Dziko Latsopano Lolimba Mtima la Kulera Pangozi

Izi zidalembedwa ndi Ellen Luborsky, Ph.D.

Sitinapemphe izi. Ndani angatero?

Ndani angalembetse chaka chimodzi atavala masks ndikukhala wochenjera ndi aliyense amene mukumuwona?

Ndi makolo ati omwe angasankhe kukhala sergeant yemwe amasunga ana awo pa Zoom tsiku lonse?

Koma pano tili, munjira yodabwitsa kwambiri ya Dziko Latsopano Lolimba Mtima .

Kodi mungapeze bwanji njira zopilira komanso kuchita bwino pakati pazoletsa komanso zovuta?

Ndikupatsani malingaliro, koma choyamba ndiyenera kuyimilira pang'ono pamaganizowa. Njira zabwino zothetsera mavuto sizichotsa chisoni. Samapangitsa matenda kuti achoke. Mwatsoka, samathetsa zovuta kapena zovuta.

Chovuta mu Dziko Latsopano Lolimba Mtima ndikupeza njira zodzimvera amoyo pakati pazovuta zonse.

Yembekezerani Opanda Ungwiro

Musayembekezere kuti ziziyenda bwino. Mseu wapamwamba kwambiri uja unatsekedwa. M'malo mwake, nyadirani nokha ndi ana anu pozindikira moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Izi nthawi zambiri zimatanthauza kuyesa & kusokonekera, nthawi zina kumayamba ndi chisokonezo ndikukhumudwitsidwa, zisanachitike zatsopano.

Musadziiwale

Nthawi zambiri makolo amakhala ndi zosowa zawo, zomwe sizitanthauza kuti sangathe kuzipeza. Ku Corona Land, sizigwira ntchito. Ndinu injini yomwe imapangitsa zonsezi. Ngati mwatopa kwambiri, mungakhale bwanji pafupi ndi wina aliyense? Tengani zopumira tsiku lililonse kuti mudzitsitsimutse.

Pumirani

Yesani kupuma kwambiri. Tsekani maso anu ndipo mupume pang'ono pang'ono, kuyambira m'mimba mwanu mpaka pamtima. Tsopano tulutsani m'mimba mwanu kuti muwerenge asanu. Bwerezani katatu ndikutsegula maso anu. Tengani kamphindi kochepa kuti muwone dziko lapansi ndi maso atsopano.

Ikani Icho

Pumulani kuti musunthe. Chilichonse chimawerengeredwa. Kutambasula kuwerengera. Siyani mpando wanu ndikukweza mpaka kudenga. Koma kutuluka pakhomo kumathandiza kwambiri. Mpweya wabwino umakudzutsani ndikupangitsani kuti mukhale amoyo. Ndipo yang'anani mitengo, mlengalenga, mbalame, ndi masamba. Zithunzi zojambula za Monet ndizofanana ndi udzu womwewo mosiyanasiyana. Onaninso, ndikuwona zomwe mukuwona.

Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi

Chitani zolimbitsa thupi zilizonse zomwe mungapeze. Tengani kalasi ya yoga pa intaneti, yendani kokayenda kapena kuthamanga, ikani ma jacks olumpha ndi ana, phwando lovina, yang'anani pazenera lathunthu zolimbitsa thupi. Chitani zomwe zimayankhula nanu.

Yembekezerani Kusokonezedwa

Zidzachitika. Ngati mungayerekeze kugwira ntchito kapena kuchita kalasi pa intaneti kapena kutenga mphindi yanu yangwiro, anawo amakusokonezani. Zidzakusowetsani mtendere pang'ono ngati mukuyembekezera. Kondwerani ndi kuthokoza pamene izi sizichitika.

Gripe

Simuyenera kukonda chilichonse. Mumaloledwa kukhumudwitsidwa kwathunthu. Pitilizani kuyankhula kapena kulemba. Palibe njira imodzi yoyenera yochitira izi.

