Kulumikizana pakati pa Amayi a Narcissistic ndi CPTSD

Zamkati

• Narcissism Yofunika Kuwerenga
• Kulungamitsa Kuponderezedwa: Zinthu Zomwe Timachita kwa Narcissist

Tikaganiza za post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) nthawi zambiri timakhala tikunena za vuto lomwe limayankha chochitika chimodzi ndipo limadziwika ndi zizindikilo monga kubweza zomwe zidachitika pachiwopsezo choyambirira. Nthawi zambiri timamva za PTSD potengera omenyera nkhondo omwe adakumana ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi nkhondo; tikhoza kuyanjananso ndi anthu omwe adawona zoopsa, monga ngozi, kapena omwe agwiriridwa.

Mu 1988, Judith Herman, pulofesa wa Clinical Psychology ku Harvard University, ananena kuti matenda ena atsopano — ovuta a PTSD (kapena CPTSD) —ankafunika kufotokoza zotsatira za kusokonezeka kwa nthawi yaitali. ¹ Zizindikiro zina pakati pa PTSD ndi CPTSD ndizofanana-kuphatikiza kuwonekera (kumva ngati zoopsa zikuchitika pakadali pano), malingaliro olakwika ndi zithunzi, ndikumverera kwakuthupi kuphatikiza thukuta, nseru, ndi kunjenjemera.

Anthu omwe ali ndi CPTSD nthawi zambiri amakumananso ndi:

• Zovuta zamalamulo
• Kudzimva wopanda pake komanso wopanda chiyembekezo
• Kuda nkhawa ndi kusakhulupirira
• Kumva kwakusiyana ndi kusokonekera
• Zizindikiro zodzipatula
• Maganizo ofuna kudzipha

Zomwe zimayambitsa CPTSD zimakhazikitsidwa chifukwa chazovuta zomwe zimakhalapo kwanthawi yayitali ndipo, ngakhale zimatha kuyambitsidwa ndi zoopsa zilizonse zomwe zikuchitika-monga kuzunzidwa m'banja kapena kukhala m'malo ankhondo-nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi zoopsa zomwe zidachitika ali mwana. Zovuta zodziwikiratu zaubwana ndi nkhanza zakuthupi komanso zakugonana komanso kunyalanyazidwa.

Koma kuzunzidwa, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta kuzindikira, kumatha kuyambitsa CPTSD. Ndipo nkhanza zam'mutu ndizomwe zimachitikira ana omwe amakula ndi amayi amwano. Pankhani ya ubale wamayi ndi mwana wamwano, nkhanza m'maganizo zimasandulika ngati zomangira zachikondi, zimatenga mawonekedwe ake monga machitidwe osiyanasiyana oti azikulamulirani, kukusungani pafupi, ndikukhala nanu pafupi kuti mumukumbukire zomwe akuyenera kuwona kuti alimbikitse malingaliro ake osalimba.

Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri pokhala mwana wamayi wamankhwala osokoneza bongo ndikuti chidwi chanu chachikulu kwa iye ndikumugwiritsa ntchito. Ndi ntchito yanji yomwe muli nayo kwa iye imadalira mtundu wankhanza waomwe ali.

Nthawi zambiri timayanjanitsa zamankhwala amtundu wankhanza ndi mitundu yayikulu ija yomwe nthawi zonse imakhala yofunika kwambiri. Koma ochita zanyengo amatenga mawonekedwe ndi mawonekedwe onse ndipo kufotokozera kwawo kumatanthauzidwa osati pongofuna kusowa chidwi, koma potengera kufunikira kwawo kuwongolera chilengedwe ndi kudziteteza, pogwiritsa ntchito ena.

Amayi anu atha kukugwiritsirani ntchito ngati ena kuti mumuteteze kwa amuna awo, ngati bwenzi lake lapamtima, ngati munthu woti mumuike pansi ndikumudzudzula kuti azimva bwino. Mulimonse momwe angagwiritsire ntchito kwa inu-komanso ana ndi gawo la "wamisili" - mudzakhala kuti mwapanikizika kwambiri panthawiyi.

M'dziko labwino, mutha kuloledwa kukula pokhala ana, mukusangalala ndiufulu wodzifufuza ndikudziwonetsera nokha. Ana a amayi onyenga nthawi zambiri samapeza mwayi wapamwamba ndipo, m'malo mwake, amangoyang'ana pamapewa awo kuti awone ngati akhumudwitsa amayi awo ponena kapena kuchita zolakwika. Amadziwa kuti chofunikira kwambiri padziko lapansi ndikuyesera kusangalatsa amayi awo ndikukhala mwamantha nthawi zonse akawalakwitsa. (Zimatenga zaka zambiri kuphunzira kuti mudziwe zomwe zimatengera kuti "mupeze bwino," malamulo ovuta kwambiri a amayi amwano).

Kodi kupeza mawu okhwima, kudzudzula, kukana zomwe takumana nazo ndizolakwika ngati kumenyedwa chifukwa cha machitidwe oyipa? Yankho ndi loti inde. Vutoli lamankhwala lomwe mayi wankhanza amatha kuloza kwa ana ake nthawi zambiri limakhala loopsa ndipo limakhala lowopsa kwa mwana ngati kumenyedwa. Ndipo limodzi ndi mantha ndiko kusokonezeka kosalekeza. Ma Narcissist ndi osalimba kwambiri pamalingaliro ndipo amapanga mawebusayiti ovuta kwambiri kuti athe kuwongolera zomwe amachita komanso osakumana nawo. Monga mwana, kutengeka kwanu kungaoneke ngati kosavomerezeka ngati kukuwopsezerani amayi anu.

Tinene kuti mumakonda agogo anu aamuna koma dziwani kuti amayi anu amamuchitira nsanje. M'malo momasuka kuti muwonetse chikondi chanu, mutha kupeza kuti mukunena zoyipa za agogo anu kuti musangalatse amayi anu.

Kapena tiyerekeze kuti ndinu mwana wochezeka koma mukudziwa kuti amayi anu amayamba kuchita nsanje mukangowawonekera. Kungonena zachisoni kapena mantha kumatha kusekedwa ndi kunyozedwa. Amayi anga adakwatirana ndi abambo anga chifukwa anali ochokera ku chuma chambiri kuposa iwo ndipo kwa iwo, kukhala wachuma ndiye chisonyezero chachikulu choti timakhala moyo wosalira zambiri. Mawu aliwonse okhumudwitsa akuti zinthu sizinali bwino m'moyo wanga - kusungulumwa komanso chiwopsezo chachikulu chofuna kudzipha chomwe chidangokhala pa ine - adakumana ndikudzitchinjiriza kwakomwe kunali kowopsa komanso kopatsa manyazi.

Narcissism Yofunika Kuwerenga

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