Dziko Lapansi Si Oyisitara Wanu

Tikupita patchuthi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti Januware ndipo malingaliro owopsa a Chaka Chatsopano ali pafupi. Kaya ndinu mtundu wamunthu kapena ayi, ino ndi nthawi yomwe anthu amayamba kuganiza zosintha, panokha komanso mwaukadaulo. Ndipo zowonadi, ngakhale chaka chino, makamaka, zingawoneke ngati nthawi yosamvetseka yosintha ntchito yanu (pokhapokha mutayenera), chowonadi ndichakuti, monga momwe zinthu ziliri, anthu ambiri akulemba ntchito. Sabata ino, ndamva kuchokera kwa akatswiri angapo omwe afika, kapena akufuna kufunsa za udindo wawo wotsatira.

Mutha kukhala m'modzi mwa omwe akufuna kusintha. Simukusangalala, simukutsutsidwa, kapena simukuwona mwayi komwe muli. Mwinamwake moyo wonsewu "wogwira ntchito kuchokera kulikonse" wakulimbikitsani kuti muganizire za komwe mukufuna kukhala ndikugwira ntchito. Akatswiri ambiri amisinkhu yonse ndi milingo yazambiri adandiuza kuti mliriwo wakakamiza ena kulingalira za komwe amapeza tanthauzo ndi cholinga komanso kusalongosoka kwa zinthuzo ndi zisankho zawo zaposachedwa.

Awa, ndikukhulupirira, mafunso oyambira omwe muyenera kudzifunsa nokha, osati munthawi ino komanso nthawi zonse. Kodi mumatanthauzira chiyani tanthauzo ndi cholinga? Kodi muli ndi cholinga chotani chogwirira ntchito? Kodi mfundo zanu ndi ziti, ndipo zikugwirizana ndi udindo wanu komanso bungwe lanu? Musanafike kukafufuza ntchito, muyenera kuyamba ndi mafunso awa kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake, kapena mukuyenera kuti mudzipeza mukudutsa ntchito zingapo komanso maudindo omwe sakukwaniritsa komanso alibe mphotho.

Koma ndiye chiyani? Ndikosavuta ngati munganene kuti, "Sindikusangalala ndi komwe ndili; sikundilimbikitsanso, ndipo zomwe ndikufuna kuchita ndichinthu china chapaderachi chomwe chimamangirira zokumana nazo zanga komanso zomwe ndili nazo." Ngati mungatchule dzina, ndiye kuti mutha kupanga mapulani, kuzindikira mipata yanu, ndikupita patsogolo ndikulunjika kuzolinga zanu.

Koma kwa ambiri, sizophweka. Nthawi zambiri, zomwe ndimamva kuchokera kwa anthu zimamveka motere: "Sindikusangalala ndi komwe ndili; sizikundilimbikitsanso; Ndikufuna kuchita china, koma sindikutsimikiza kuti ndichani. Chinanso chopanga / chanzeru / onjezani mawu ena osamveka pano. Moona mtima, ndichita chilichonse. "

Nthawi ina mzaka 50 zapitazi, tachoka pamalingaliro akuti "khalani okondwa kuti muli ndi ntchito" kupita ku "mutha kuchita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna" ndi, ndikukhulupirira, zotsatira zoyipa. Pachiyambi, timalimbikitsa anthu kuti akhazikike, nthawi zambiri kuti azikhala pakati. Ndichilankhulo chofotokozera mantha, monga, "Ndikudziwa kuti anthu ambiri ali ndi vuto loipitsitsa kuposa momwe ndimakhalira, ndiye kuti ndili wokondwa chabe kukhala ndi ntchito," ngakhale ndimagwira ntchito pamalo oopsa omwe akuphwanya chikhumbo changa.

Nayi chinthucho. Ife, monga anthu osinthika, titha kukhala ndi malingaliro awiri nthawi imodzi. Ndizotheka kuthokoza chifukwa cholemba ntchito pomwe ena ambiri sali ndipo kufuna china chosiyana ndi chabwino kwa inu nokha. Osangokhala "osangalala kuti muli ndi ntchito." Pezani ntchito, bungwe, ndi ntchito yopindulitsa yomwe imalankhula ndi zomwe mumayendera komanso zomwe zimakulimbikitsani.

Koma mbali inayi, pali chilankhulo ichi chokhudza "mutha kuchita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna" chomwe chidabukanso nthawi ina mzaka 20 zapitazi. Ndipo ngakhale zili zoona, zenizeni, sizoyandikira. Simungathe kuchita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna chifukwa mulibe luso, chidziwitso, kapena luso kutero.

Nenani kuti mwadzidzidzi mumazindikira kuti mumakonda kuthandiza anthu ndikusankha kuti mukufuna kukhala dokotala. Zabwino. Kodi mudapita kusukulu ya udokotala? Kodi mungalowe sukulu ya udokotala? Kodi mungadutse MCAT? Kodi mungakwanitse kulipira sukulu ya udokotala? Kodi ndinu okonzeka kuchita zaka zonse zophunzira ndikugwira ntchito kuti mukhale dokotala? Si matsenga. Simuyenera kungolankhula kena kake m'chilengedwe ndikukwaniritsidwa.