Nazi njira zingapo:

• Lembani: Yesani kulemba kwaulere: Dzipatseni mphindi zochepa kuti mulembe chilichonse chomwe chimabwera m'maganizo mwanu. Osayima ndi kuyang'ana mpaka mutha. Kapena mutha kuyamba ndi tsinde la nkhani, monga "Ndikumva ..." Kapena "Ndikulakalaka ..." Osasinthidwa, osakhazikika. Mutha kutsitsa malingaliro anu polemba.¹
• Gawani: Fikirani kwa bwenzi kapena wachibale. Amayeneranso kukumana ndi zokhumudwitsa. Ngati zikukuvutani kumva, yesetsani kumvetsera mwachidwi. Sinthanani kugawana zakukhosi kwanu. Ntchito ya omvera sikungopereka yankho, koma kumva ndi kumvetsetsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti Munthu A atha kunena kuti wakhumudwitsidwa bwanji kuti COVID sikutha, ndipo ntchito ya Munthu B ndikuti 'amve' kumverera, ndikunena zomwe zimapereka izi.
• Pezani mankhwala: Pamene nkhawa zanu zikuwoneka ngati ndizochulukirapo kukhala nazo, kapena mukakhala ndi zisonyezo zomwe zikukusowetsani mtendere, kupeza chithandizo cha akatswiri kumatha kukhala kothandiza kwambiri. Katswiri wophunzitsidwa ndichinthu chofunikira mukamadzimva kuti 'simungakwanitse' kapena kupsinjika mtima kwambiri kuti mupitilize. Ku Corona Land, chithandizo chitha kuchitika pa intaneti kapena patelefoni.

Landirani Nokha

Palibe amene angakhale ndi moyo nthawi imeneyi popanda zovuta. Kwa ambiri, ndizoyipa kwambiri kuposa pamenepo.

Osapondereza malingaliro anu enieni. Pamene malingaliro apewedwa kapena kukanidwa, samachoka kwenikweni.

Amatha kutenga mitundu ina m'malo mwake. Kodi mudamvako mutu pomwe "ndizochulukirapo"? Kuvomereza momwe mukumvera kumatha kuwathandiza kuyimba mwamphamvu.

Onerani kwa Ana

Mwana akhoza kukutulutsani mumtima mukamulola. Yesani kuyang'ana m'maso mwake ndikupeza njira yoti mugawire momwe akumvera. Onani ngati zingakuthandizeni nonse kumwetulira. Ndi zomwe Daniel Stern adayitanitsa kulumikizana. ²

Yang'anirani zomwe akuchita. Kugawana zomwe akuganiza kumathandiza kuti zikhale zofunikira kwa nonse.

Onani Zomwe Mutha Kuwona

Umuyaya wa COVID watiphunzitsa kuti tisamadalire ziyembekezo zakale. Tiyenera kulola miyambo yakale kukhala zovala za nyengo yathayi.

Ino ndi nthawi yogwiritsa ntchito luso lopanga.

"Tidzawona zomwe tiwona," analemba a Wilhelm Rontgen mu 1896. Amalankhula zakupezeka kwake kwa kutalika kwa mawonekedwe a X-ray. Akutidziwitsa zomwe mungapeze mukadzuka mzimu wakudziwika.

Ellen B. Luborsky, PhD. ndi katswiri wama psychology wazaka zambiri wodziwa kuthandiza ana ndi akulu mavuto osiyanasiyana omwe amabwera chifukwa chokhala anthu. Nkhani zake zazifupi koma zowona za ana achichepere zidalandira mphotho zapamwamba ndi New York State Psychological Association mu 2010. Buku la nkhanizi likuyembekezeredwa kumapeto kwa chaka chino. Anagwirizana Kafukufuku & Psychotherapy: The Vital Link ndi abambo ake, Lester Luborsky, Ph.D., mu 2006. (Ndemanga)

Stern, Daniel (2010) Mitundu Yathanzi: Kufufuza Zochitika Zosintha mu Psychology ndi The Arts. Oxford University Press.