo munthawi ino. Zimangotipatsa mwayi wamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro kuti tisiye kuyesera kupanga moyo monga kale. Chifundo ndi chisomo cha ntchito yodabwitsa yomwe aliyense akuchita kuti apitilize ndizofunikira kwa tonsefe. Chidwi chokhudza zomwe ana athu akumana nacho chingakhale cholimbikitsira ulendowu, pomwe kuyesa kuwongolera nthanoyo kumatilepheretsa ndipo kumabweretsa chisokonezo, mikangano, komanso kudziimba mlandu.