Ndi ana okhawo omwe akuchita bwino kuposa momwe mukuganizira

Malingaliro akuwoneka kuti ndikuti mwana yekhayo ndi makolo ake ali ndi nthawi yovuta kukhala kwayokha kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa ana omwe ali ndi abale awo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti Covid-19 adapanga banja latsopano la zonse mabanja. Zovuta sizofanana, koma zilipo.

Chifukwa chalingaliro logwirizana, makolo a m'modzi amatha kumva kukhala olakwa ndikuganiza kuti mwana wawo angakhale wokhutira ngati pakhala mchimwene wawo mnyumba. Mwina inde, mwina ayi.

Ngati ndinu kholo la mwana yekhayo, khalani okondwa kuti simukuthetsa mikangano, yothetsa mikangano yomwe ikukulirakulira kapena kuyang'anira kupempha chidwi cha makolo payekhapayekha. Ana akatopa, makolo adzaitanidwa ngakhale atasewera masewera angati ndikudzaza mipata. Ndikumva madandaulo ochokera kwa ana omwe ali ndi abale kapena opanda abale: Anzawo sangathe kuyendera, sukulu yatsekedwa, palibe zochitika zina zakunja. Amandiuza kuti alibe chochita.

Ndi ana okha omwe amakhala nthawi yambiri ali okha ndipo ambiri ali ndi luso logwiritsa ntchito nthawi yowonjezerayi yomwe anthu akupanga. Mkhalidwe wa abale samakhudzana kwenikweni ndi kuthekera kwa mwana kuti azisangalatsa. Muli ndi abale anu kapena mulibe, mwana m'modzi angafunike kuti muzimusungira nthawi; wina akhoza kukhala wodziyimira pawokha, wokhoza kudzisangalatsa yekha ndikukhala wokhutira kwathunthu ndi zida zake.

Kudzaza Mipata

Makolo a ana okhawo nthawi zambiri amawona kuti amafunika kukhala omwe amadzaza nthawi ya mwana wawo kuti mwana wawo asasungulumwe kapena kunyong'onyeka. Kuchotsera pazida zawo ndipo popanda kulowererapo kwa makolo, ndi ana okha omwe amagwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yomwe ali nayo. Mukakhala ndi nkhawa kuti mwana wanu atopa kapena kusungulumwa popanda m'bale wake kuti azisewera naye, ganizirani zofunikira komanso zothandiza panthawi yokhayokha.

Imalimbikitsa luso, ndipo koposa zonse, imalimbikitsa ufulu wodziyimira pawokha wa mwana komanso kutha kumusangalatsa-zonsezo zimathandiza mwana akamakula. M'buku lake, Wobowoleza Komanso Wanzeru: Momwe Kutalikirana Kungatithandizire Kukhala Wopindulitsa Kwambiri Komanso Wopanga Zinthu, Manuoush Zomorodi, akufotokoza kuti "Kutopa kumabweretsa msuwani wake wapamtima, kumangoyendayenda ... Kulola malingaliro anu kuti azingozungulira ndiye chinsinsi cha luso komanso zokolola."

Lumikizani, Lumikizani, Lumikizani

Khalani ololera pazolumikizana ndi intaneti. Ngati mwana wanu yekhayo akudandaula, zindikirani kuti watopa, khalani wachifundo kuti adziwe kuti mumumva, pokumbukira kuti intaneti ndiyothandiza kwambiri kwa ana ambiri ndipo imathandiza kwambiri ana okhaokha pomwe kudzipatula kukugwirabe ntchito. Makolo omwe adakhazikitsa malire ochezera anzawo pa intaneti adzafunika kulola nthawi yochulukirapo pa intaneti ngati njira yolumikizirana ndi anzawo.

Kafukufuku wa ana ang'ono komanso nthawi yawo yapaintaneti, yotsogozedwa ndi a Douglas Downey, pulofesa wazamakhalidwe a anthu ku The Ohio State University, sananenepo pang'ono zakusokoneza luso la ana kucheza ndi anzawo. Ofufuzawo adasanthula ana opitilira 30,000 kudzera m'makalasi asanu akugwiritsa ntchito kuwunika kwa aphunzitsi ndi makolo ndikupeza kuti, "Pafupifupi kufanizira komwe tidapanga, maluso azikhalidwe sizinasinthe kapena zidakwera pang'ono."

