Lekani Kuitana Anthu Ovomerezeka Kuti Ndiopanduka

Zamkati

• Mfundo zazikuluzikulu
• Kumvetsetsa mawu oti "wopanduka"
• Vuto lotcha wina "wopanduka"

Mfundo zazikuluzikulu

• Mawu oti "wopanduka" amatanthauza munthu amene amatsutsana ndi olamulira monga boma.
• Tikamanena za wina ngati wopanduka, tikumamutanthauzira molingana ndi chikhalidwe kapena chikhalidwe chathu ndikunena zolinga zomwe sizingakhalepo.
• Nthawi yotsatira titawona wina akutsatira njira yapaderadera, m'malo mongomunena ngati wolamulira wotsutsa, tiyeni tiwone ngati iwo eni enieni.

Kumvetsetsa mawu oti "wopanduka"

Monga mawu oti "osokoneza," "wachifwamba," "wankhanza," ndi "wankhondo," mawu oti "wopanduka" akuwoneka kuti akuponyedwa mozungulira m'kulankhula kwathu kwatsiku ndi tsiku. Kutanthauzira kwaumwini kwa mawuwa kumatanthauza munthu amene amatsutsana ndi olamulira, monga boma. Kutsutsa kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumakhala kwachiwawa, chifukwa wopanduka akhoza kukhala ndi cholinga cholanda ulamuliro. Ndipo palidi anthu ambiri padziko lapansi omwe amatsutsa mwadala zachuma, zandale, komanso ndale. Koma popita nthawi, mawu oti "wopanduka" afala ponseponse, kutanthauza aliyense amene amatsata njira yapadera.

Mwachitsanzo, anthu omwe ndi "odalirika" nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "opanduka" kapena "opanduka." Mwachidziwitso, munthu wowona mtima ndi munthu amene amaganiza ndikukhala munjira yoona kwa iwo eni ndi zikhulupiriro zawo, ngakhale atakhala kuti amatsatira miyambo yanthawi zonse. Ndipo ndizachidziwikire kuti "opanduka" ambiri ndiowona pazikhulupiriro zawo komanso machitidwe awo. Komabe, sikuti aliyense "wodalirika" ndi wopanduka, ndipo sayenera kutchulidwa choncho.

Kunena zowona, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "wopanduka" kwa anthu omwe amakhala ndi moyo weniweni nthawi zambiri kumayamikiridwa. Kupatula apo, kupeza njira yokhalira moyo womwe umagwirizana ndi zomwe munthu akukumana nazo akakakamizidwa ndi anthu kuti akhale moyo wina kumatenga kulimba mtima, kutsimikiza mtima, komanso kulimba mtima. Ndipo izi zitha kukhala zikhalidwe zomwezo zabwino zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala "wopanduka" munjira yanzeru kwambiri ya mawuwo.

Vuto lotcha wina "wopanduka"

Koma nthawi zina, kuyitana wina kuti wopanduka sikutanthauza kukhala wotsimikiza. Mawuwa atanthawuza kutanthauza kuti munthuyo ndiwosokonekera kwa olamulira pomwe akungokhala oona mtima kwa iwo eni. Izi zitha kutanthauza kuti munthuyu ndiwopseza - mwinanso wowopsa komanso wachiwawa - chifukwa sakugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Chifukwa chake, pogwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "wopanduka," anthu omwe amachita bizinesi yawo, kuyesera kukhala moyo wawo, mwadzidzidzi akuwopseza anthu.

Koma mosasamala kanthu kuti mawuwa amatamandidwa kapena ayi, kuyitana wina kuti wopanduka kumachepetsa chifukwa ndiwopeka. Tikamanena za munthu wina ngati wopanduka, sitimatanthauzira kuti aliyense payekha koma monga anthu omwe amamvetsetsa pokhapokha ngati chikhalidwe kapena chikhalidwe chawo. Potero, timapereka zolinga ndi zokopa zomwe mwina sizikupezeka. Ndipo munthu ameneyo samatha kumvetsetsa ndikudziyimira pawokha, koma m'malo mokomera anthu ena. M'malo mongoyang'ana pakutsata njira zawo zowona kulikonse komwe angawatengere, amangolekereredwa kuti amvetsetse m'malire a zomangirira zokhazokha.

Chizolowezi chathu chonena kuti anthu "opanduka" chimawoneka chovuta kwambiri tikamafotokozera ana ndi achinyamata omwe akukula. Makanema monga Wopanduka Popanda Chifukwa (1955) adakhazikika m'magulu azikhalidwe ndipo, mwa lingaliro, amatenga "kuwukira kwachinyamata." Koma monga zikuwonetsedwa mufilimuyi, nthawi zambiri zomwe zimadziwika kuti kupanduka ndi wachinyamata chabe amene akuyesetsa kuti amvetsetse ndikudziyesa okha.

