Kusiya Makhalidwe Osakwanira

"Ndife osowa thandizo chifukwa cha zovuta zathu mpaka titazindikira." —Ajan Sumato

Linda: Ena a ife timalowa muukwati tili ndi chiyembekezo ndipo ena a ife tikudziwa kuti timabwera ndi katundu wolemera wochokera kumabanja athu omwe adzayenera kumasulidwa. Iwo omwe amabwera ndi mantha ochulukirapo komanso bizinesi yosamalizidwa kuchokera kumabanja athu amayamba kuchita zosafunikira ndi wokondedwa wathu mpaka titazindikira kwambiri zomwe zili. Ndizofala kuchita mgwirizano ndi zinthu zomwe sizinachitike kuchokera kubanja lathu, zomwe zingatipangitse kuti tiyang'ane mnzathu kudzera m'maso opeza zolakwika, tikumachitabe zomwe tidakulakwirani muubwana.

Pakakhala zovuta zomwe sizingapeweke pamgwirizano uliwonse, njira imodzi yodziwika kwa iye ndiyo kulowa m'malo mwa wofooka wa wamkulu wamphamvu yemwe amalakwitsa zolakwitsa, kapena iye, wovulalayo wopanda mfiti woipa, wodzikonda. Njira ina yodziwika ndikudzipeza tokha kuti timasowa wocheza nawo komanso osanyalanyazidwa. Ngati sitizindikira momwe zithandizazi zingakhalire zopanda mphamvu, ubale ukhoza kuwonongeka. Tili ndi vuto kuti tipeze chitetezo chomwe chimatilola tonsefe kuti tifufuze zomwe zidapangidwa kale kuti athane nazo bwino.

Ndi ntchito yothetsa kuyankha modzidzimutsa pakudzudzula zinthu zikavuta. Koma ndi khama, timakhala ndi malingaliro abwino. Pomwe timaphunzira zamachitidwe athu akale osazindikira, komanso mavuto omwe amabweretsa, timapeza chilimbikitso chochita ntchito yamphamvu kuti tidzimasule tokha. M'malo mongodziona ngati oponderezedwa, omwe amati ndi abwino, timayang'anitsitsa ndikupeza kuti m'malo mochita zoyipa ndi omwe achitiridwa nkhanza, tili ndi mwayi wopeza anzawo omwe amapanga chiwembu limodzi.

Kumasulidwa ku machitidwe akale osadziŵa bwino kumafuna udindo waukulu. Povomereza kuti tili ndi mphamvu zotha kusintha miyoyo yathu, timadzimva kuti sitinazunzidwe. Pomwe timadzichitira zinthu zathu zokha, kutsimikizira zosowa zathu, ndikuvomereza zomwe tili nazo, timadzisamalira mwachifundo. Timakhala osadalira kwambiri ena kuti atisamalire ndipo potero timatha kusiya kudzisungira ndi mkwiyo pamene dziko lapansi silitichitira momwe ife timafunira.

Tikamayang'ana mkwiyo wathu wamkati, umachepa, m'malo mongotilamulira. Wopwetekedwa si wamkulu pakuchitapo kanthu; nthawi zambiri amachitapo kanthu. Povomereza zomwe wovutikayo wakwiya komanso kumva kupweteka, nthawi zambiri amachitapo kanthu kuti athetse vutolo.

Ngakhale pamene sitikufuna kupitiriza miyambo yakale, tikhoza kukayikira kuti ndizotheka kutaya. Ngati sitikudziwa momwe tingachitire izi, zikuwoneka kuti tidzafunika thandizo lauphungu, gulu lothandizira, mabuku, ndi makalasi kuti tidziwe bwino maluso. Chithandizo chochuluka chimapezeka ngati tili okonzeka kuchipeza.

Pali njira zambiri zomwe mabanja amaphunzitsira ana. Makolo amayesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe angathe, koma amatha kuphunzitsa ana awo kuzindikira. Pali obwera pambuyo pawo kuphatikiza pamachitidwe ndi kuphunzira. Pakhoza kukhala uchidakwa m'banjamo mibadwo yonse. Pakhoza kukhala mbiri yazimayi omwe amasunga zinsinsi za abambo pankhani zachibale kapena pachibale. Pakhoza kukhala ukali komanso kusokoneza mitundu yonse. Pakhoza kukhala kuchotsedwa kwamalingaliro komwe membala aliyense amakhala mdziko lawo lomwe, osalumikizidwa ndi ena kunyumba komwe amalakalaka kulumikizana ndi kuthandizidwa, ndikupitilira.

Kuti tithe kudutsa njira zowonongekazi pamafunika kufunitsitsa kuphwanya dongosolo labanja. Tiyenera kuswa kukhulupirika kosaoneka kubanja lathu, ndikupanga njira yatsopano yokhalira. Izi zimayamba ndikubweretsa machitidwe osagwira ntchito mpaka kuzindikira. Kudziwuza tokha zowona za kukula kwa zowawa zomwe izi zidatipangitsa pazaka zambiri zimayamba kusintha. Koma ichi ndi gawo loyamba lokha. Kenako pakubwera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kwa masauzande kubwereza kwamachitidwe ena mpaka zikhalidwe zatsopano zakhazikitsidwa.

Munthu amene wavutikira kwa zaka zambiri amapezeka pamisonkhano yokwana khumi ndi iwiri ndikumuuza nkhani yake mobwerezabwereza, kuti azisunga chowonadi, ndipo tsiku lililonse amasankha kudziletsa. Mkwiyo-wa-holic amasankhanso, tsiku ndi tsiku, kuti apitilize kupsa mtima kwake, ndikusankha njira zanzeru zolankhulirana. Pamene iwo omwe akhala akusungira ena zinsinsi, kuwateteza iwo ndi ndalama zawo, ayamba kunena zowona, njira yakuchira ikuchitika.

Tikangomasuka, ndife onyadira kuti tasiya njira zoyipa zomwe tidalandira kuchokera kubanja langa. Umboni ukayamba kubwera, tikukhulupirira kuti sitidzabwereranso ku ziwawa zamkati tikapanikizika. Timayamba kudalira kuti sitidzakwapula mwana kuti amulange pakadali pano podzilamulira, ndikudziwa njira zina zopangira bata m'nyumba. Pomaliza timaphunzira momwe tingayankhulire chowonadi, osalakwa komanso kuweruzidwa komwe kumakonda kulumikizana tikakhumudwa. Sitikusesa mavuto pansi pa kalipeti koma takhala olimba mtima mokwanira kuti tibweretse maphunziro ovuta. Timaphunzira kudzilankhulira tokha ndikumva kukhutira kwakukulu ndi zomwe zasintha kuti tikule mopitilira momwe tidakhalira kale.

Pamene tikupeza machitidwe athu akale osakwanira ndikuwathetsa, timamva kuti tili ndi mphamvu zambiri ndikukhala odalirika komanso omasuka. Tikawona umboni ukubwera wosintha kwathu, timayamba kudalira kuti anthu amasinthadi. Sitiopanso kuti tikukhala ndi zinthu zopanda nzeru zomwe tidatengera m'banja mwathu kapena m'mabanja akale.

Tikhoza kusangalala ndi lingaliro lakuti mwanjira ina, timawombola amayi ndi abambo mu mzere wa makolo athu omwe amadzimva kuti alibe mphamvu mu maubwenzi awo, ndipo amalota za tsogolo pamene ana awo ndi zidzukulu zawo azikhala otetezeka ndikusangalala m'banja. Titha kukhala ndi mtendere wamumtima kuti ana athu sadzavutikanso kwambiri ndi zovuta zakale; amatha kulimbana ndi zovuta zina. Tikukhulupirira kuti tachita ntchito yayikulu powapatsa ana athu malingaliro abwino omwe ndiabwino kuposa omwe tinachokera. Kudziwa kuti machitidwe osazindikira omwe akhala ali m'banja kwa mibadwo yonse tsopano atha kumatipatsa chisangalalo chosangalatsa kwambiri.

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