Ndi liti “Mukufuna Kugonana?” Zimalephera

Zamkati

• Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa
• Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo

Ndiganizire - sizinali zovuta kuyambitsa zogonana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Sikunadziwikebe kuti anali ndani woitanidwa komanso woitanayo. Komabe, panjira, zinthu zinasintha. Tsopano, kupanga kugonana kwakhala ntchito. Mukuyamba kuganiza kuti ndizosavuta osayesa.

Ndimamva nkhaniyi pafupipafupi mchipinda changa chothandizira. Izi ndi zochitika ziwiri zomwe ndimamva kuchokera kwa ma hetero maanja omwe akulimbana ndi moyo wawo wogonana:

Chitsanzo 1: Amakonda kubwera kwa iye nthawi zonse-kotero kuti nthawi zambiri samachita zoyeserera. Zinkagwira ntchito kwa onse awiri - anasangalala kunena kuti ali ndi mphamvu zogonana, ndipo adapeza kuti chidaliro chake chinali chotentha kwambiri. Mpaka zinthu zitasintha modabwitsa.

Pafupifupi usiku, osazindikira chifukwa chake, adasiya kubwera kwa iye. Nthawi zambiri, kusintha kumeneku kumachitika ngati awiriwo akukhala limodzi, akwatirana, kapena akwatirana. Mwadzidzidzi akufuna kukhala wolandila mphamvu zakugonana ndikumva mphamvu yake yakugonana ndikukhumba.

Amafuna kudzimva kuti akufunidwa m'njira yowoneka bwino kwambiri. Koma wataya. Sikunali konse kugonana kwake ndi iye, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti chilichonse chogonana akamayesa, iye amachikana. Izi zimawasiya onse akumva kuti sakumvetsetsedwa komanso sakukhutira. Akafika kuofesi yanga, amagonana mwezi uliwonse - ngati ali ndi mwayi.

Chitsanzo 2: Nthawi zambiri amayamba kugonana. Pomwe ubale wawo udakalamba, ndipo kugonana kunayamba kukhala kosasangalatsa, adayamba kukana zofuna zake kuti akhale pachibwenzi. Kwa kanthawi, onse awiri amaganiza kuti ichi chinali blip mosayembekezeka pazithunzi zawo zogonana ndikuganiza kuti zinthu zibwerera mwakale.

Patapita kanthawi, adatopa ndikusowa chidwi kwake, ndipo adasiya kuyambitsa. Zolaula zinali zophweka kwambiri. Poyamba, sanakambirane za nkhaniyi — iye ankakayikira ngati angaonenso zosinthazo. Pambuyo pake, adasowa poyesa kuyambitsa ndipo adachita mantha.

Tsopano akumufuna kuti ayambitse, koma izi zimamupangitsa kudzidalira. Sizinali kanthu kena kamene anali womasuka kuchita. Akafika kuofesi yanga, palibe amene amamva kuti akufuna. Kugonana kumayimirabe.

Kodi kugonana kumayamba bwanji kukhala kovuta kwambiri? Zikuwoneka kuti kuyambitsa kupanga chikondi kuyenera kukhala kosavuta kwambiri. Mumakondana wina ndi mnzake; ndinu wokhulupirika kwa wina ndi mnzake — vuto ndi chiyani?

Nthawi zambiri kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi, kugonana kumakhala kotentha kwambiri kotero kuti palibe amene amaganizira za kuyambika. Koma chilakolako chatsopano cha chibwenzi chimatha, maanja akuyenera kukambirana mozama momwe zinthu zingapangire kuti kugonana kuchitike. M'malo mochita kugonana kukhala chisankho cha thupi, chomwe chimachitika mwa chilakolako, kuyambika kumakhala chiwonetsero cha malingaliro.

Malinga ndi malingaliro, nthawi zonse pamakhala chifukwa choti musayambitse. Kulankhula kosalekeza kwamaganizidwe kumakondweretsa - makamaka nthawi zambiri. "Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuyambitsa?" “Kodi akufuna agonane pompano?” "Kodi ndi wamanyazi?" "Ndine wonyansa?" "Mwina ndidikire mpaka pulogalamu yake ithe?" “Mwina ndiyambe ndasamba kaye?” “Mwina ndachedwa kwambiri — ndiyenera kudzuka molawirira ... koma padutsa milungu iwiri kuchokera pomwe tinagonana!”

Vuto lachiwiri ndi kuchuluka kwa chiopsezo chotenga nawo gawo poyambitsa kugonana. Tikayamba, timakhala tikulankhulana kwambiri kuposa momwe timaganizira. Timadziyika tokha kunja uko, osadziteteza. Tikuvomereza kuti tili ndi zosowa zathu ndipo tikufuna wokondedwa wathu. Kukanidwa kwa anzathu, monga kusowa kwawo poyambira, kukuwonetsa kuti sitili okondweretsedwa kapena osakondedwa.

Mwanjira imeneyi, kukana zogonana - monga momwe zimakhalira kawirikawiri kuyambitsa zogonana - kumakhala ngati chopanda kanthu chomwe timafotokozera zamantha athu onse. "Sakundifuna chifukwa ndili ndi _____ (lembani mawuwo: woyipa / wodabwitsa / wopanda nzeru)." Kudzikana mobwerezabwereza kwa malingaliro athu okhudzana ndi kugonana - mbali yakumunthu yathuyi - zimapereka umboni kuti zonse zomwe tapeza zochititsa manyazi kapena zosavomerezeka za ife ndizowona.

Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa

Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo