N 'chifukwa Chiyani Minda Yabwino Ili Yofunika Kwambiri pa Moyo?

Zamkati

• Mutha Kukhala Wanu
• Mutha Kuchepetsa
• Mutha Kulumikizana Ndi Ena, Kuphatikizira Ochoka
• Mutha Kulandila Chikondi
• Mutha Kutuluka Mumutu Mwanu
• Mutha kutsegula kuti musinthe
• Mungapeze Moyo mu Imfa

Tikavulazidwa m'thupi, m'malingaliro, kapena mumzimu, nthawi zambiri timakopeka ndi zachilengedwe ngati malo ochiritsira. Kwa ena, ndikuyenda m'nkhalango kapena m'mphepete mwa nyanja. Kwa ambiri a ife, munda ndiye malo athu ochiritsira.

Chris Fehlhaber, wothandizira zaulimi ku Chanticleer Garden ku Wayne, Pennsylvania anati: "Minda ingathandize kuchiritsa thupi, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro.

Ndinadabwa ndimachiritso awa pomwe ndidamanga dimba langa chaka chatha. Ndinali pakati pa matenda aatali ndi matenda a nkhungu omwe sanadziwike panthawiyo ndipo ndinakopeka kuti ndimange munda wamasamba kumbuyo kwanga — osati chifukwa ndimayembekezera kuti ndikonza zomwe zikundidwalitsa, koma chifukwa ndimakonda kulima ndikufunika zosangalatsa zina.

Panali china chokhudza kukhala panja chomwe chimamveka chopatsa moyo, ngakhale mpweya wowuma wa 20-february wa February pomwe ndimamanga mabedi okwezeka. Ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikusiya kuganizira kwambiri za zovuta zomwe sizinachite zambiri pantchito yanga. Pamene ndimadzaza mabedi ndikugwada pansi ndi manja anga m'nthaka, malingaliro anga adatsitsimuka ndipo mzimu wanga udatsitsimutsidwa.

Wolemba Margo Rabb adalandira machiritso ake kuchokera kuzowawa zakutali m'munda zomwe Fehlhaber amakonda, zomwe adagawana nawo New York Times ya mutu wakuti, “Garden of Solace.” Ndinalankhula ndi awiriwo pa Ganizirani Khalani Podcast pomwe tidasanthula zomwe zimapatsa minda mphamvu yakuchiritsa. Nayi mitu isanu ndi iwiri yomwe idatuluka pazokambirana zathu.

Mutha Kukhala Wanu

M'dziko lomwe limatilimbikitsa kuvala zokongoletsa, dimba ndi malo achilungamo komanso otsitsimula. "Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe timakondadi za zomera ndikuti ndizowona mtima kwathunthu kwa ife," Fehlhaber sais. "Chomera chimakuwuzani ngati sikukupeza dzuwa lokwanira kapena chikupeza madzi ambiri."

Kuwona mtima komwe timapeza m'munda kumalimbikitsa kukhulupirika kwathu komanso kuwona mtima. "Ngati chilichonse chokuzungulirani chikuchita zinthu moona mtima ndikudziwonetsa momwe alili, ndiye kuti mwasamala nokha," adatero Fehlhaber. "Mukasiya chitetezo chanu, zitha kukupulumutsani."

Gawo la kukhala wekha ndikukhala omasuka kumva zomwe mukumva. "Kwa ine, anali malo omwe chisoni sichinamveke ngati choti 'chingakonzedwe,'" Rabb adatero. “Tikufuna kukhulupirira kuti chisoni ndichinthu chomwe mumachira, koma simukutero. Zimasintha mawonekedwe ndipo zimayenda modzidzimutsa ndipo zimabwera ndikupita, koma 'simumatha.' Awa anali malo omwe mumatha kumva chisoni pamavuto ake onse. Ndimamva malingaliro ovutawa ndikungowasiya. ”

Pamene timalola chitetezo chathu kugwa ndikudzilola kukhala owona mtima, timatsegulira ku chowonadi cha zomwe takumana nazo komanso za omwe tili. Kodi malo opatulika ndi ati ngati si malo oti mukhale nokha?

