Kulowanso: Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Pamene Moyo Wakale Sukhalanso?

Poyenda mlengalenga, kulowa kachiwiri kumawerengedwa kuti ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri paulendo. Chombo chamlengalenga chimapeza mpata umodzi wokha wogunda mpweya wapadziko lapansi chimodzimodzi. Liwiro ndilofunikanso: Ngati chinthu chilowanso mwachangu kwambiri, chidzawotcha ngati chimwala. Ma satellite nthawi zina amalowanso mlengalenga ndikuwonongeka pamwamba.

Kwa asitikali, ochita zisudzo, othamanga kwambiri, ndi akatswiri ena omwe akukumana ndi zokumana nazo zoopsa monga gawo la ntchito yawo, luso lolowanso ndilofunikira pantchito yawo, ndipo amaphunzira koyambirira kuti azitha kusintha popanda kuwonongeka. Kwa tonsefe, zovuta ngati mliri wa COVID-19 zimakhalabe zachilendo zomwe sitinakonzekere, ndikupezanso njira yobwererera m'miyoyo yathu itatha kubweretsa zovuta zapadera.

Ngakhale mliriwu ukukulalikirabe ndipo upitilira kwakanthawi, mayiko omwe akuchulukirachulukira achotsa zoletsa, pomwe masitolo, maofesi, ndi moyo wapagulu watsegulidwanso pang'onopang'ono. Pamene tikulowanso malo athu ogwirira ntchito ndi maubale, kuphatikiza omwe sitinasiyepo, kodi ndikulowanso kolowera kotani komwe kuli koyenera?

Kusunthika kwadzidzidzi kwa "chizolowezi" kumatha kutha mphamvu, ndipo ndimacheza aliwonse owonjezerapo kulumikizana momasuka kumakhala kopanda tanthauzo. Pambuyo pokumana kumeneku ndi imfa komanso anzathu ena achilendo, timagwedezeka, koma sitilimbikitsidwanso. Mafunso onse ofunikira amakhalabe osayankhidwa, ngakhale mwadzidzidzi samakhala otseguka, osakhala okongola, kuposa momwe adawonekera masabata angapo apitawa. Kumbali imodzi, mavutowa anali "kuwonera mwachidule" kwakukulu ndipo tidakhala ndi mawonekedwe okulirapo. Kumbali inayi, tidakhala pamavuto ambiri ndikukakamizidwa kuti tichite zofunikira zatsopano. Moyo wocheperako unali ndi zokopa zake, koma ambiri aife tiyenera kuvomereza kuti loto loti tingakhale ochepa linakhala lalikulu kwambiri kwa ife. Ndipo tsopano tikubweranso, tinapambana kwakanthawi chifukwa cha matenda ndi kudzipatula, komabe tikumva kuti tagonjetsedwa. Kupereka malingaliro akale sizinali zopweteka kwenikweni, koma kusiya ziyembekezo zatsopano mwachangu-zimapweteka.

M'malo mwake, tikhoza kukhala ndi chisoni chachiwiri tikazindikira kuti sitikubwerera kumoyo, koma imfa. "Kubwerera mwakale" kungatanthauze zowonongera moyo wathu pantchito yosasangalatsa, yopanda chimwemwe yomwe idatidetsa nkhawa pang'ono pang'onopang'ono mliriwu usanagwe. Kulira kwakukulu, kwamodzi kwa mavuto kapena kulira mobwerezabwereza pamisonkhano yoopsa Lolemba m'mawa - pamene tibwerera kuntchito, titha kukhala ndi zovuta kusankha choipa.

Chifukwa chake, kodi pali miyambo iliyonse yomwe ingatithandizire kuwoloka malowa pakati pa zakale ndi zatsopano, zathu zakale ndi zatsopano? Izi zikutipangitsa kuganiza kuti mavutowo anali "oyenera"?

Choyamba, titha kupeza upangiri wothandiza pakubwezeretsanso akaidi. Asanatulutsidwe, chinthu chimodzi chofunikira kuchita ndi kufufuza : onaninso zomwe muli nazo, malingaliro anu, kulimba kwa maubale, komanso maluso anu akale ndi atsopano, kuti mudziwe zomwe mungachite, ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mungafune kuzipewa mutangolowa kumene.

Chachiwiri, kuvomereza kuti kutsekereza kukhoza kukhala chinthu chowawa kwambiri ndikuti mwina mutha kukhala ndi vuto la post-traumatic stress, nkhawa yomwe ikupitilira popanda chifukwa. Tchulani malingaliro amenewo ndikukambirana nawo ndi anzanu kapena abwenzi. Zovuta zina nthawi zina zimatha "kukula pambuyo povulaza," pamapeto pake kumadzetsa milingo yayikulu pakukula kwa umunthu, wofanana ndi chikhalidwe cha ku Japan cha Kintsugi, kukonza kwa mbiya zosweka. M'malo mobisa ming'aluyo, imawunikira, ndikupanganso chinthucho panthawi imodzimodziyo kukhala ndi "mbiri yosweka," monga katswiri wazamisala Scott Barry Kaufman ananenera bwino kwambiri m'nkhani yake yonena za "Kupeza Tanthauzo ndi Chilengedwe Pazovuta." A Kaufman akutchulapo kafukufuku wosonyeza kuti 61% ya amuna ndi 51% ya akazi ku United States amafotokoza chinthu chimodzi chovuta m'moyo wawo, ndikuwonetsa kuti kuthekera kwa anthu kupirira ndikofunikira. A Kaufman anena kuti chinsinsi chimodzi pakukula msanga ndi kuthekera kofufuza mokwanira malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi zomverera m'malo modziletsa kapena "kudziletsa." Omwe ali ndi magawo ochepa omwe amatchedwa "kupeweratu zochitika" amafotokoza zakukula kwambiri komanso tanthauzo m'moyo.

Chachitatu, patsani wina mphatso . Mukalandira, winayo akutsimikizirani kuti ndinu ndani ndikuthandizani kuti mudziyanjenso. Kupereka mphatso ndi njira yokhayo yobwezeretsanso maubale osayembekezera chilichonse koma kuvomereza. Imeneyi ndi njira yabwino yosungabe kukoma mtima komanso malingaliro omwe ambiri a ife takhala tikukumana nawo panthawi yotseka. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti ziwonetsero monga "Mphatso ndi miyambo" ya Lee Mingwei ndi mndandanda wa 1: 1 Concert, momwe woimba m'modzi adasewera omvera nthawi imodzi, adatchuka kwambiri panthawi yamavutoyi. Zonsezi zinali mphatso: zaubwenzi komanso chisamaliro, ziwiri mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri.

Pomaliza, kusema ndi kuteteza malo okumbukira , pokumbukira zokumbukika zavutoli ndikukhalabe ndizovuta zomwe mwina mukadali nazo. Izi zikhoza kukhala kusinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku kapena kuchita zolemba. Zochita zilizonse, ngakhale zing'onozing'ono, zingathandize. Dziwani zinthu zomwe mwaphunzira panthawi yamavuto zomwe mukufuna kupititsa patsogolo, zilembeni, ndikuzikulunga ngati mphatso. Asungeni pamalo otetezeka, ndipo nthawi ikafika tsiku lina, atulutseni ndikudabwa ndi kuthekera kwanu kuti musangopulumuka zovuta zomwe mwakumana nazo koma mutatha kudzilimbitsa nokha ndikubwezeretsanso patsogolo.