Science Inati Atsikana Amasiku Ano Ali Ndi Nkhawa Kuposa Kale

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• Kuda Nkhawa Kuwerenga
• Kuda nkhawa kwa COVID-19 ndikusintha kwaubwenzi

Makolo amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti ana awo aakazi nthawi zonse amawoneka opanikizika komanso opanikizika. Kutembenuka, ambiri ali. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuwonjezeka koopsa kwa nkhawa komanso kupsinjika komwe atsikana amakhala nako kuyambira ali ndi zaka 10 mpaka ku koleji.

Ngati muli ndi mwana wamkazi, mukudziwa: Amapanikizika kwambiri kuti achite bwino kusukulu, kukhala ndi zibwenzi komanso kuvomerezedwa, kuwoneka bwino — chilichonse chomwe nthawi zina chimatha kupangitsa kumva ngati kupsinjika kapena nkhawa.

Malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano wa Pew Center, achinyamata 7 pa 10 amawona kuda nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa ngati vuto lalikulu pakati pa anzawo azaka zapakati pa 13 mpaka 17. Pew akuti, "Atsikana ali ndi mwayi wambiri kuposa anyamata kunena kuti akufuna kupita kukoleji yazaka zinayi .. .ndipo amathanso kunena kuti amadandaula kwambiri kulowa pasukulu yomwe akufuna. ” Kafukufuku wa ku Center adatsimikizira kuti "atsikana ambiri kuposa anyamata akuti nthawi zambiri amakhala omangika kapena amanjenjemera chifukwa cha tsiku lawo (36% motsutsana ndi 23 peresenti, akuti amamva choncho tsiku lililonse kapena pafupifupi tsiku lililonse)."

Zowonjezera ndikuwonjeza pansi pazovutazi ndi nkhawa zakupezerera, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kumwa mowa, maubale ndi anyamata, ndipo, ndizomveka, kuwomberana kusukulu komanso zomwe zimangokhala ngati nkhani zosasangalatsa. Kwa atsikana achichepere, ambiri omwe amakonda kungoganiza zazomwe zachitika kapena zochitika, kukakamizidwa kumatha kukhala kosalekeza.

Funsani mtsikana aliyense amene mumamudziwa, ndipo atha kukuwuzani kuti ali ndi nkhawa kuphwando, kapena ali ndi nkhawa chifukwa chosamvana ndi mnzake wapamtima. Amatha kuchita mantha ndi zomwe amalankhula m'kalasi kapena mayeso omwe samadziona kuti ndi okonzeka kuchita. Kapenanso amatha kuchita mantha ndi zomwe adzaone nthawi ina akadzatsegula Snapchat kapena Instagram. Atha kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa ndi mpikisano wothamanga womwe ukubwera kapena nyimbo, kapena zomwe mungachite ndi mnyamata yemwe akumufuna (kapena ayi).

Ngati muli ndi mwana wamkazi, muyenera kudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi kupsinjika ndi nkhawa zonsezi kungakhale kwabwino, ngakhale kopindulitsa?" Monga kholo munthawi yakusokosera komanso wolandila mkwiyo, kusungunuka, kukwiya, kapena kungokhala chete, muyenera kudzifunsa kuti, "Ndingathandize bwanji moyenera?"

Kupsinjika ndi Kuda nkhawa Ndi "Amapasa Achibale"

Mwana wanu wamkazi angadane ndi kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa; amatha kuwona mayankho amphamvu ngati mliri. Koma sizoyipa kwenikweni. Ndikofunika kuti mumvetsetse momwe nkhawa ndi nkhawa zimathandizira pakugwira ntchito kwa tsiku ndi tsiku. Ngakhale kupsinjika ndi nkhawa nthawi zambiri zimalumikizana m'maganizo mwa anthu ndipo amazigwiritsa ntchito mosinthana, makolo amatha kuthandiza ana awo aakazi kugwiritsa ntchito onsewa phindu.

Dziwani kuti izi "zoyipa", komanso momwe thupi limadzitetezera, zitha kuphatikizidwa. Lisa Damour, wolemba wa Papanikizika: Kulimbana ndi Mliri Wopanikizika ndi Kuda Nkhawa mwa Atsikana, amatanthauza kupsinjika ndi nkhawa ngati "mapasa apachibale ... onse samakhala bwino pamaganizidwe." Amanenanso kuti kupsinjika mtima ndi "kumva kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe kapena nkhawa," ndipo kuda nkhawa ndiko "mantha, mantha, kapena mantha."

Chifukwa choti kupsinjika ndi nkhawa kwakhala mliri kwa atsikana achichepere sizitanthauza kuti kupsinjika ndi nkhawa sizingakhale zothandiza - ngakhale zabwino — makamaka ngati tidzawasanjanso ngati zida zoyendetsera njira yoyenera, m'malo mokhumudwa kubwerera. Damour amakumbukira mfundo izi mukamathandiza mwana wanu wamkazi:

• Kungakhale kosavuta kuthawa chizindikiro choyamba cha kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa. Koma pophunzitsa ana athu aakazi kuthana ndi zovuta, timawathandiza kukhala olimba mtima.
• Kupsinjika ndi nkhawa ndizobwera chifukwa chosiya malo abwino. Kugwira ntchito yopitilira malo awo abwino kumathandiza atsikana kukula, makamaka akakumana ndi zovuta zina.
• Kusanthula zomwe zimabweretsa nkhawa ndi ana aakazi kumawathandiza kuwunika bwino ngati akupitilira muyeso wakuipa kwake kapena kunyalanyaza kuthekera kwawo kuthana nawo.

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