Mutha Kuchepetsa

Mukalowa m'munda, nthawi imayamba kuchepa. Maganizo ndi thupi lanu zimapuma mukamachoka pagulu, ndipo mumatha kulumikizana ndi mzimu wanu. Minda imatipempha kuti tisiye kuchita zomwe timachita nthawi zonse ndikudzilola kukhala.

"Pali bata m'minda," Rabb adatero, "ndipo ndikuthawa nkhani komanso zachiwawa zomwe timakumana nazo nthawi zonse. Si dziko lofatsa kunjaku. ” Anapeza kuti Chanticleer Garden idapereka malo omwe amafunikira kuti amve chisoni chomwalira mayi ake zaka 25 m'mbuyomu. Kuthamanga kosafulumira kukhala m'munda kumatipatsa nthawi yomwe chisoni chimafunikira.

"Tilibenso malo ambiri ofatsawa," adatero Rabb. "Kubwera kuno komwe kuli zinthu zamtendere komanso zazing'ono, ndi malo opatulika."

Ndinamva kudzipatulira uku ndikugwada m'munda mwanga tsiku lina. Zomwe zidayamba ngati kaimidwe kake ka kuzula namsongole zidasandulika kukhala chinthu chopatulika, ngati kuti ndimangotengera wina wamkulu kuposa ine.

Mutha Kulumikizana Ndi Ena, Kuphatikizira Ochoka

Minda imatha kukhalanso ngalande pakati pathu ndi anthu ena. Ngakhale sitimadziwa manja omwe adapanga dimba, timamva kukhudzidwa kwa umunthu mozungulira ife m'munda wonsewo. Munda ukhoza kukhala ndi chizindikiro cha omwe adakonza ndikuyika mbewu ndi mitengo m'nthaka, ngakhale zitadutsa kale.

Fehlhaber adagawana nawo momwe minda ingatithandizire ndi iwo omwe salinso amoyo. "Agogo anga aamuna ankandikweza pamapewa awo kuti ndimve fungo la maluwa pachitsamba," adatero. “Mpaka lero ndimayesetsa kuwanunkhiza pafupipafupi momwe ndingathere masika aliwonse chifukwa amakhala akanthawi kochepa. Ndipo ndikumva ngati kuti ndili kumbuyo kwake. ”

Mutha Kulandila Chikondi

Mukamaganizira za munda mwina simukuganiza za chikondi, koma ndimphamvu yochiritsira yomwe minda imapereka. Munda wamangidwa chifukwa cha chikondi - osati chithunzi cha mitima yapinki ndi yofiira, koma mphamvu yamoyo yomwe ili m'zinthu zonse zamoyo. Kulumikizana ndi mtundu wa chikondi kumatha kukhala gawo lamphamvu pakuchiritsa.

Chikondi m'munda chimadza kudzera muzomwe timakumana nazo osati kudzera m'mawu. "Zomera zimalumikizana nanu mchilankhulo cha mphamvu-kuwona, kumveka, kukhudza, kulawa, ndi kununkhiza," adatero Fehlhaber. “Zomera zonse zimakhala ndi zonena zambiri ngati titenga nthawi kuti timvetsetse. Satha kunena mawu, koma kodi chikondi sichimangonena za thanzi komanso chisangalalo? ”

Chikondi chimatulukanso pachisamaliro chomwe chimalowa m'munda. "Nthawi iliyonse mukaika mtima wanu ndi moyo wanu mu china chake, chikondi chomwe chimayikika chimatha kuthandizira pakuchira. Chikondi ndi mzimuwo ndizomwe zimakhudza anthu m'munda, "adatero Fehlhaber.

Rabbi adavomerezanso. "Mukuwona zochuluka zathiridwa m'munda, kenako mumalandira," adatero. "Zili ngati chibwenzi, pafupifupi ngati kulandira kalata yachikondi."