Ili ndiye vuto ndikumvetsetsa kwakanthawi kokhala ndi malingaliro okula. Pomwe pulofesa wa Stanford psychology a Carol Dweck adapanga mawuwa, sanali kufotokoza zopanda malire kuti achite chilichonse chomwe mukufuna chifukwa choti mukufuna. Amalongosola za zikhulupiriro, kaganizidwe , Ofunika kukhala omasuka kuphunzira, kupita patsogolo m'moyo wanu, kuthana ndi zovuta ndikugwira ntchito pakusintha.Ndizofunikira popititsa patsogolo, panokha komanso mwaukadaulo. Koma si njira yonse.

Malingaliro okhazikika ndi omwe amati, "Sindidzaphunzira momwe ndingagwire ntchitoyi bwino, nanga bwanji ndizivutikira kuyesa?" Malingaliro akukula akuti, "Ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndiphunzire kuti ndichite bwino ntchitoyi, koma ndikulolera kugwira ntchitoyi ndikuyesanso." Malingaliro okula ndichinthu chofunikira pakukula bwino pantchito ndikukonzekera. Koma si chinthu chokhacho.

Ndine wokhoza bwino pantchito ndi kafukufuku wina; awa ndi maudindo abwino kwa ine. Ndiyenerabe kuyesetsa kuti ndiphunzire ndikukhala bwino (kukula kwamaganizidwe), koma awa ndi maluso omwe ndili nawo omwe amandilekanitsa ndi anthu ena, ndipo ndi ntchito yomwe ndimakondwera nayo.

Sindine waluso pa zojambulajambula kapena kutsatsa. Sagwirizana ndi luso langa kapena zokonda zanga, komanso ndilibe chidziwitso chambiri mwa iwo. Malingaliro okukula anganene kuti ngati nditagwira ntchito ndikudzipereka pakukula ndikuphunzira, ndidzakhala bwino m'malo amenewo. Palibe funso.

Koma zikafika pakukonzekera ntchito, ndichifukwa chiyani nditha kuyesetsa pomwe anthu ena ali oyenereradi ntchitoyi? Zojambulajambula ndi kutsatsa sizomwe ndimatha kuchita. Chofunikanso kwambiri, sindikufuna kuchita ntchitoyi.

Simungachite chilichonse chomwe mukufuna, pakadali pano, chifukwa mulibe luso, chidziwitso, kapena chidziwitso m'malo ambiri. Simungachite chilichonse chomwe mukufuna chifukwa simukufuna kungochita chilichonse . Mulibe chikhumbo kapena chidwi pazinthu zambiri. Ndipo ngati mungadziwonetsere nokha, mudzazindikira kuti simulimbikitsidwa kuti mugwire ntchitoyi.

Mukunena, koma ndikupita kulikonse. Kodi mungatero? Khalani owona mtima. Kodi mungapite kukakhala m'tawuni yaying'ono yomwe ili pakati pa dzikolo? Kodi mungakakhale mumzinda waukulu ngati New York? Kodi mungapite kukakhala kumpoto chakum'mawa kapena kumwera chakumadzulo? Kodi mungapite kwanu ndikukhala kutsidya lina la msewu kuchokera kwa makolo anu?

Mfundo ndi iyi. Dziko lapansi silili oyisitara wanu. Ndipo tikazilingalira motere, m'malo mongotsegula mwayi wathu, zimakhala zofooketsa modabwitsa.

Zina mwa zofufuza zomwe ndimakonda ndizaka 20 zapitazo, zomwe zimadziwika kuti "kuyeserera kwa kupanikizana." Pofotokozedwa mwachidule, tsiku lina, gulu la ofufuza linapanga mawonekedwe 24 osiyanasiyana kuti anthu ayesere, kupereka kuchotsera kwa iwo omwe adagula. Tsiku lina, adatulutsa kupanikizana sikisi. Zomwe adapeza zinali, pomwe chiwonetsero chachikulu chimabweretsa chidwi, anthu anali ocheperako maulendo 10 ndipo samakhutira ndi kugula atagula. Zosankha zina sizabwino. Zosankha zinanso ndizosankha zambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri zimatilepheretsa kupita mtsogolo.

Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani kwa inu komanso kukonzekera ntchito? Muyenera kuchotsa zinthu pandandanda. Chepetsani zosankha zanu.

Lekani kuyang'ana kwambiri pazaka 20. Mukufuna kuti mudzakhale kuti chaka chamawa? Ndichoncho. Pali zambiri zosadziwika pazaka 20 zikubwerazi zomwe zingakugwetseni panjira yanu. Chidziwitso china chitsogolera chotsatira mukamaliza maluso ndi kukulitsa zokonda zanu ndikudziwikiratu za inu.

Chifukwa chake, musanayambe kuganiza, "Ndikufuna kukhala kuti, ndipo ndikufuna ndichite chiyani?" yambani apa:

• Kodi ine ayi mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo?
• Maudindo, mabungwe, ndi mafakitale omwe ndili nawo ndi ati ziro chidwi ndi?
• Kodi maudindo omwe ndili nawo ndi ati ayi oyenerera?
• Ndi maudindo ati omwe sakugwirizana ndi luso langa komanso omwe sindifuna kuchita nawo ntchitoyi?

Potsirizira pake, muyenera kufunsa mafunso oti ndikufuna kuchita chiyani ndipo ndikafika bwanji. Koma popanga zisankho moyenera, yambani posankha pamndandanda. Chotsani zisankho zomwe zikukuyimirani.

Dzikoli si oyisitara wanu, ndipo zili bwino. Kodi ndi luso lapadera, luso, kapena mphamvu zomwe mumapereka? Ndicho chimene chimakupangitsani inu, inu. Ndipo ndipamene muyenera kukhala.