A Mid-Life Conundrum: Nthawi ndi Momwe Mungathandizire Makolo Okalamba

Sindinakhalepo pa blog iyi nthawi yachilimwe, mwina chifukwa ndakhala ndikuchezera abale achikulire: makolo anga, apongozi anga, azakhali anga ndi amalume anga. Poima paliponse, panali zambiri zoti aganizire potengera zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku za anthu azaka za makumi asanu ndi atatu kapena makumi asanu ndi atatu. Pamene tikuyamba kumva ukalamba wathu, ambiri a ife pakati pa moyo timakhalanso ndi nkhawa za makolo athu okalamba ndi abale ena ndikudzifunsa ngati akufuna thandizo ndi momwe angayambire.

Ngati atakhala motalika kokwanira, okalamba amatha kuchepa mphamvu, kulumikizana, kuwona, kumva, kukumbukira kapena kuyenda, kudzera pakuphatikizika kwa ukalamba komanso zovuta zamatenda. Pofika nthawi yomwe anthu amakhala azaka zapakati pa makumi asanu ndi atatu, ndipo nthawi zina m'mbuyomu, kudziyimira pawokha pazinthu zatsiku ndi tsiku kumatha kusokonekera, makamaka pantchito zomwe othandizira zaumoyo ndi ofufuza amazitcha zida zothandiza pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku (IADL's), monga kuphika chakudya , kugula zinthu, kuyendetsa galimoto kapena kugwiritsa ntchito zoyendera za onse, kusamalira ndalama, ndi kuyeretsa. Izi zimasiyanitsidwa ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku (ADL's), zomwe zimaphatikizapo ntchito zawo monga kusamba, kuvala, kuchimbudzi, ndi kudya.

Achibale atha kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kusankha nthawi yolowererapo komanso nthawi yoti achokere okha okwanira achibale okalamba. Nthawi zambiri zowona zake sizodabwitsa kapena zowonekeratu. Koma kusintha kosazindikirika komwe kumachitika pakapita nthawi kumatha kupanga magwiridwe antchito pawokha kukhala kovuta pang'ono kapena koopsa. Timayamba kuganiza kuti zinthu sizili chimodzimodzi ndikuti mwina china chake chiyenera kuchitidwa.

Zachidziwikire, kholo lanu kapena makolo anu atha kukhala otanganidwa kale kupeza chithandizo. Koma nthawi zambiri, okalamba iwowo samadziwa ngati angafune thandizo kapena zomwe angagwiritse ntchito. Mwina sangadziwe kuti ntchito zilipo kapena kuti abale awo atha kuthandiza. Ndi malo abwino kuyamba ndikufotokozera nkhaniyi, "Kodi mukuganiza kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo lina ...?"

Kuwona momwe zinthu ziliri ndi makolo okalamba mtunda wautali zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri. Zizindikiro zomwe mwina sizingakhale bwino zimaphatikizapo kusintha kwina kulikonse pakuyimba foni: umboni wochulukirapo wosokonezeka kapena kuyiwala, nkhawa zambiri kapena zodandaula, kapena chete. Zonsezi zikusonyeza kuti moyo wanu ukhoza kukhala wopanikizika kwambiri kapena kuti china chake chitha kukhala cholakwika, kuyambira koyambirira kwa matenda amisala mpaka vuto la kukhumudwa.

Munthu wachikulire yemwe alibe zambiri zoti anene poyankha "Mwatani lero?" itha kukhala ndi mayendedwe ochepa komanso kudzipatula pagulu. Okalamba akulephera kuyenda bwinobwino ndipo motsimikizika, amayamba kuchepa malo awo okhala kunja kupita kumaulendo ochepa komanso mkati kupita kudera laling'ono la nyumbayo. Atha kukhala kuti sakukweranso masitepe, akuyenda m'njira yayitali, kapenanso kutuluka pampando pafupipafupi.