Pali zosankha zokambirana zosatha ndipo mwana wanu mwina amawadziwa. Mwachitsanzo, pali Game Pigeon - pulogalamu ya iPad kapena iPhone yokhala ndi masewera 20 osiyanasiyana kuchokera ku tchesi ndi chess mpaka basketball, mivi ndi gofu kakang'ono.

Ana ndi achinyamata omwe amatumizirana mameseji amachita zomwe amachita nthawi zonse — amalumikizana pa intaneti komanso kudzera m'mapulogalamu osiyanasiyana komanso pafoni yawo. Ngati mudawonapo ana pama foni awo am'manja atakhala limodzi m'chipinda chimodzi, mwina mwazindikira kuti sagwirizana kupatula kungolemba mawu. Zonsezi zolumikizana zimadzaza nthawi, zimasunga maubwenzi anzawo ndipo zimathandiza kuti mwana wanu azikhala wotanganidwa komanso kuti asayang'ane mwamantha ndi nkhawa zomwe sitingathe kuzipewa pa nkhani.

Masulani Diso Lanu Losamala

Mwanjira ina, mwana yekhayo amakhala ndi chizolowezi chomuganizira ndipo izi zokha zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kukhala pafupi kwambiri ndi 24/7. Komabe, ngati mwana wanu yekhayo sanakonde kukhala wofunika kwambiri asanasinthe, mwina sangakonde pano.

Makolo ambiri omwe ali ndi ana okha amavomereza kuti amachita zochuluka kwambiri zomwe mwana yekhayo angathe kuchita ndikuyenera kuchita. Kuyenda pagulu ndi mwayi wobwereranso ndikupatsa mwana wanu yekhayo udindo wambiri. Ikani wamkulu kuyang'anira kuchapa kapena kuphika chakudya masiku angapo sabata kapena kupukuta. Mudzadabwa kuona kuti mwana — ngakhale amene amadandaula — amayamba kumva bwino akamapereka ndalama kubanja. Kukhazikika m'makomo kukukumbutsani kuti mwana wanu ndi wochokera m'banja ndipo sayenera kukhala womuzindikira nthawi zonse.

Lonjezani Dziko la Mwana Wanu Yekhayo

Pokhapokha mutakhala ndi khanda kapena mwana wakhanda, mwana wanu azikumbukira kubisalapo. Limbikitsani kumvera ena chisoni ndi kulimbitsa kulumikizana ndi abale ndi abwenzi apamtima. Khalani ndi chizolowezi chocheza makanema kapena FaceTime ochezera ndi agogo aamuna, azakhali awo, amalume awo ndi azibale awo. Izi zimathandiza kukumbutsa mwana yekhayo za nthandizo yake yayikulu ndipo zitha kumubweretsa kufupi ndi abale anu kupyola inu.

Dziperekeni m'njira zomwe zimakhudza mwana wanu. Gulani oyandikana nawo okalamba kuti mwana wanu abwere nanu mukadzasiya kugula pakhomo pawo. Nenani zakufunika komwe zopereka zimafunikira ndipo perekani ngati mungathe. Funsani anu okha kuti muitane agogo ake kapena wina m'banjamo yemwe akuvutika kuti awone momwe akupangidwira masiku angapo. Bwerani ndi manja osamalira omwe adzakhalapo patadutsa mliriwu.

Limbikitsani Kwambiri

Kafukufuku omwe adachitika kuyambira 1978 komanso aposachedwa akuwonetsa kuti ndi ana okha omwe amakonda kukhala pafupi ndi makolo awo kuposa ana omwe ali ndi abale awo. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi wokhala kutali kuti mukhale paubwenzi: Onjezani kukumbukira kwa mwana wanu poyambitsa miyambo yatsopano yomwe banja lanu silinachite kale - phunzirani kusewera chess, mlatho, backgammon kapena masewera ena omwe kholo kapena mwana sanasewerepo. Yesani kuphika mikate yosiyanasiyana kapena yambani pulogalamu yatsopano yochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi yomwe nonse mungachite.

Chifukwa cha mgwirizano wokhala ndi mwana yekhayo, ana ambiri okha ndi omwe amakhala tcheru ndikumvetsetsa malingaliro ndi malingaliro a makolo awo. Kuperewera kwa abale ndi alongo kusinthitsa kapena kufalitsa nkhawa za makolo, kumbukirani kusunga kupsinjika kwanu ndi nkhawa kuti mupewe mwana wanu yekhayo kuyamwa ndikunyamula zolemetsa zosagwirizana ndi msinkhu wake.

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