Pomwe Bambo Anga Anakhala Wothamangitsa Akuluakulu

M'zaka zisanu zapitazi za moyo wa bambo anga, adasintha m'njira yosokoneza kwambiri yomwe sindimamvetsa. Ndine mwana yekhayo, chotero abambo anga adatembenukira kwa ine, pafupifupi amayi anga atamwalira kumene, kuti andithandizire kupeza wosunga nyumba - wokhala ndi mwayi. Ali ndi zaka 88 sanakonzekere kukhala yekha, koma yankho lake linali kulipira wina kuti apite naye kokagonana. Dongosolo lake silinali labwino kwa bambo woganiza bwino, wamakhalidwe abwino omwe ndimakonda ndikukonda, yemwe, monga momwe ndimadziwira, anali wokwatiwa mosangalala komanso mokhulupirika kwa amayi anga kwa zaka 60. Zingatheke bwanji kuti munthu wotereyu, wachikazi, aziona mwadzidzidzi zakugonana ngati ntchito yomwe akazi onse omwe adawalembera akuyenera kuyembekezeredwa?

Malongosoledwe othandiza, kuti ukalamba udamupangitsa kukhala wodetsedwa, sanamve bwino.

Kulankhula momveka sikunapereke kuwala. Nditakumbutsa abambo anga kuti zomwe amakonda, sizinavomerezedwe, adandiimba mlandu wanzeru. "Munali kuti? Kodi simunamvepo zakusintha kwakugonana? Nanga bwanji ma geisha? Zikhalidwe zina zili ndi dongosolo. ” Ntchito yake yodabwitsa pambali, munjira ina iliyonse amadziona ngati iye; zokonda zake zinali zazikulu, mfundo zake zandale zinali zamphamvu. Amafuna kukhala ndendende monga momwe adakhalira - kuzizira ku Mexico, kusangalala ndi zochitika komanso moyo wapagulu laku Westchester - koma analibe chidwi chocheza ndi akazi amasiye okondedwa omwe abwenzi ake amamuwuza.

Zinthu zinafika pachilendo. Nditakonza zoti tikakomane ndi omwe adayankha pazotsatsa zomwe ndidachita, adawona zoyankhulana ngati zoyambira pachibwenzi. Kenako adapita kumbuyo kwanga kukalembera zolakwika zingapo zomwe zidangopita kukangokhalako patadutsa miyezi ingapo ndikuwopsezedwa kapena kuwopsezedwa, ndipo nthawi ina adachotsedwa ndi antchito 911 kupita nawo kuchipatala cha psych. Ngakhale atakhala olakwika bwanji, bambo anga anali osangalala ndi zomwe apeza ndipo adayesetsa kuti awachotse pamapazi awo. Kuti abambo anga anzeru amatha kukhala okhutira ndi azimayi omwe akusowa mikhalidwe ya mayi wanga wokangalika, wokwaniritsa tsopano akuwoneka kuti ndiwodabwitsa kwambiri kuposa zomwe amakonda.

Zomwe zinali kuchitika ziyenera kuti zinali zowonekeratu, koma sizinali kwa ine. Komanso sizinali za abwenzi omwe ndidafunsira, ngakhale ambiri anali ndi nthano zofananira ndi makolo awo: mayi yemwe chilankhulo chake chimamveka bwino, bambo yemwe amafuna kukhala ndi hule, bambo yemwe adapereka mwayi kwa mwana wake wamkazi -law, mayi yemwe adavula pagome. Aliyense adatembenuza mchitidwewo, ngakhale unali wovuta, monga kutanganidwa ndi kugonana komwe kumachitika mwa achikulire.

Mofanana ndi anzanga, ndinkangodzikhululukira. Mwina bambo anga adagwedezeka ndimamayi anga ndipo adalibe mphamvu yoti akhale ndi chibwenzi china mochedwa kwambiri. Mwinanso anali wokonda ubwana wake ndipo amafuna kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wake wachinyamata mwadzidzidzi. Anyamata adzakhala anyamata, pambuyo pa zonse. Makamaka, ndimayesa kusaganiza kuti gawo lowopsa, lomwe linali lobisika kale la abambo anga likuwululidwa. Sitimakonda kuganizira za kugonana kwa makolo athu (ngakhale sitikanakhala pano popanda izi), ndipo sindinatero.

Yankho lolondola linapezeka kuti lakhala likuyang'ana pankhope nthawi yonseyi.

Koma atamwalira, ndinayang'ana mayankho. Google idapereka maulalo okhudzana ndi chizolowezi chogonana komanso vuto lachiwerewere m'mabanja okalamba, momwe odwala omwe ali ndi vuto la misala amatha kuseweretsa maliseche pagulu kapena kudzikakamiza kwa odwala ena, zomwe ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe abambo anga adachita. Ndikulimbikira mopitilira, pamapeto pake ndinazindikira zodwala zakumaso kwa diso: kudziletsa pa kugonana, kulephera kuweruza, komanso kuzindikira za machitidwe oyenera. Bingo. Matendawa adakwanira ndipo nthawi yomweyo adafotokoza za nkhanza zomwe ndimakhala ndikulimbana nazo. Abambo anga anali ndi vuto lofananira laubongo monganso anthu okhala ndi ziwalo zokumbukira odwala koma pang'ono.

Chifukwa chiyani sindinawone zowonekazo?

Zowona zakukula kwakanthawi kwaubongo zomwe ndizodziwika bwino mdziko la dementia sizinapite kwa tonsefe. Malingaliro athu samapita kuubongo waubongo titawona makolo athu okalamba akuchita zodabwitsa zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ndipo komabe, choonadi chitangondigwira, zimawoneka ngati zowonekeratu. Sindikanatha kuziwona bwanji? Chifukwa zomwe zidalembedwazo zidandilepheretsa kuyandikira pafupi. Ndipo chifukwa kwa zaka masauzande ambiri, tapanga matenda mwanjira ina.

Kupatula apo, zodabwitsazi zidalipo kuyambira pomwe anthu amakhala nthawi yayitali kuti athe kuzidziwa, ndipo njira yowonera idayamba pomwe palibe amene amadziwa za momwe ubongo umagwirira ntchito. Zikhulupiriro za "bambo wachikulire wonyansa" zakhalapobe kuyambira ku Roma. Chithunzi choseketsa cha agogo aamuna okhazikika, omwe ndi achiwerewere (kapena agogo) chafalikira kwambiri kotero kuti timachivomereza ngati gawo lakale la ukalamba.

Koma, okalamba satanganidwa kwambiri ndi kugonana kuposa tonsefe, omwe timakhala ndi malingaliro azakugonana tsiku lonse (ndizomwe zimapangitsa kuti mtundu wa anthu upitirire, pambuyo pake). Kusiyana kokha ndikuti timasunga chiweruzo ndikudzizindikira kuti tisachite izi. Kupunduka kwa maselo amubongo ndikumasinthasintha kwakuthupi monga kuchepa kwamitsempha yamkati yamakutu yomwe imapangitsa kumva kwakumva-ndipo chimodzimodzi sichimagwirizana ndi chikhalidwe.

Zitha kuwoneka ngati kusintha kwakanthawi kuzindikira kuti machitidwe osayenera okhudzana ndi okalamba si nkhani yamaganizidwe koma ya mitsempha. Ndipo kusintha kumeneku kumangofunika kuchotsa nkhawa za mamiliyoni a ife omwe timawona zomwe zikuwoneka ngati zowopsa komanso zochititsa manyazi kwa kholo kapena wokalamba. Mphindi, munthu amene timamukonda ndi kumusirira abwezedwa kwa ife.