Mukamva za kugwa, komwe kumayambitsa kuvulala kwa okalamba, mudzafunika kufunsa komwe kugwa kunachitika komanso nthawi yanji masana kapena usiku. Kodi munthu wachikulireyo anali kuyesera kuti akwaniritse kena kake? Kodi anali kumwa kapena kusakaniza mankhwala ndi mowa asanagwe? Pakhoza kukhala vuto ndi kuchepa kwa madzi m'thupi kapena kusowa zakudya m'thupi (zomwe zingayambitse chizungulire kapena kukomoka)? Kodi anali kuvala nsapato zoyenera kapena anali kugwiritsa ntchito ndodo / choyendera? Kodi zopukutira zing'onozing'ono kapena mateti apansi adamupititsa?

Nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosavuta kuti mumvetsetse momwe zinthu zilili pamasom'pamaso. Kuchezera kumapereka chithunzithunzi chachangu cha wokalamba ndipo mutha kukulitsa kulemera kwa wachibale wanu, kuyenda kwake, kudzikongoletsa, mawonekedwe ake, ndi momwe akumvera. Mbendera zofiira zoti muziyang'ana mnyumba kapena mnyumba zimaphatikizapo kusowa kwa chakudya chatsopano mufiriji kapena makabati, zinyalala zomwe sizinatsanuliridwe kwanthawi yayitali, mbale zonyansa zambiri kapena zochapa zovala, ziweto zomwe sizikulandila chidwi, kapena zikwangwani za kusadziletsa kosakwanira.

Ngati simuli pafupi, mungaganizire zogwiritsa ntchito a Geriatric Care Manager (onani mndandanda wazinthu zomwe zili pansipa) kuti mupite kunyumba kukayesa ukatswiri ndi wachibale wanu wachikulire.

Kusintha kwakukulu pakugwira ntchito kungafune kusamukira kumalo otetezeka komwe kumakhala chisamaliro ndi ntchito. Koma "chisamaliro chanthawi yayitali" chimachitika m'nyumba za anthu, m'malo mwamagulu, kuphatikiza ntchito zolamulidwa ndi asing'anga monga Physical Therapy ndi Occupational Therapy. Ndipo okalamba ambiri amatha kukhala m'nyumba zawo ndi chithandizo chochepa chabe chantchito zatsiku ndi tsiku.

Zina mwazofunikira kwambiri kwa munthu yemwe ali "wokalamba mmalo mwake" zimaphatikizapo kuthandizira kukonza chakudya ndi kugula malo ogulitsira, kuchita ntchito zina, kukonza ndandanda komanso kupita kuchipatala (kuphatikiza kwa dotolo wamaso, dokotala wa mano, dokotala wa mano, ndi maulendo ena omwe samachitika pafupipafupi), kasamalidwe ka mankhwala, kusintha zofunda, kuchapa zovala, komanso kuyeretsa kunyumba kwakanthawi ndi ntchito zapanyengo. Ngakhale kusanja ndi kuyang'anira makalata kumatha kukhala cholemetsa chodabwitsa kwa okalamba.

Mabanja akazindikira kuti pali zosowa zomwe sanakwaniritse, atha kusamalira mwamwayi, mwachitsanzo pochezera pafupipafupi, kuwunika pafupipafupi, kupanga tsiku lokhala ndi nthawi yoti agule, kapena kukonza kuti wina azitsuka kapena kuthandiza ntchito zina. Ndibwino kugawana nkhawa ndi zosowa zomwe mumaziwona ndi achibale ena, ngakhale omwe sakhala pafupi; lembani oyandikana nawo ngati kuli kotheka, ndipo lankhulani ndi okalamba panjira yonse kuti apatsidwe mawu pokonzekera. Makolo anu amathanso kukhala ndi malingaliro pazinthu zina zomwe mwina simukuzidziwa.

Ngati chithandizo chamwadzidzidzi kuchokera kwa abale kapena abwenzi sichingatheke kapena sichokwanira, njira zina zoyambira ndi kuthandiza abale okalamba ndi izi:

