Njira Yosavuta Yochepetsera Kutaya Kwa Mnzanu

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• Kupsinjika Kofunika Kuwerenga
• Kugwiritsa Ntchito Mphamvu Zakuyerekeza

Mosasamala kanthu zaubwino kapena moyo wautali, anthu ambiri omwe adakhalapo pachibwenzi nthawi ina adaganizapo zomwe zingayambitse kusakhulupirika. Ali ndi zifukwa zomveka zokhalira kupewa zinthu ngati izi kuti achepetse chiopsezo chosokoneza ubale wawo.

Ngakhale sizinthu zonse zomwe zimayenderana pachiwopsezo zimawonekeratu kapena zimatheka pazochitika zilizonse, malinga ndi kafukufuku, pali imodzi yomwe ilipo. Zosavuta komanso zowongoka, apa ndi m'mawu: kupsinjika.

Kupsinjika Kumayambitsa Kulephera

Aliyense nthawi imodzi amakhudzidwa ndikumva kupsinjika. Kaya ndinu panokha kapena mwaukadaulo, nthawi zina mumakhudzidwa ndi zomwe simungathe kuzisintha. Anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa nthawi zambiri amachita zoipa - ngakhale ndi anzawo. Chifukwa chiyani? Malinga ndi kafukufuku, kupsinjika mtima kumatha kubweretsa malingaliro olakwika paubwenzi wapano wa munthu, zomwe zitha kukulitsa kukopa kwa njira zina zachibale.

Kafukufuku wolemba Lewindowski et al. mu kafukufuku wotchedwa "Under pressure" (2014) adaphunzira momwe zimakhudzira kupsinjika kwakukulu pamikhalidwe yamaubwenzi. Adapeza kuti kupsinjika kumawonjezera mwayi woti abwenziwo azisamalira njira zina zakubwenzi. ¹ Adapeza kuti omwe akutenga nawo gawo pamavuto amapereka zowalimbikitsa zochepa kwa okondedwa wawo wapano, ndipo amatchera khutu kuzinthu zina zabwino.

Olembawo akuti izi zikuwonetsa kuti kupsinjika kwakukulu kumachepetsa mayendedwe abwenzi abwino ndikuwonjezera zomwe zingawononge ubalewo. Olembawo akuwonetsa zifukwa zingapo pazotsatira zomwe adapeza.

Kupsinjika Kumasintha Magalasi Ozikongoletsa Kukhala Magalasi Owerenga

Maubwenzi atsopano nthawi zambiri amaphatikizapo kunyalanyaza mosangalala kapena kunyalanyaza zolakwika za wokondedwa wanu kapena zizolowezi zokhumudwitsa. Zowonedwa kudzera mu mandala amtundu wa duwa, malingaliro olakwika ndi machitidwe samawoneka ngati chifukwa chodandaulira. Inde, ngakhale mbendera zofiira nthawi zambiri zimawonedwa mwachikondi ndi kutengeka.

Ndi mabanja ena, komabe, idzafika nthawi pamene pachimake pachotsedwa maluwa. Anthu akayamba kuwona anzawo omwe ali nawo pachimake, akhoza kudzudzula m'malo motonthoza. Izi zitha kuwapangitsa kupatsa okondedwa awo mayamiko ochepa komanso madandaulo ambiri, zomwe zitha kusokoneza chibwenzicho. Njira imodzi yomwe kusinthaku kumachitika ndi kupsinjika.

Kupsinjika Kumapanga Maganizo Olakwika

Lewindowski et al. zindikirani kuti muubwenzi, zitsimikiziro (zoyamika) zimathandizira kukonzanso ubale. Zotsatira zawo, zolumikiza kupsinjika kwakukulu ndi zitsimikiziro, zikuwonetsa kuti kupsinjika mtima kumatha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi machitidwe abwino muubwenzi. Amanena chifukwa chimodzi ndichakuti kupsinjika kumatha kupangitsa anthu kuwunika ubale wawo molakwika, zomwe zingasokoneze kuthekera kokhala ndi malingaliro abwino okhudzana ndi wokondedwa wawo.

Kodi ichi chimagwira ntchito bwanji? Amalongosola kuti kupsinjika mtima kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa, zomwe zingasokoneze kuthekera kokumbukira zabwino za wokondedwa wawo - zomwe titha kuganiza kuti zitha kuchepetsa chikhumbo chopereka ndemanga zabwino.

Olembawo ananenanso kuti pamene anthu akukumana ndi mavuto aakulu, ngakhale atakhala ndi chidwi chonena zinthu zabwino, alibe kuthekera. Mwachiwonekere, anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa amakhala ndi zovuta kupewa mayankho osafunikira.

Amazindikira kuti, mu kafukufuku wawo, yankho la "zofunika" lingakhale kunena zabwino za mnzake. Atapanikizika, komabe, amadziwa kuti kungakhale kovuta kubwera ndi zitsimikiziro ngati zosafunikira, monga kuganizira zikhalidwe zoyipa za anzawo, zibwera m'maganizo.

Kupanikizika Amatha Kutha Kulingalira Zotsatira

Pankhani yakusokera, kupsinjika kumalepheretsanso kuthana ndi mavuto. Ambiri mwa omwe ali pachibwenzi chodzipereka nthawi ina adzapatsidwa mwayi wosankha kukondana, mwina omwe akadaganizira akadakhala osakwatirana. Pakadali pano, chisankho chokhudza kuchita kapena ayi, ngakhale mutangokambirana, kumakhudzanso zoopsa ndi mphotho.

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