Mutha Kutuluka Mumutu Mwanu

Chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri m'munda ndikusintha kokometsa kwa malo, kaya kungotayika kapena kulumikizidwa pazenera. "Dziko lathu limakhala laling'ono komanso lodzitchinjiriza tikamakumana ndi zowawa," adatero Fehlhaber, "ndipo ndikosavuta kutayika munkhani zathu. Mukangosiya malingaliro amenewo ndikungopezekapo ndikupanga zomwe zikuyandikirani, mumazindikira kuchuluka kwa zinthu zomwe zikuchitika zomwe moona mtima sizikukukhudzani. ”

Moyo ndi imfa zimangotizungulira m'munda. Timalimbikitsidwa kudziwa kuti mayendedwewa akupitilizabe, ziribe kanthu zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo yathu. "Moyo wonse womwe mudzapeze m'munda udzakhala ndi moyo ndipo udzafa, udzakhala ndi masiku abwino komanso masiku oyipa monga momwe timachitira," adatero Fehlhaber. “Chomera chomwe chidzawoneka bwino tsiku lina chidzafa tsiku lotsatira. Ndiwo moyo-ndizomwe zimachitika. Ndipo kuzindikira kumeneku kumakuthandizani kudziwa kuti zidzakhala bwino. ”

Mutha kutsegula kuti musinthe

Kusintha kumakhala kovuta, makamaka ngati kumakhala kosavomerezeka - kufa kwa wokondedwa, mwachitsanzo, kapena kuchepa kwa thanzi lathu. Kusintha uku kumatha kukhala ngati kuchoka kwa momwe zinthu ziyenera kukhalira, pomwe timakana chilichonse chomwe chimakhumudwitsa dziko lathu monga momwe timadziwira.

"Kulima ndikutsimikizira kuti kusintha sikungapeweke komanso kuli bwino," adatero Fehlhaber. “Sizabwino kapena zoipa — zimangokhala. Kusintha kumabweretsa chitsimikizo chakuti moyo uli ndi malire, ndipo udzatha monga nyengo zonse zimathera. ” Pamene timalola mayendedwe amoyo ndi imfa m'munda, titha kupita kukuvomereza mayendedwe athu mwa ife ndi mwa omwe timawakonda.

Pochita izi, minda imatikumbutsa kuti kusintha sikumapeto kwa nkhaniyi. "Kulima kumatsimikizira kuti moyo umapitilira, ndipo upitilira pambuyo pathu komanso popanda ife," adatero Fehlhaber.

Mungapeze Moyo mu Imfa

Imfa mwina ndiyo kusintha kovuta kwambiri kuvomereza. Imfa imamva komaliza ndipo imawoneka ngati yosiyana ndi moyo. Koma minda ingatiwonetsere kuti imfa siyili gawo la moyo komanso imapereka moyo. Zomera zakufa ndi zinthu zina zachilengedwe zimaphwanyidwa ndi tizilombo tating'onoting'ono ndipo zimakhala kompositi yomwe imapatsa thanzi kukula kwanyengo yotsatira.

"Chomwe chimakhala ndi minda ndikuti adamangadi pakufa ndi kuwola," adatero Fehlhaber. "Ndizomwe zimathandiza kupanga dothi lomwe limapangitsa kuti chilichonse chotizungulira chikhale chotheka. Chifukwa chake china chomwe chimawoneka ngati choperewera kwenikweni chimapereka mwayi kwa moyo wonsewu ndi chisangalalo. ”

Fehlhaber adapereka chitsanzo cha nthawi yophukira, yomwe imawoneka ngati nthawi yakufa ndi kuvunda. “Monga olima dimba tikuwona ngati kuyamba kwa nyengo yatsopano chifukwa zonse zomwe zikuchitika pano ndizomwe zingalole kuti mundawu ukwere ndikubadwanso chaka chamawa. Imfa ili paliponse m'munda, ndipo zili bwino. ”

"Ndi ntchito ya zaluso yomwe imangokhala ndikufa patsogolo panu," Rabb adawonjezera. "Pali china chake chokongola komanso chotonthoza m'menemo."

Kukambirana kwathunthu ndi Margo Rabb ndi Chris Fehlhaber ku Chanticleer Garden kulipo Pano