Zifukwa Zenizeni Amuna Amayambitsa Zowononga Zambiri Kugonana Kuposa Akazi

Monga zachiwerewere zokhudzana ndi amuna amphamvu zikuwoneka kuti zikuchulukirachulukira (Edwards, Lee, Schwarzenegger, Strauss-Kahn, Weiner, ndi ena), ambiri akhala akufunsa kuti: Chifukwa chiyani amuna ali othekera kwambiri kuposa akazi kuchititsa izi? Chifukwa chiyani, mwanjira ina, amuna ali ofunitsitsa kwambiri kuposa akazi pachiwopsezo chotaya ntchito zawo ndi mabanja kuti ayambitse mwayi wokwatirana nawo?

Malingaliro a Darwin osankha zachilengedwe komanso zogonana amapereka chisonkhezero chotsimikizika chomvetsetsa kusiyanasiyana kwakugonana pakukakamizidwa uku kutsatira okwatirana atsopano. Ndipo ngakhale anthu ambiri atha kukhala ofunitsitsa kuvomereza, pamlingo wina, kuti kusiyana kwakugonana kumeneku kumachokera kuzinthu zosinthika, pali mantha ambiri komanso kusamvetsetsa kunja uko pazomwe zingatanthauze izi.

Mantha ndi kusamvetsetsa uku zikuwoneka m'nkhani zaposachedwa zakomwe chifukwa chake amuna amadzetsa manyazi kuposa akazi. Mu New York Times chidutswa Sheryl Stolberg akuti, "Kungakhale kosavuta ... kutaya" kusiyana kwakugonana "ngati kulumikizana kophatikizidwa ndi testosterone, kolimba pakati pa kugonana ndi mphamvu." Stolberg akupitiliza kufotokoza malingaliro ake kuti kusiyanako sikumachokera ku biology, koma kuti azimayi omwe ali ndiudindo ndiwofunika kwambiri pantchito zawo (lingaliro lomwe limawoneka kuti palibe umboni wambiri). Ndipo mu positi ya Slate , Amanda Marcotte akuyamikira a Stolberg chifukwa cha "manag [ing] kuti apewe msampha wofuna kukhazikitsa kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa amuna ndi akazi ogonana." Akupitiliza kufotokoza kwake komwe amakonda: amuna amayambitsa zoyipa zambiri chifukwa amuna ambiri ali ndi mphamvu (lingaliro lomwe lalembedwa munkhaniyi), komanso chifukwa azimayi amalangidwa mwankhanza chifukwa cha machitidwe oterewa (zomwe sizikufotokozera chifukwa chake zilango zomwe amuna amakumana nazo pazokhumudwitsa izi-mwachitsanzo, kutaya ntchito-sizinachitepo kanthu kuwaletsa).

Kusiyana kwa kugonana kumeneku mu chikhumbo cha okwatirana atsopano sikukutanthauza kuti amuna samachita chidwi ndi zogonana zazitali, zogonana; M'malo mwake, amuna ambiri amayesetsa maubwenzi oterewa ndipo amawalemekeza kwambiri. Koma zikutanthauza kuti ngakhale atakhala pachibwenzi chotere, amuna wamba adzawona mwayi woti akwatirane ndi okondedwa awo ngati okakamiza kuposa momwe mkazi wamba angakhalire. Ndipo mphamvu ya mayeserowa nthawi zambiri imakhala yofanana ndi chikhalidwe chake, chifukwa kutchuka kwake, azimayi ambiri amakopeka naye (nawonso, pazifukwa zoyambira kusinthika), komanso mwayi womwe adzakhala nawo.

Chifukwa chake munthu wapamwamba nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi vuto. Ngakhale ma module ena osinthika muubongo wake — tiyeni tiwatchule kuti ma module ake "okhalitsa kwanthawi yayitali" - akumuphunzitsa kuti achite m'njira zomwe zingapindulitsire banja lake, ntchito yake komanso mbiri yake, ma module ena osinthika - ma module ake a "mating" - akumulimbikitsa kutsatira mwayi watsopano wogonana. Ndipo ma module okhathamirawa, kuphatikiza pakukakamira pawokha, atha kuwonongera chidwi cha ma module omwe angakhalepo kwa nthawi yayitali, pomupangitsa mwamunayo kunyalanyaza ndikuchotsera zoopsa zomwe zikupezeka (kubanja, ntchito ndi mbiri) pakutsatira zosangalatsa zakugonana. Chifukwa chake mwamunayo akhoza kukakamizidwa kuchita zosangalatsa izi m'njira zomwe, kwa anthu ena, zimawoneka ngati zopanda nzeru komanso zopusa. ("Chifukwa chiyani padziko lapansi angaganize kuti adzathawa ndi izi?")

Ngati ndinu bambo amene mukufuna kupewa kuwononga moyo wanu chifukwa chofunafuna mwayi wokwatirana nawo, chiyembekezo chanu chabwino ndikuzindikira kuti mwayi uwu ukadzapezeka, ma module anu okhathamira azindikira zomwe akufuna kuti muchite, ndi Mungamve ngati akuyesetsa kuti muchite. Zitha kukupangitsani kuti muchepetse mavuto omwe zochita zanu zingayambitse banja lanu ndi ntchito yanu, ndikuwonjeza mwayi wanu wopulumuka kapena kukhululukidwa. Pofuna kupewa kuchita zinthu zomwe mungadandaule nazo, zindikirani ma module anu okwatirana pazomwe ali, ndikuzindikira zomwe akuyesa kukukakamizani kuti muchite. Kudziwa izi kumakulitsani mphamvu yanu kuti muzinyalanyaza, ndikumvetsera kwambiri mbali zaubongo wanu zomwe zidasinthika kuti zikuthandizireni mtsogolo.

(Nkhaniyi idapezeka mgulu la wolemba "Natural Law" m'magazini ya banki Wosunga Padziko Lonse , Nkhani yachilimwe kuphatikiza 2011).

Umwini Michael E. Price 2011. Ufulu wonse ndi wotetezedwa.