Sinthani Sewerani Kuti Mukhale Ndi Maganizo Omwe Mukumvetsetsa Ana Muli Mliriwo

Izi zidalembedwa ndi Ellen Luborsky, Ph.D.

Kodi COVID idzatha liti? Nthawi zopanda malire izi zimabweretsa mapiri a mavuto. Ana ndi akulu amatha kukhumudwa, zomwe zimapangitsa mavuto ena kukulira. Koma njira imodzi yoti ana achiritse yabisika poyera.

Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuti muthe kusewera. Ana ambiri, makamaka achichepere, amalephera kufotokoza zomwe zili zolakwika m'mawu. Koma kusewera kwaulere, kosalembedwa kumapereka mawonekedwe achilengedwe omwe amatulutsa nkhawa (Brown, 2019).

Kusewera limodzi kumapereka njira yogawana malingaliro ndi mavuto popanda kuwafotokozera m'mawu. Nayi nkhani ya mwana wazaka 4 wazamasewera. Phatikizani ndiulendo wake kuti muwone momwe adagwiritsira ntchito chilankhulo posonyeza mantha ake ndikuthana ndi nkhawa.

Mbalame ya Chinsansa

"Swanayo ndiye wokongola kwambiri kuposa onse," ananong'oneza Marissa wazaka 4.

Adayika khanda loyera pakatikati pa kanjedza kake, ndikusankha kuchokera pagulu lazinyama patebulo pafupi ndi zenera.

Koma mwadzidzidzi Mbalame ya Chinsansa inasowa.

“Mbalame ya Chinsansa ili kuti?” Ndinamufunsa.

"Anthu oyipa adamutenga," adandiuza. “Amubisa!”

Ine ndi Marissa tinafufuza pansi pa tebulo. Palibe Mbalame ya Chinsansa kumeneko. Ndinawerama ndikuyang'ana pansi pa desiki. Palibe pamenepo. Pomaliza tidampeza pansi pa mpando wawukulu wachikopa.

Marissa adamunyamula mosamala ndikumuika mu mbale yasiliva yamakhadi abizinesi. Anapanga bulangete kuchokera ku Kleenex ndikudyetsa tchizi chake chopangidwa ndi dongo. Pafupifupi choseweretsa chonse muofesi chimakanikizidwa kuti chikhale bwenzi kapena chakudya cha Mbalame ya Chinsansa.

Lachitatu lililonse, Mbalame ya Chinsansa inasowa Marissa asanavula malaya ake. Anazungulira mchipinda mu masokosi ake, akusaka malo obisalira. Ndinkadziwa kuti sindiyenera kuyang'anira pomwe Swan imazimiririka.

“Mbalame ya Chinsansa ili kuti?” Osati kuseri kwa nyali.

Ndinayang'ana pakati pamabuku ena pomwe malingaliro anga adatembenukira ku mbiri yake yeniyeni. Amayi ake anandiuza ndisanakumane ndi Marissa.

Panali kumenyana, adalongosola motsitsa. Miyezi itatu yapitayo, mwamuna wake adamugogoda pakhomo lakhitchini.

"Kodi Marissa wawona chilichonse?" Ndinadabwa.

"Sindikukhulupirira." Phokoso lachisoni mmawu ake lidamveka m'malingaliro mwanga.

Kubwerera muofesi, ine ndi Marissa tinali tikufunabe Swan. Kupulumutsa Swan kuyenera kukhala njira yopulumutsira amayi ake, ndinaganiza. Kapena inali njira ya Marissa yodzipulumutsira kuti asamasungulumwe komanso mantha?

Atha kukhala onse awiri, ndidaganiza choncho, popeza masewera sadziwa malire.

“Mbalame ya Chinsansa ili kuti?”

Ine ndi Marissa timapitilizabe kuyang'ana, pomwe ndimasiya malingaliro anga ozama osalankhula. Ndidadziwa kuchokera pa zokumana nazo ndi ana ena kuti ndikadumpha kuchoka pamasewera mpaka zochitika zowopsa, atha kuchita mantha ndikutseka.

Dziwani kaye mwanayo, ndinadziuza ndekha. Muloleni anene nkhani yake m'njira yakeyake. Kumbukirani kuti chilankhulo chosewerera ndi malo ake omwe.

