Chifukwa Chomwe Thandizo Labwino Lili Paziphunzitso Zambiri Kuposa Kuchiza

Anthu ambiri amafunafuna chithandizo chifukwa chakuti akhala akumva bwino kapena kukhala ndi zovuta mdera limodzi kapena angapo amoyo wawo. Ndipo pomwe anthu ena ali ndi zovuta zakuwunika (mwachitsanzo, OCD, mantha, kukhumudwa kwakukulu, ndi zina zambiri) mavuto ambiri amakasitomala ndizovuta zomwe zimadza chifukwa chazovuta zatsiku ndi tsiku ndipo sizikuyenera kupezeka kapena kutchedwa " kudwala. ” M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi chithandizo chamankhwala samakumana ndi zoperewera m'malingaliro awo ndipo safunikira kukhala ndi chizindikiritso cholozera. Chifukwa chake, chomwe chimalimbikitsa anthu ambiri kulowa kuchipatala si kukhalapo kwa "matenda," "kusokonezeka" kapena "kudwala," koma makamaka kusakhala ndi chidziwitso ndi maluso ena.

Mwanjira imeneyi, mankhwalawa amatha kuwonedwa ngati ntchito yama psychoeducational m'malo mochita zamankhwala kapena zochizira. Zowonadi, chithandizo chamwambo chimalowerera m'maganizo am'mbuyo kapena "okomoka" ndikuyesera kupereka "kuzindikira" ndikukonzanso zokumana nazo. Komabe palibe umboni wochepa wotsimikizira kuti njirazi zothandiza. Pali maumboni ambiri, komabe, kuti munthu akamaphunzira zambiri pamankhwala amamuyendera bwino (mwachitsanzo, Lazaro, 2017; Lazaro & Lazaro, atolankhani).

Kwenikweni, pali mbali zitatu zofunika kwambiri zamankhwala amisala: kuchepa kwamaluso, zambiri zabodza, komanso chidziwitso chosowa.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira, komabe, kuti monga njira zonse zamankhwala zoyandikira, njira zamaganizidwe zimakhazikika m'nthaka yolumikizana. Sizochita zamakina kapena zoyeserera koma ndi mgwirizano, wopanga mgwirizano, wogwirizana pakati pa othandizira ndi kasitomala.

Anthu sanabadwe ndi chibadwidwe chazambiri zaluso lamoyo. Ndipo ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe ali ndi mwayi wophunzitsidwa kapena kuphunzira zingapo m'mene adaleredwa. Chifukwa chake, kuchepa kwa maluso ophatikizika kumaphatikizapo maluso osiyanasiyana monga kulumikizana bwino, kukhala odalirika, kuwongolera momwe akumvera, komanso kuthana ndi kupsinjika (kungotchulapo ochepa). Chithandizo chomwe chimathandiza anthu kuphunzira ndikugwiritsa ntchito maluso awa nthawi zambiri chimakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino komanso zosatha. Kapenanso, ngakhale anthu aphunzire zochuluka bwanji za "kukomoka" kwawo, kapena kuzindikira, sangapindule kwambiri chifukwa kusintha kwamakhalidwe ndi malingaliro sikudzangobwera zokha.

Kuwongolera chidziwitso cholakwika ndichinthu china chofunikira pamankhwala opatsirana mwaubongo. Monga momwe timabadwira ndi maluso ochepa obadwa nawo, sitimabadwa ndi chidziwitso chambiri, mwina. Kuphatikiza apo, ambiri aife timakumana ndi malingaliro olakwika komanso malingaliro opanda nzeru pakuleredwa kwathu. Ngakhale ali ndi zolinga zabwino, makolo athu ambiri — komanso anthu ena okhudzidwa ndimaganizo — amadzaza mitu yathu ndi malingaliro olakwika ambiri komanso malingaliro opanda pake omwe amatipangitsa kuti tipeze mavuto ambiri. Chifukwa chake, kuthandiza makasitomala kuzindikira ndikusintha chimwemwe chawo kusokoneza malingaliro ndi zikhulupiriro ndikofunikira kuti achite bwino. Zitsanzo zapadera zakusakhala achimwemwe polimbikitsa kufalitsa nkhani zabodza ndi monga kukhulupirira zinthu monga, "osafotokoza zakukhosi kwako" “Kukhala wowona mtima nthawi zonse ndikoyenera kutsatira;” “Uyenera kuyesetsa kuti ukhale wangwiro;” “Ndikofunika kusangalatsa anthu ambiri;” ndipo “yesetsani kukondedwa ndi aliyense.”

Kusowa zambiri kumangotanthauza mipata inayake yomwe munthu ali nayo m'thumba lazidziwitso. Nthawi zambiri zimathandiza kwambiri ngati chithandizo chimapatsa anthu malingaliro ndi zowona zomwe sakudziwa. Chimodzi mwa izi ndichachidziwikire, chokhudzana ndi maluso ophunzitsira. Komabe, kupitirira pakuthandizira kupeza maluso, kupatsa makasitomala chidziwitso chofunikira chomwe alibe nthawi zambiri kumakhala kofunikira. Zitsanzo zodziwika za zomwe zikusowa zimaphatikizapo zinthu monga kudziwa kufunikira kwa ukhondo wa tulo; zonse zolimbitsa thupi komanso zolimbitsa thupi; kumwa moyenera; chakudya chamagulu; ndi zowona zakugonana.

Chifukwa chake, m'malo mochiza "zovuta" kapena matenda, chithandizo chitha kuwonedwa ngati mgwirizano, mgwirizano wogwirizira wothandizira makasitomala kukhala ndi maluso osiyanasiyana othandiza; kuwathandiza kuti asinthe zikhulupiriro zopanda nzeru komanso zodzikakamiza ndi zowona komanso zosintha; ndikuwapatsa chidziwitso chothandiza chomwe sadziwa. Mwanjira imeneyi, zotsatira zabwino zitha kupezeka mwachangu, ndipo phindu limakhala lamphamvu komanso lolimba.

Kumbukirani: Ganizani bwino, Chitani zinthu bwino, Khalani bwino, Khalani bwino!

Wokondedwa Wowerenga: Zotsatsa zomwe zili patsamba lino sizikutanthauza malingaliro anga kapena kuvomerezedwa ndi ine. —Clifford

Copyright 2019 Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D. Izi ndizongodziwitsa chabe. Sikuti cholinga chake chizikhala cholowa m'malo mwa chithandizo cha akatswiri kapena chithandizo chamankhwala amisala ndi dokotala woyenerera.

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