• Boma lirilonse liri ndi Dipatimenti Yoyang'anira Okalamba ndi Madera Othandizira Okalamba (AoA) omwe angakupatseni mwayi wopezeka kuzithandizo zosiyanasiyana, zina zoyesedwa (zopezeka kwa akulu omwe amalandila ndalama zochepa) ndipo zina zimatha kupezeka kwaulere kwa aliyense wopitilira zaka 60 kapena 65. Mwachitsanzo, Chakudya pa Magudumu a chakudya chamadzulo cham'nyumba chotentha chimapezeka pafupifupi mdera lililonse ku US ndipo chimaperekedwa pamtengo wotsika kwambiri kapena popereka ndalama. Kuti mupeze Dipatimenti Yanu Yokalamba, onani apa: http://aoa.gov/AoARoot/AoA_Programs/OAA/How_To_Find/Agencies/find_agency.aspx

• Malo ena oyambira kupeza ntchito zopezeka kwa okalamba ndi zambiri zothandiza ndi izi: www.eldercare.gov. Webusaitiyi ili ndi ulalo wa mndandanda wazinthu zomwe boma la Federal limagwiritsa ntchito pa intaneti zaumoyo wathanzi, nyumba, ndi maubwino, zidziwitso kwa omwe akuwasamalira, ndipo koposa zonse, njira yopezera ntchito ndi mzinda kapena zip code.

• Sing'anga Woyang'anira Wamkulu wa okalamba amatha kuwunika mbali zambiri zaumoyo wa munthuyo komanso momwe amagwirira ntchito ndipo atha kumutumiza kukawunikiridwa ndi akatswiri ena, mwachitsanzo. kukayezetsa kuchipatala ngati kuyenda kapena kulimbitsa thupi kwakhala vuto, kapena kwa katswiri wazamankhwala, wamaganizidwe amisala, kapena katswiri wina wazamankhwala pazovuta zina. Crème de la crème ya akatswiri azachipatala kwa okalamba ndi Geriatrician, dokotala yemwe amadziwika bwino pankhani za ukalamba. Zipatala zikuluzikulu zimapereka gulu lowunika zakuchipatala chifukwa cha zovuta za okalamba.

• Ngati wachikulire wagonekedwa posachedwa, mutha kulumikizana ndi omwe amakukonzerani kuchipatala / dipatimenti yantchito yantchito kuti mumupatse upangiri ndi kutumizidwa ngakhale wokalambayo wabwerera kale kunyumba.

• A Geriatric Care Manager, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala RN kapena wogwira ntchito zachitukuko ku MSW, atha kulembedwa ntchito kudzera kubungwe lazinsinsi kuti liwone zosowa za okalamba komanso momwe amakhalira kunyumba. Pokhapokha ngati izi zakonzedwa kudzera muntchito ya ndalama zochepa, azilipira ola limodzi kuti achite zowunikirazo, koma zina mwazithandizo zomwe anganene kuti zitha kulipiridwa ndi inshuwaransi kapena zitha kupezeka zotsika kapena zopanda mtengo kwa achikulire. Mutha kupeza a Geriatric Care Manager kudzera pa webusayiti iyi: www.caremanager.org

• Mabungwe a Zaumoyo Wanyumba (omwe nthawi zambiri amapangira phindu) ndi Ma Nursing Associations (omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala osachita phindu) amapereka othandizira okalamba ndi anzawo kwa okalamba ndi olumala, kulipira inshuwaransi yomwe ilipo komanso ndalama zolipira payokha. Mabungwewa amasiyanasiyana pamayeso omwe amawunika: ena amatumiza Geriatric Care Manager kuti akaunike mosamala momwe zinthu ziliri mnyumba, pomwe ena amangotumiza ogwira ntchito kuntchito iliyonse ndi maola omwe mungafune. Monga mabungwe osowa ntchito kwakanthawi, mabungwewa amatenga mitengo yokwera ola lililonse kuposa omwe amalipira antchito awo, komanso amawunika, kutsimikizira, kuyang'anira, komanso kukonza ndandanda wa ogwira ntchito.

• Alzheimer's Association (www.alz.org) ili ndi chuma chambiri kwa mabanja omwe wokondedwa wawo ali ndi matenda a misala - chidziwitso cha pa intaneti, magulu othandizira am'deralo komanso otumizidwa kuzithandizo. Mabungwe ena omwe ali ndi zochitika zina zomwe zimakhudza anthu okalamba, monga Parkinson ndi nyamakazi, ali ndi masamba awo ophunzitsira, magulu othandizira ndi zothandizira ena.

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