Kulera Amapasa Kukhala Anthu Amodzi ndi Anzanu Odalirika

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• Zomwe Makolo Amatha Kuchita Kuti Akhale Amodzi Mwa Ana Awo Amapasa
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Zomwe Makolo Amatha Kuchita Kuti Akhale Amodzi Mwa Ana Awo Amapasa

Kulera mapasa ndi ntchito yovuta yomwe imabweretsa mavuto apadera komanso ovuta pamaganizidwe ndi ntchito zomwe zimafunikira kuzindikira, kumvetsetsa, ndi kuthetsedwa. Kulera mapasa kumatenga nthawi ndikuganiza. Palibe mayankho osavuta kapena njira zazitali, zosasinthika zomwe mungachite. Pali njira zina zoyeserera komanso zowona zomwe makolo anzeru amagwiritsa ntchito. Zitsanzo za njira zothandiza ndi monga:

1. Kuvala mapasa mosiyana.

2. Kupatsa ana anu amapasa zipinda zogona ngati kuli kotheka.
3. Kulekanitsa mapasa kusukulu mwachangu, popeza nthawi ino kupatula kumathandiza mapasa kukula mwa iwo okha.
4. Kuonetsetsa kuti mapasa onse ali ndi anzawo komanso anzawo.
5. Kulimbikitsa zofuna zosiyana ngati kuli kotheka.
6. Kuphunzitsa ana anu kuti si zidole zonse ndi zovala zomwe zitha kugawidwa.
7. Kugwira ntchito ndi ana anu akamamenya nkhondo kuti mumvetse "za ndani" ndi "ndani amene walakwitsa" zomwe amati si vuto lawo.

Izi zikhulupiriro ndi zochita wamba ndizofunikira koma sizokwanira. Zosankha zaumwini za mikhalidwe yapadera ya mwana aliyense ziyenera kuzindikiridwa ndikukula.

Mosakayikira, chovuta kwambiri kwa makolo ndikupanga ubale wabwino komanso wosiyana, wopatukana ndi mwana aliyense. Kulumikizana kwakukulu pakati pa kholo ndi mwana kumateteza ana amapasa kuti asadziwike wina ndi mnzake. Kupanga ndikukula kwaumwini ndiye maziko aumoyo wamapasa kwa nthawi yayitali. Kupatsa ana anu mwayi wosankha komwe angawathandize kudzawathandiza kudzimva okha momasuka komanso mwachilengedwe.

Khalidwe la mwana aliyense limachokera pakukhudzana ndi kholo ndi mwana komanso mapasawo. Kafukufuku wanga akuwonetsa kuti mapasa ali ndi mawonekedwe amapasa ndipo amadziwika kuti ndi aliyense payekha. Zonsezi ndizolumikizana, zomwe zimayambitsa nkhondo, mkwiyo, komanso ziyembekezo zosatheka. Pamene kuphatikana kwa kholo ndi mwana kumalekanitsidwa chifukwa chakuphatikizidwa kwambiri kwamapasa, amapasa amadzizindikiritsa wina ndi mnzake ndikusokonezeka kuti ndani ali ndi udindo wosamalira zosowa zawo ndi zofuna zawo. Kukhazikika kumapangitsanso kudalirana wina ndi mnzake ndipo kumatha kubweretsa kumangidwa kwakukulu m'moyo wonse.

Amapasa amatha kuopa kukhala omwewo - opambana momwe angathere - chifukwa amaopseza kukhumudwitsa kapena kukhumudwitsa mchimwene kapena mlongo wawo chifukwa chokhala "wabwino." Kapenanso nthawi zina, mapasa sangathe kusiyanitsa pakati pa mapasa awo. Mwachitsanzo, ku sukulu ya mkaka mlongo wanga adatsanulira utoto m'mutu mwake ndipo ndinkalira chifukwa ndimaganiza kuti ndi vuto langa. Kusokonezeka kwa mapasa ndi vuto lalikulu kuti makolo aziyang'anira mosamala. Tsoka ilo, amayi anga samadziwa zoyipa zakundilola kusamalira mlongo wanga. Amayi anga alibe chidwi chazomwe timadziwa komanso kukwiya wina ndi mzake zidandilimbikitsa kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe amapasa amavutikira.

Makolo atha kugwira ntchito paokha mwa kuchitira khanda lililonse lokula ngati lapadera. Mwachitsanzo, a Twin A amakonda kukumvani mukuyimba "Rock a Bye, Khanda," pomwe a Twin B amakonda kumva inu mukuyimba "Old McDonald Anali Ndi Famu." Amapasa A amakonda kugona ndi ng'ombe yake yodzaza, ndipo Amapasa B amakonda nkhumba yawo yokhotakhota. Khalani mosamala ndi chidwi chapadera-zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda ana anu-popeza kusiyana kumeneku kungalimbikitse kukula kwaumunthu m'njira yodziwikiratu yomwe osamalira ena angagwiritse ntchito kuti adziwe kuti ndiwotani komanso abwinobwino.

Njira ina yomwe ingapangitse kulumikizana kwapadera pakati pa makolo ndi ana ndi kulemba nkhani za ubwana uliwonse wamapasa kutengera zomwe mwanayo akufuna kukuwuzani. Sungani nkhanizi m'kaundula ndipo musiyane kwathunthu ndikuwonjezerapo pamene mapasa anu akukula ndikukula. Chitsanzo cha ana amapasa omwe ndidagwira nawo ntchito ndi motere.

Betty, wazaka 5, amakhala madzulo amodzi pamwezi akugwira ntchito yokhudza moyo wake, yomwe amauza amayi ake. Betty akuti chonde mundilembere izi. “Ndikudziwa kuti ndine mapasa. Makolo anga amandiuza za zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala mapasa. Ndimakonda kusewera ndi mchimwene wanga. Nthawi zina ndimakhumba ndikadakhala ndi mlongo m'malo mwa mchimwene. Ndine wokondwa kukhala ndi mchimwene wanga wosewera naye komanso kucheza naye usiku wonse. Nthawi zina timakangana zomwe zimapangitsa amayi ndi abambo kukwiya. Tili ndi zovuta kugawana zoseweretsa zathu ndikulimbana ndi masewera apakanema. Koma nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi wina woti ndizicheza naye ndipo ndimamva chisoni Benjamin akakhala payekha kapena kusewera ndi wina. ”

Benjamin, yemwe ndi wochepera mphindi 10 kuposa mlongo wake Betty, akufunsa amayi kuti alembe mbiri ya moyo wawo. Akufotokoza, "Aliyense amandifunsa kuti mlongo wanga Betty ali kuti lero. Ndatopa kukhala mapasa. Betty amalandira chidwi chochuluka kuchokera kwa anzathu ndi oyandikana nawo. Ndikulakalaka anthu atandifunsa kuti zikuyenda bwanji. Makolo anga ndi agogo anga amaganiza kuti kukhala mapasa ndi chinthu chapadera. Koma sindikutsimikiza kuti mapasawa ndiabwino kwambiri. Ndatopa ndikugawana zinthu zanga ndi Betty. Ndikulakalaka sakadasewera ndi anzanga koma amalira ndikuwatsimikizira makolo anga kuti nawonso akhoza kutenga nawo mbali. Kukhala ndi mapasa mlongo ndi kovuta kwambiri kwa ine, ngakhale atha kukhala wokoma mtima komanso wokonda kusewera. Ndinkakonda kwambiri Betty tili aang'ono. ”

Nkhani zamoyo izi zimawonjezeredwa pamene miyezi ikupita ndikukhala mbiri yazabwino ndi zoyipa zomwe amapasa amakhala nazo wina ndi mnzake. Mwa kuwonetsa kusiyanasiyana, mawonekedwe apadera a mapasa aliwonse amalembedwa ndipo amatha kutumizidwa pakafunika kutero. Mapasa akamakula amasangalala ndikusangalala ndi momwe alili powerengera zaka zawo zoyambirira. Makolo amatha kuwona zomwe zili zabwino komanso zoyipa paubwenzi wa ana awo komanso momwe angalimbikitsire kukhala osadalira anzawo. Kukulitsa umunthu wapadera wa mwana aliyense kumafuna luso komanso chidwi kuti muchite bwino.

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Amapasa ali ndi mavuto apadera oberekera makolo. Choyamba, mapasa ali pafupi kwambiri ndipo ndi ovuta kuwalekanitsa. Kuchiza mapasa monga munthu payekha ndichovuta. Chachiwiri, akunja amitundu yonse amakhulupirira kuti mapasa onse ayenera kukhala pafupi ndi wina ndi mnzake. Lingaliro lokhazikika la umodzi wamapasa limabweretsa kukakamiza kwakukulu kwa makolo ndi mapasa kuti azifanana ndikupangitsa kulera mapasa kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Momwe makolo amaphunzirira kuti mapasa ndiosiyana wina ndi mnzake komanso osiyana ndi awiriawiri kuchokera kumapasa ena awiri, kuyang'ana kopambana kumasintha ndikusintha kwayekha kukhala bwino. Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kumakhudzana ndi kulinganiza pakati paumwini ndi kulumikizana.