Kodi Ndingadalire Ndani? Momwe Ubale Umathandizira Kukhala Ndi Moyo Wathanzi

Zamkati

• Kudzipereka kumabweretsa chitetezo.
• Ubale Ofunika Amawerengedwa
• Mgwirizano Wokakamiza Pakati pa Chikondi ndi Nzeru

Anthu ambiri aku America, makamaka anthu ambiri m'maiko ambiri padziko lonse lapansi, amakhala ndi thanzi labwino. COVID idabweretsa kuzindikira kwadzidzidzi komanso kochititsa mantha kwa anthu ambiri kuti mwina thanzi silingaganizidwe mopepuka. "Ndikadwala, ndani angandisamalire?"

Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tinadziyankhadi funso ili. M'masabata oyamba a COVID, timakhala tikuchezera mwana wathu wamkazi ndi banja lake mumzinda wakutali. Nthawi ina, tinayang'anizana modzidzimutsa kuti tidzayang'ane funso lovuta ili: Ndani angatisamalire tikadakhala ndi COVID, kapena matenda amtundu uliwonse?

Pamalo pomwepo, tidapanga chisankho. Tonse tinazindikira mwadzidzidzi kuti m'malo mongobwerera kunyumba kwathu ku Denver — nyumba ya banja lathu mibadwo ingapo koma kutali ndi ana athu akulu kapena adzukulu athu ambiri — tifunika kukhala pafupi ndi ana athu. "Tiyeni tikhale pano," tinaganiza."Tiyeni tipeze malo okhala pafupi ndi mwana wathu wamkazi wamkulu ndi banja lake patangopita mphindi zochepa. Izi zingatibweretserenso mtunda woyenda pang'ono kuchokera kwa mwana wamkazi nambala 2 ndi amuna awo ndikukhala mumzinda umodzi." Zinali choncho — chisankho chosaganizira ena. Zikomo, COVID, chifukwa chofotokozera nkhaniyi momveka bwino.

Ena ambiri mwachiwonekere akhala akupanga zosankha zofananazo. Monga a Jamie Ducharme adalemba Nthawi , "Mdziko la maubale, miyala yamtengo wapatali ikunena zakuchulukirachulukira kwa malonda amphete, Washington Post inanenedwa mu December. M'chigawo cha 2020 cha lipoti la Match 'America Singles in America' lapachaka, opitilira theka la omwe anafunsidwa anati akuyika pachibwenzi patsogolo ndikuganizira za zomwe amafufuza mwa anzawo, zomwe mwina zidayambitsidwa ndi chisokonezo chathunthu chaka chino. "

Funso lotsatira: Mungatsimikize bwanji kuti mungadalire omwe mumakonda?

Ndi maubwenzi ati omwe ali ndi kuthekera kokhala olimba mokwanira kuti akupatseni inu chitetezo pokhudzana ndi ndani adzakhalepo munthawi zovuta?

Nthawi, chidwi, komanso nthawi zabwino zocheza zitha kulimbitsa ubalewo. Kuyandikira kwa malo kumathandiza. Koposa zonse, kuchuluka kwa mphamvu zopanda pake komanso kuchuluka kwa "kugwedezeka" komwe kumayenda muzochita zanu muubwenzi kumakhudza chitetezo cha ubale wanu.

Zindikirani kuchuluka kwa mphamvu zomwe mumapereka kudzera pakumwetulira, kukhudzana m'maso, kuyamikira, kukonda, chidwi ndi ena, kugawana kuseka, komanso kusamalirana.

Onaninso momwe mumapereka zosiyana. Tikukhulupirira kuti palibenso zoyipa, ndiye kuti, palibe zodandaula, kutsutsa, kuimba mlandu, kudandaula, kuwuza mnzanu zoyenera kuchita, kapena kukwiya.

Kwa pafupifupi aliyense, pali zambiri zomwe zingapangitse kulera kwanu, abale anu, anzanu, ena ofunika, banja, ndi maubale ena kukhala kosangalatsa ayi - komanso odalirika pomwe mukuwafuna. (Dziwani zambiri patsamba langa.)

Kudzipereka kumabweretsa chitetezo.

Kudzipereka kulinso kofunikira. Ndizomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja likhale lotetezedwa kuposa kukhala limodzi. Ukwati umawonjezera kudzipereka mwalamulo. Zimalimbikitsanso kusintha kwamkati kuchokera mwina kuti motsimikiza komanso kwanthawizonse .

Kudzipereka m'banja kuli ndi malire. Mgwirizanowu ukhoza kuthyoledwa ngati kulumikizana kwabwino sikokwanira komanso mphamvu zoyipa ndizambiri. Kapenanso ngati m'modzi m'modzi agwidwa ndi zomwe ndimatcha 3 A's: Chizolowezi, Zinthu, ndi Mkwiyo wozunza.

Mfundo yofunika: Kodi mukugwiritsa ntchito zomwe tikukhulupirira kuti ndi miyezi ingapo yapitayi ya COVID ngati chikhazikitso chokhazikitsira maubwenzi ofunika pamoyo wanu?

Zowonadi, nthawi ya COVID iyi yakhala nthawi yayitali yakusowa: kutaya ndalama, mavuto kuntchito, zovuta zakudzipatula pagulu, kutaya ufulu wopita kwina ndi kwina, komanso kwa ambiri, matenda akulu ngakhale imfa .

Komabe, nthawi yomweyo, COVID imapereka mpata wowunikiranso omwe mungadalire m'moyo wanu-komanso nthawi yolingalira mozama pazomwe mungafune kukweza muubwenzi. Kodi mungachite chiyani mosiyana kuti muchepetse kusamvana ndikuthandizira kuyanjana kwabwino muubwenzi?

Kukweza ubale ndi ndalama zabwino. Amakulipirani tsopano - ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakulitsa mwayi woti makamaka mukafuna chisamaliro ndi chithandizo, munthu ameneyo adzakuthandizani. Zikomo, COVID, potikumbutsa kuti tizikondana kwambiri ndi iwo, tsiku lina, tidzafunika kudalira.

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