Akuluakulu Achikulire Aulula Zomwe Zimabweretsa Kugonana Kwakukulu

Anthu aku US akukalamba mwachangu. Okalamba amakhala ndi chiwonetsero chowonjezeka cha okonda. Pamene maanja azaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi, makumi asanu ndi awiri, kupitilira apo ali ndi zibwenzi ndipo amatha kupanga chibwenzi, ambiri amakhala ndi zibwenzi zogonana nthawi zonse. Kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti poyerekeza ndi akulu omwe amaphatikizana omwe amapewa kupanga zibwenzi, iwo omwe amakhala ndi moyo wogonana amakhala osangalala ndi maubale, thanzi lamthupi ndi malingaliro, chiyembekezo chabwino, moyo wabwino, komanso amakhala ndi moyo wautali.

Koma atakula, kugonana kumasintha. Okalamba ambiri samva kufunika kogonana komanso mphamvu, makamaka omwe ali ndi matenda osachiritsika (zopweteka, zopweteka, matenda ashuga, matenda amtima, ndi zina zambiri). Amuna achikulire nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi vuto losagwira ntchito. Amayi achikulire ambiri amakhala ndi vuto louma ukazi ndi kupatuka kwa minofu (atrophy) yomwe imatha kupangitsa kugonana kukhala kosasangalatsa ngakhale ndi mafuta. Ndipo makandulo akamadzaza keke, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti achikulire ambiri azichita nawo ziwonetserozi.

Kutsika Kukulira Pafupipafupi Kuposa Kukhutitsidwa

Koma ngakhale pafupipafupi zogonana zimatsika m'moyo wamtsogolo, kukhutira kumachepa pang'ono. M'malo mwake, akulu ena amati amasangalala kwambiri ndi kupanga kwawo chikondi kuposa kale. Kodi achikulire amapitiliza bwanji kugonana moyenera? Ofufuza ku Sonoma State University ku California adayitanitsa akulu akulu opitilira 50 kuti amalize kafukufuku wofunsidwa masiku 10 patsamba la NBC News. Anthu opitilira 9,000 adatenga nawo gawo.

Pakuwunika kwawo, ofufuzawo adagawa mayankho m'magulu anayi:

• Pafupipafupi, kukhutira pang'ono (kutsika-kutsika, omwe adayankha 3,985).
• Mafupipafupi, kukhutira kwambiri (kutsika-pansi, 1,065).
• Kuthamanga kwapamwamba, kukhutira pang'ono (kutsika-kutsika, 951).
• Kuthamanga kwapamwamba, kukhutira kwakukulu (kukwera kwambiri, 3,163,).

Ofufuzawo adayang'ana kwambiri magulu awiri: otsika-otsika komanso okwera kwambiri, ndikuwasefa omwe anali otsika chifukwa chazovuta zomwe zimasokoneza kupanga chikondi. Gulu lotsika kwambiri linali amuna ambiri - 48 peresenti ya amuna omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu, ndipo 38 peresenti ya azimayi. Gulu lapamwamba kwambiri linali akazi ambiri - 38 peresenti ya akazi, ndi 33 peresenti ya amuna.

Zinthu Zogonana Zomwe Zachepetsa Kuchuluka Kwawo Ndi Kukhutira

Kuthamanga kochepa komanso kukhutira kochepa kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi:

1. Zofuna zosiyana. Wina akafuna kugonana kwambiri kuposa mnzake, kupanga chikondi kumavutika.
2. Kutopa. Patapita kanthawi, chinthu chakale chomwecho nthawi zonse chimasiya kusangalala.
3. Kukhala chete. Okonda omwe samakambirana zosintha zawo ndi zosowa zawo kapena omwe amasiya kuyang'anitsitsa pazaka izi atakwanitsa zaka zina samatha kulumikizana.
4. Kutaya zida zodzithandizira. Mnzake wina akapereka zinthu zakugonana ndipo wina wazikana, woperekayo amakwiya ndipo winayo amadzitchinjiriza. Ngati zomwezo zimachitika mobwerezabwereza, onse awiri amakwiya.
5. Palibe chokhazikika. Palibe makandulo, nyimbo, kuseka, kapena kunong'onezana musanachitike komanso mukamagonana.
6. Kuthamangira kugonana. Kupsompsonana pang'ono kapena ayi, kukumbatirana, kutikita thupi lonse, kutikita dzanja, maliseche, kapena zoseweretsa.
7. Kusiyana kwakanthawi. Mabanja otsika nthawi zambiri samatsutsana pazotenga nthawi yayitali bwanji, ndikulimbikira kwawo kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu komwe kumadzetsa mkwiyo mwa winayo.
8. Kutalikirana kwakumtima komanso kusamvana ubale. Izi zimapha chikhumbo ndikusokoneza magwiridwe antchito.
9. Mbiri yomvetsa chisoni. Akuluakulu otsika amakhala ndi mbiri yayitali yakusakhutira ndi anzawo.
10. Nthano. Mnzake wina akati, "Ine / ndife okalamba kwambiri kuti tigonane," winayo akumva kuti watalikirana.