Kunena zowona, ana ambiri nthawi ina amakhala opanda ulemu. Zimakhala zovuta kudziyimira pawokha popanda nthawi zina kusokoneza dongosolo. Koma sizitanthauza kuti cholinga chachikhulupiriro kapena machitidwe anali ovuta kapena olanda. Nthawi zambiri ndimangokhala ana ongodziwa kuti ndi ndani komanso zomwe akufuna kuchita pamoyo wawo.

Magaziniyi nthawi zambiri imabwera kwa anthu omwe amatsatira miyambo yachikhalidwe. Mwachitsanzo, anthu amtundu wa heavy metal nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "opanduka" chifukwa zokonda zawo zimasiyana ndi zikhalidwe. Koma chifukwa chakuti wina amakonda kuvala zakuda kapena kumvera nyimbo zaphokoso pomwe ena samamupanga kukhala wopanduka. Ngati mwana amakonda Iron Maiden ndipo wavala jekete la Iron Maiden kusukulu, samakhala "opanduka" chifukwa choti anthu ena sakonda. Nthawi zambiri ichi chimakhala chiyambi cha malingaliro opanda maziko a mafani a heavy metal kukhala owopsa komanso achiwawa.

Mofananamo, wokonda heavy metal samakhala "wogulitsa" amene akunyalanyaza mizu yawo "yopanduka" chifukwa choti pamapeto pake amakhala ndi ntchito yabwinobwino komanso banja. Sikuti anali "opanduka" ali mwana, kotero sanasiye kukhala "opanduka" tsopano atakula. Nthawi yonseyi, amangokhala munthu kuyesera kukhala moyo wabwino kwambiri.

Zowopsa zakuti wina azikhala ngati "wopanduka" ndikuti zimawapatsa mwayi woti akwaniritse udindo wawo pomwe mwina sakadachita mwina. Ndakhala ndikuganizira za nkhaniyi kuyambira pomwe ndimakambirana Hardcore Humanism Podcast ndi Sean Long wa gulu loimba lolemera Ali Tulo. Long anafotokoza kuti amadzudzulidwa komanso kuzunzidwa ali mwana chifukwa chokonda nyimbo za heavy metal komanso gulu lake. Izi zidapangitsa kuti Long akwiyire aphunzitsi ake, mpaka kunena kuti izi zidabweretsa "pang'ono wopandukayo" wotsutsana ndi "dongosolo."

Koma pomvera Long, timakhala ndi chithunzi choti amangoyesera kuchita zinthu zake ndikukhala weniweni. Sanatsutse olamulira. Ulamuliro unali kumutsutsa.

Tidawona zamphamvu zofananira m'mbuyomu, pomwe magulu azitsulo zolemera sanali "opanduka" pa se koma anali kuzunzidwa chifukwa chakuwonetsa luso lawo lodalirika. Izi zitha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa, monganso zaka za m'ma 80s ndi Parents Music Resource Center (PMRC). PMRC idayesa kutcha ojambula nyimbo za heavy metal monga Twisted Sister kuti amafalitsa zinthu zowopsa, zachiwawa kwa ana ndikuwunika maluso awo. Momwemonso, malingaliro andewu a heavy metal adapangitsa kuti gulu la heavy metal a Judas Priest aziimbidwa mlandu ndikubwera kuzengedwa mlandu chifukwa chodzipha.

Zomwe zimabweretsa chiopsezo china cholemba anthu ngati "opanduka." Ikuyang'ana kwambiri munthu amene akuyesera kuti akhale woona ngati vutolo, osati kuti mwina pali vuto lina ndi momwe gulu lathu limagwirira ntchito.

Mwachitsanzo, kodi nchifukwa ninji timaopsezedwa motero ndi anthu osiyana? Nchifukwa chiyani timakana ojambula ngati owopsa chifukwa amachita zomwe akatswiri amayenera kuchita, zomwe zimadziwonetsera okha ndikupereka mawonekedwe apadziko lonse lapansi? Monga gulu, timasangalala ndi zipatso za ntchito za anthu omwe ali oganiza mosiyanasiyana ndikusintha mtundu wa anthu ndi luso lawo komanso luso laukadaulo ndi bizinesi. Kodi sizingakhale bwino kuti tithandizire kulandira anthu owona ngati gawo lamakhalidwe m'malo moopseza olamulira?

Chifukwa chake, ngati wina mwadala akupandukira ulamuliro ndipo amadzitcha wokha, mphamvu zambiri kwa iye. Zovuta pamakhalidwe, zachuma, komanso ndale zitha kukhala gawo labwino m'gulu lamphamvu, lotukuka. Ndipo ngati umu ndi momwe wina amamvetsetsa kuti ali wotsutsana ndi olamulirawo - monga momwe ndikudziwira, ndiwopanduka.

Koma nthawi yotsatira titawona wina yemwe akuchita zowona ndikutsata njira yawo yapadera, mwina titha kuganiza kawiri tisanamuwone ngati akunyoza olamulira ndikuwatcha opanduka. Landirani kudalirika kwawo ndikuwathandiza kulikonse komwe njira yawo ingafike. Ndipo wina akakunenani kuti ndinu wopanduka, mutha kuwauza kuti:

“Sikuti ndine wopanduka. Ndikukhala ine. ”