Marissa adaloza kuloza makatani, ndikundichenjeza mpaka pano. Anali akundiyembekezera kuti ndifufuze Swan.

Ndinakankhira kumbuyo nsalu yotchinga kumanzere. Palibe Mbalame ya Chinsansa kumeneko. Ndinayesa ya kumanja. Palibe Mbalame ya Chinsansa komweko.

Pambuyo pake ndinamupeza pansi pa ngodya ya rug.

"Ndi ameneyo!" Ndinamwetulira Marissa. "Ndikuganiza kuti akusangalala kuti tamupeza."

Marissa adandiyang'ana ndi diso ndikukweza.

Mmoyo weniweni zoopsa zidatha, amayi ake adandiuza. Mwamuna wake adalonjeza kuti sadzamuyikanso, ndipo adayamba kupita naye kukalandira upangiri wa maanja.

Koma Marissa anali kugwiritsa ntchito sewerolo kunena kuti sanali wotsimikiza za mathero osangalatsa. Amuna oyipa amabwera kudzayesa kugwiranso Swan. Masewera ake anali obwereza chifukwa mantha ake anali kubwereza.

Tisanayambe kukumana, Marissa adakhala miyezi itatu atakhumudwa ali pasukulu ya kusukulu, wanyowa misozi komanso pee. Tsopano popeza anali ndi njira yakeyake yoti afotokozere nkhani yake, mawonekedwe amthupi amenewo mwamantha anali atatha. Aphunzitsi ake anandiuza kuti amatha tsiku lake kusukulu popanda kulira kapena kuchita ngozi.

Ndasangalalatu kwambiri! ” Aphunzitsi ake anatulutsa foni.

Koma sizinatanthauze kuti zonse zatha, malinga ndi Marissa. Mbalame ya Chinsansa inali itabisala.

“Mbalame ya Chinsansa ili kuti?” Tinkasewera masewerawa mobwerezabwereza.

Ndinayang'ana kagawo kakang'ono ka mphira kamene kanali patebulopo Marissa atatuluka mu ofesi. Ndinamubwezera m'mbale zasiliva, limodzi ndi makadi anga abizinesi. Mbalame ya chinsansa inali yoyenera malowa. Anagwira mantha ndi chiyembekezo cha Marissa mu mawonekedwe ake inchi imodzi. Mbalame ya Chinsansa ikhoza kubisala pangozi ndipo titha kumupeza mbali inayo, nthawi zambiri momwe Marissa adatengera kukhazikika mkati.

Zinali zolemera kwambiri kuyika kansalu kakang'ono ka mphira, koma ndinali wokondwa kuti tinali naye. Chitetezo chamkati ndi mphamvu yosaoneka, yomwe ingapangitse kusiyana pakati pamavuto amoyo.

Nthawi zonse ndimadabwa kuti izi zimatenga bwanji Marissa. Pambuyo pa miyezi ingapo, banja lake linasamukira ku nyumba yatsopano kukayamba mwatsopano. Izi zidamutengera kudera lina, kupitirira ola limodzi kuchokera kuofesi yanga. Ndimamulola kuti apite ndi Mbalame ya Chinsansa.

Mbalame ya Chinsansa ndi nkhani yoona, koma zina zasinthidwa kuti ziteteze chinsinsi.

Ellen B Luborsky, Ph.D.,. ndi katswiri wama psychology wazaka zambiri wodziwa kuthandiza ana ndi akulu mavuto osiyanasiyana omwe amabwera chifukwa chokhala anthu. Amaphunzitsidwa ndi psychoanalysis, play therapy, hypnotherapy, ndi psychotherapy ya khanda ndi khanda. Adalowa nawo COVID Psychology Task Force kuti athandizire pamavuto a ana. Nkhani zake zazifupi koma zowona za ana achichepere zidalandira mphotho zapamwamba ndi New York Psychological Association ku 2010. Buku la nkhanizi, A View kuchokera ku Sandbox, likuyembekezeka kutuluka kumapeto kwa chaka chino. Anagwirizana Kafukufuku & Psychotherapy: The Vital Link ndi bambo ake, Lester Luborsky, mu 2007. Ndi membala wa a Hospital, Healthcare & Addiction Workers, Patients and Families gulu logwira ntchito la COVID Psychology Task Force (lokhazikitsidwa ndi magawo 14 a American Psychological Association), omwe amathandizira blog iyi .