Zinthu Zogonana Zomwe Zimakulitsa Kuchuluka ndi Kukhutira

Kuthamanga kwapamwamba komanso kukhutira kwakukulu kudalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi:

1. Kusagwirizana. Mabanja okwera kwambiri adatha kukambirana za mayendedwe azakugonana onse atha kukhala mosavutikira.
2. Zachilendo. Chilichonse chatsopano komanso chosiyana chimalimbikitsa kutulutsidwa kwa dopamine, neurotransmitter ya kutentha kwakugonana. Maanja okwera kwambiri adakondana m'njira zatsopano m'malo atsopano, komanso munthawi zosiyanasiyana. Iwo anali otseguka ku njira zodzithandizira, ndipo adayamika wina ndi mzake powapatsa.
3. Zokambirana. Kodi ubwenzi weniweni ndi uti? Kudzidziwitsa nokha pogwiritsa ntchito mawu. Kukhala chete kumawononga kukondana komanso kumangokhalira kulumikizana. Mabanja apamwamba kwambiri anali ofunitsitsa kukambirana za zilakolako zawo zogonana, zosowa zawo, ndi zosintha zawo. Adayamikiranso wina ndi mnzake pakupanga zachikondi, ndikupempha kuti ayankhe. Ambiri adayimbira foni kapena kutumizirana mameseji asanafike nthawi yogonana kuti anene kuti akuyembekeza kukondana.
4. Kukhazikika kwachangu. Mabanja apamwamba kwambiri anali okonda makandulo, maziko, nyimbo, kuseka, ndikunena, "Ndimakukondani."
5. Makanema achikondi ambiri. Mawu wamba ndi "foreplay," koma izi zikutanthauza zinthu zomwe zimachitika asanayambe kugonana. Okonda okalamba ambiri amawona kuti kugonana ndi kovuta kapena kosatheka chifukwa cha zovuta za abambo, komanso kuuma kwa amayi kumankhwala ndi atrophy. Okonda okalamba kwambiri nthawi zambiri amakhala ocheperako kapena kuthana ndi kugonana ndipo amayang'ana kwambiri kupsompsonana, kukumbatirana, kutikita thupi lonse, kugwira ntchito zamanja, kulumikizana, kugwiranagwirana pakamwa, zoseweretsa, mwinanso kusewera ndi anal kapena kink (zokutira kumaso, kukwapula).
6. Owonjezerae owonjezera. Ndikukula, zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti musangalale mpaka kusewera maliseche. Mabanja okwera kwambiri amasangalala ndi makondedwe ambiri osakhala maliseche asanafike pakati pa miyendo ya wina ndi mnzake.
7. Kugulitsa mtima. Mabanja apamwamba kwambiri nthawi zonse amagwira ntchito pamaubwenzi awo ndipo amalandila zokambiranazo.
8. Mbiri yosangalatsa. Mabanja omwe anali okwera kwambiri ali achichepere nthawi zambiri amawasamalira akamakalamba.
9. Kudzipereka kukhalabe ogonana. M'mabanja okwera kwambiri, okwatirana onse amakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndikofunikira paubwenzowu, ndipo sanachoke popanga chikondi chifukwa cha msinkhu kapena zifukwa zina.

Osati Okhaokha kwa Okalamba

Phunziroli limayang'ana kwambiri maanja opitilira 50, zomwe zimathandizira kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana kapena kusowa kwawo sizimayenderana ndi zaka. Zifukwa zochepera komanso zapamwamba komanso kukhutira zimakhudza okonda mibadwo yonse.

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