Mphatso ya Tsiku la Amayi Yanu

Zamkati

• Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa
• Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo

Nkhaniyi idalembedwa ndi Leah Millheiser, MD Millheiser ndi pulofesa wothandizira azachipatala komanso azamayi komanso director of the Female Sexual Medicine Program ku Stanford University Medical Center.

Zotsatira Zabwino Zaumoyo Wogonana

Chifukwa chake, monga mphatso kwa ife Tsiku la Amayi ili, tiyeni tikhale ndi cholinga chobwezera zogonana komanso malingaliro muubwenzi wathu kuchokera ku COVID-19. Osati chifukwa choti muyenera kapena muyenera, koma chifukwa chogonana chimatha kukhala thanzi labwino. Pali zabwino zambiri zamaganizidwe akamagonana, kuphatikiza kutsitsa nkhawa, kugona bwino, komanso kusangalala. Zilonda zam'mimba zimabweretsanso chisangalalo ndikumasulidwa munthawi yomwe njira zathu zina zopumulira ndikusangalala sizikupezeka.

Malangizo Othandiza

Nawa maupangiri othandiza kutsitsimutsa lawi lomwe latsala pang'ono kuwotchedwa:

• Landirani lingaliro la "preplay": Amayi ambiri omwe sakukumana ndi chilakolako chogonana mowirikiza momwe angafunire pakadali pano, apeza kuti kukonzekera kugonana pasadakhale kumawalola “kubwera patebulo” ali okonzeka ndi okondwa monga momwe okondedwa wawo alili. Kupanda kutero, amatha nthawi yonse kuyeserera kuti agwirizane ndi chilakolako chogonana cha wokondedwa wawo ndipo pamapeto pake akhoza kuchoka pamwambowo osakhutitsidwa. Masewera asanachitike ndi lingaliro loti mkazi amadzipangira yekha chilakolako chogonana asanayambe kucheza ndi mnzake. Izi zitha kupezeka m'njira zambiri, monga kuwonera kapena kuwerenga zolaula kapena kudzilimbitsa. Dziyang'anani pagalasi ndikukumbatira zogonana kwanu. Kukhala wathanzi ndi masewerawa kumakupatsani mphamvu ndipo kumatha kubweretsa kudzidalira kogonana. Ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe mtundu wanji wamasewera omwe amakugwirirani ntchito.
• Apatsane malo: Ambiri aife sitinazolowere kukhala pafupi ndi anzathu 24/7. Kuphatikizana kosalekeza ndi malo abwino kwambiri opatsirana wina ndi mnzake. Ngati inu ndi / kapena mnzanu munkagwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba munthawi yogwira ntchito pre-COVID, yesetsani kutsanzira kupatukana kumeneku pa SIP, momwe mungathere. Ino ndi nthawi yabwino yolemba mameseji ndi mnzanu ndikupanga chiyembekezo tsiku lonse.

• Inde, mutha kukhalabe ndi tsiku usiku: Zitha kuwoneka zosiyana koma lingaliro ndilofanana. Ana anu amathanso kutenga nawo gawo pakukonzekera. Apatseni zovuta kuti apange tsiku lamasana kwa inu ndi mnzanuyo ndikumvetsetsa kuti patsiku lenileni, akuyenera kudzisangalatsa mwakachetechete kudera lina (mungafune kukhotetsa nthawi yophimba pazenera pano!). Malingaliro ena ovuta usiku angakhale kuti ana amakupangitsani ma popcorn mukamawonera kanema, ana okalamba amawonera ana aang'ono (ngati zaka zili zoyenera) pamene inu ndi mnzanu mukupita kokayenda (kumbukirani kugwirana manja), kapena muuzeni ana anu kuti apange zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi "chakudya chamadzulo" kwa inu. Akangopanga zochitikazo, atumizeni kuti apite kwakanthawi kuti akalumikizanenso ndi mnzanu. Pali lamulo limodzi lokhudza tsiku lausiku, yesetsani kuti musalankhule za ana nthawi yonseyi (kapena ayi). Kumbukirani za masiku akale, zomwe zinakusonkhanitsani pamodzi, maulendo omwe mukufuna kutenga SIP ndikakumbukira kutali, zomwe zili zapadera za wina ndi mnzake, kapena zosangalatsa zomwe mukufuna kuphunzira limodzi.
• Khalani thukuta ndi tulo togona pa nthawi yayitali: Ngakhale zili bwino kwambiri, sizikutanthauza kuti "ndili ndi nkhawa." Tonse tamva mawu akuti, "uzipusitse kufikira utazichita." Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuyesa mayeso akale aja. Valani chovala chomwe chimakupangitsani kukhala wokongola kapena wokongola. Funsani mnzanu kuti achite chimodzimodzi. Kusangalala ndi mawonekedwe anu ndikuwonetsa mnzanu kuti mumakondanabe ndi moyo wanu wogonana kumatha kubweretsa mayankho ena abwino omwe mwina adatayika panthawi yotseka.
• Onetsetsani zachinsinsi: Ndi ana kapena abale ena omwe amakhala pakhomo pano pakadali pano, kupeza chinsinsi cha kugonana kungakhale kovuta. Ndizowona kuti ana amakonda kulowa mchipinda cha makolo awo mosadziwika. Ndicho chifukwa chake maloko anapangidwa. Ngati mantha a coitus interruptus akukulepheretsani kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mnzanuyo, ikani loko pakhomo panu kapena kumbukirani kugwiritsa ntchito yomwe ilipo kale. Zitha kuthandizanso kukhazikitsa alarm yanu kwa ola limodzi ana asanadzuke kapena kudikirira mpaka atagona tulo usiku kuti akhale ogonana.

• Chepetsani kumwa mowa: Kumwa pang'ono mowa kumatha kuthandiza mkazi, chifukwa kumachepetsa kupsinjika kapena kudziletsa. Komabe, kuchuluka kofunikira kwambiri kumatha kukhala ndi zotsutsana ndi libido pochita ngati CNS yokhumudwitsa.
• Kumbukirani, cholinga ndikubwenzi: Sikuti zochitika zonse zogonana zimayenera kuchita zogonana, makamaka pambuyo pogwira ntchito tsiku lonse, maphunziro apanyumba, kapena zonse ziwiri. Khalani ndi nthawi yodziwikiranso kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali ndi kutikita minofu pogwiritsa ntchito makandulo, kugwirana manja kapena kukumbatirana pakama pomvera nyimbo zomwe mumakonda, kupsompsonana monga mudachitira mukakumana koyamba, kapena kusamba kapena kusamba limodzi. Kodi muli ndi TV ndi mafoni anu m'chipinda chogona usiku? Awatulutseni kapena muwazimitse. Mabanja akulengeza zakugonana koyambirira ndikugona ku Netflix masiku ano. M'malo moyika nthawi yophimba, sankhani kudziwonetsa nokha ndi mnzanu 4As: Chikondi, Chisamaliro, Kuyamika, Kulandila. Munthawi yamavuto, ndikosavuta kunyalanyaza tokha ndi anzathu.

Kugonana Kofunika Kuwerengedwa

Chisoni Cha Kugonana Sichisintha Mchitidwe Wogonana Wamtsogolo