Kusakhutira Kwanokha: Chifukwa Chiyani Zimawuka Ndipo Momwe Mungagonjetsere Kumverera Kwawo?

Zamkati

• Kusakhutitsidwa kumatha kukhudza pafupifupi zokumana nazo zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku.
• Kusakhutira komwe sikuthandiza
• Momwe mungathetsere

Kusakhutitsidwa kumatha kukhudza pafupifupi zokumana nazo zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku.

Miyoyo yathu yonse mwachibadwa timakhala osakhutira, mwina pokhudzana ndi moyo wathu wamunthu, wachisoni kapena waluso. Komabe, kusakhutira kumeneko kukatenga nthawi yayitali kumadzetsa kusapeza bwino, kumachepetsa moyo wanu ndipo mumamva kukhala wovuta kwambiri mu ubale wanu kapena ndi inu nokha. Nchifukwa chiyani mumamva kukhala osakhutitsidwa kapena osakhutitsidwa? Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji kumverera kumeneko?

Mwakutero, kutengeka uku, malingaliro ake komanso kutanthauzira pazomwe zikuchitika sizabwino kwenikweni. Kusakhutira ndi gawo la moyo wathu ndipo kumatithandiza kuzindikira zomwe tiyenera kusintha m'miyoyo yathu; koma… kodi kusinthako ndichinthu chomwe mukufuna kapena chomwe mukuwopa kukumana nacho? Kusakhutira kumakuthandizani kukwaniritsa zosintha zomwe mukufuna, koma ngati kusakhutira kumangokhala kosasintha, vuto ndi linanso.

Kusakhutira komwe sikuthandiza

Mukakhala kuti simukukhutira kapena kukhutitsidwa ndi gawo lina la moyo wanu, zikutanthauza kuti mukupanga kuwunika kolakwika pazomwe zikuchitika ndipo mumayang'ana pa zomwe mukufuna kukhala nazo, kukhala ndi moyo kapena zokumana nazo. Izi zikutanthawuza kuti tisiyane ndi zomwe zikuchitikadi ndikuyang'ana njira zingapo zomwe sizikuchitika, zomwe zimakhumudwitsa komanso kusakhutiritsa.

Zachidziwikire, mutha kusintha moyo wanu m'mbali iliyonse, ndipo ndichinthu chomwe chimabwera ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana komanso mosasinthasintha. Kusakhutira, makamaka, ndikumverera komwe kumakuthandizani kukwaniritsa zosinthazi (kusakhutira ndiye chiyambi chabe cha kusintha kwanu; mukufuna kusintha chifukwa mwatopa ndi zomwe zikuchitika). Vuto ndi pamene kusakhutira kumeneko sikuli mu zomwe mumachita… koma ndi zomwe zimakuzungulira (momwe mukumvera, mnzanu, anthu, momwe mumagwirira ntchito, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi zina zambiri)

Apa ndikufotokozera zomwe kusakhutira kumeneku kumaphatikizaponso ndi momwe mungathetsere kanema. Ngati mukufuna, mutha kusindikiza masewera kuti muwone, ngakhale ndikupitiliza ndi nkhani ili pansipa.

Kusakhutira kwanu ndikokhudzana ndi zakunja, monga machitidwe a ena, mawonekedwe awo, momwe akumvera, momwe zinthu ziliri, ndi zina zambiri, tili ndi vuto lina. Chifukwa chiyani? Kungoti chifukwa simungathe kuwongolera zomwe zimakuzungulira kapena anthu omwe mumacheza nawo kapena mumakhala nawo, mwanjira yapamtima kwambiri kapena yachiphamaso.

Kusakhutira ndimikhalidwe yosasangalatsa, pafupi ndi mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa, komwe kumadza chifukwa chodzifufuza wekha (zomwe mukuganiza kuti mukufunikira ndikuyenera kulumikizana ndi zina) ndi chilengedwe kapena ena potengera kuyerekezera: nthawi zonse pakhoza kukhala " mochulukira ". Koma fanizoli ndi lopanda pake. China chilichonse chimatsogolera ku china, ndi zina zotero mpaka kalekale. Umu ndi momwe kusakhutira kumatha kukhala chizolowezi m'moyo wanu: nthawi zonse mumawona zifukwa zakumverera koteroko ndipo mumatha kuwunika zenizeni zanu m'njira yolakwika.

Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chimakupangitsani kuti musamve okhutitsidwa kapena kukhuta? Ikani chidwi chanu panja ndikuwona kuti ndi gwero la moyo wabwino. Dziko lakunja ndichinthu chomwe simungathe kuchiwongolera, chifukwa chake, kukhala ndi ziyembekezo kapena kuyesa kuwongolera nthawi zonse kumabweretsa chisokonezo, nkhawa komanso kusakhutira ndiumwini.

Momwe mungathetsere

Kusakhutira ndi malingaliro, koma koposa zonse kumverera kosasangalatsa komanso mkhalidwe wamaganizidwe; Chifukwa chake, yankho lake ndikuphunzira kumvetsetsa ndikuwongolera osati kungotengeka kokha, koma malingaliro onse okhudzana (kusakhutira, kusatetezeka, kukhumudwitsidwa, mantha, ndi zina zambiri). Kuyesa konse komwe mumapanga kumachokera kukutengeka komwe kumakukhazikitsani pakumverera koteroko, kumasulira zomwe zimachitika ndikukhala ndi moyo.

Kusakhutira nthawi zambiri kumakhudzana ndi kusatetezeka (ndichifukwa chake mumayamikira kutengera kuyerekezera kapena, m'malo mwake, mukufuna kusintha nokha koma simumaliza kuchitapo kanthu). Kutengeka kwanu kumakhala nanu pamphindi iliyonse yamasana. Ndife ochezeka komanso koposa zonse. Kukhala wokondwa nthawi zonse, kutengeka sikuti kumangotengera malingaliro anu, komanso chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange, zochita zanu, momwe mumamasulira ndikuyamikira zomwe zimachitika, inunso ndi ena.

Mu empoderamientohumano.com Nthawi zambiri ndimapereka lingaliro lapadera kuti ndikwaniritse kusintha kwakukulu komanso kopambana m'moyo: ndikutenga gawo loyamba kuti mudzidziwe bwino ndikupeza zomwe zimachitika ndi momwe mungazithetsere pakusintha kwanu. Mutha kuzichita ndi gawo loyamba laulere lofufuzira kapena pulogalamu ya Pezani Chisangalalo, komwe mungapeze zofunikira kuti muchitepo kanthu koyamba.

Kugwira ntchito ndi inu kudzakhala kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wanu, chifukwa ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe mungakwanitse kudziwa. Simungathe kulamulira dziko lapansi, ingolilandirani ndikuphunzira kuyang'anitsitsa momasuka. Mantha ndi kusatetezeka ndi malingaliro omwe amakupangitsani kuti muziyang'ana pa zomwe mumawopa kapena zomwe simukuzikonda. Kuyambira kusintha kwanu, zina zonse zidzasintha, momwe malingaliro anu ndi mawonekedwe anu adzasinthire.