Kupulumutsidwa kapena Wokonzeka?

Kulera ana olimba mtima ndi ukali wonse, zomwe zimapatsidwa mwayi wolumikizana ndi thanzi lam'mutu.

M'buku lawo Kukula Mopirira , olemba a Tatyana Barankin ndi a Nazilla Khanlou alangiza kuti, "Anthu omwe amapirira mavuto amatha kuthana ndi zovuta, kapena kuthana ndi zovuta komanso zovuta pamoyo wawo. Amaphunzira kuchokera pakukwanitsa kuchita bwino munthawi imodzi, kuwapangitsa kuti athe kuthana ndi zovuta ndi zovuta mtsogolo ”(Barankin ndi Khanlou, 2007).

Kumbali yake, Bonnie Benard, M.S.W. , akuti, "Tonsefe timabadwa ndi chizolowezi chobadwa nacho, tili ndi kuthekera kokulitsa mikhalidwe yomwe imapezeka mwa omwe amapulumuka: luso la chikhalidwe cha anthu (kuyankha, kusinthasintha chikhalidwe, kumvera ena chisoni, kusamalira maluso oyankhulana, komanso kuseka); kuthetsa mavuto (kukonzekera, kufunafuna chithandizo, kulingalira mozama ndi kulenga); kudziyimira pawokha (kudzidziwitsa, kuchita bwino, kudzidziwitsa wekha, kuchita bwino ntchito, komanso kusinthasintha mauthenga olakwika ndi mikhalidwe); komanso kukhala ndi cholinga komanso kukhulupirira za tsogolo lowala (kuwongolera zolinga, zolinga zamaphunziro, chiyembekezo, chikhulupiriro, komanso kulumikizana mwauzimu) ”(Benard, 2021).

Nkhani zina zabwino zitha kupezeka posachedwa Wall Street Journal nkhani, "Ngakhale Covid-19 Outbreak Risks, Camps Summer Ikudzaza Mwamsanga," zomwe zikutsimikizira kuyesayesa koyenda bwino kwa misasa yotentha yomwe idatsegulidwa mosamala mu 2020 kapena ikujambula mapulani a 2021.

Chifukwa chake, pali kulumikizana kotani pakati pa msasa ndi kupirira? Mwa iye Magazini Yamsasa nkhani, "Makampu Amathandiza Kuti Ana Akhale Olimba Mtima," Michael Ungar, Ph.D., akuti, "Pankhani yokhazikika, samangitsani zachilengedwe. Makampu, monga sukulu zabwino komanso mabanja achikondi, amateteza ana kuthana ndi mavuto powapatsa zovuta zomwe angathe kuzipirira komanso zothandizira kuti aphunzire kuthana ndi mavuto awo komanso m'njira zosinthira ... ”(Ungar, 2012).

Ungar akupitiliza kufotokoza zochitika zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe ana amafunikira.

1. Ubale watsopano, osati ndi anzawo okha, koma ndi achikulire odalirika omwe si makolo a ana.
2. Kudziwika kwamphamvu zomwe zimapangitsa ana kukhala olimba mtima pamaso pa ena, zimapatsa ana china chowonadi choti angakonde za iwo eni
3. Makampu amathandiza ana akumva kulamulira miyoyo yawo.
4. Makampu amaonetsetsa kuti ana onse ali amachitiridwa chilungamo.
5. Pamsasa, ana amapeza zomwe amafunikira kuti akule mwakuthupi.
6. Mwina koposa zonse, makampu amapatsa ana mwayi kumva kuti ndi awo.
7. Makampu amatha kupereka ana kuzindikira chikhalidwe chawo.

Phindu la kuphunzira - ndikuchita - kupirira pamsasa wachilimwe kudalowetsedwa m'mawu omwe Cameron Grey wazaka 16 adalankhula kwa omanga misasa achichepere ngati mtsogoleri wachinyamata ku Camp Hazen ku Connecticut. Adagawana nane pa Zoom.

Ndikufuna nonse kuti muganizire za zomwe mumachita bwino, mwina masewera kapena luso lomwe mudaphunzira kumsasa. Tsopano, ndikufuna kuti mulingalire momwe mungakhalire aluso pantchito yomweyi ngati simunalepherepo poyesera. Mwinamwake wokongola kwambiri, chabwino?

Kulephera ndi chiyani? Anthu amatanthauzira kuti sichinachite bwino kapena sichikwanira. Komabe, ndikuwona kulephera kukhala kopambana. Chimodzi mwamawu omwe ndimawakonda ndi "kulephera kupita patsogolo." Izi zikutanthauza kuti kuti mupite patsogolo, muyenera kukhala ndi zovuta zina.

Ndikufuna kukufotokozerani nonse tsopano kuti kulephera kuli bwino ndipo ndikofunikira kuti mupite patsogolo m'moyo. Tonse tidali achichepere, ambiri mwina si makolo athu onse omwe ankatichenjeza kuti tisakhudze mbaula ikakhala. Kodi munachita chiyani kenako? Mwinamwake mudakhudza koma, tangoganizani, tsopano mukudziwa kuti musadzakumanenso ndi mbaula yotentha.

Ndiloleni ndikutengereni kubwerera chaka chatsopano. Ndinali nditakhala m'kalasi yadziko lonse kudikirira mayeso anga. Ndikuganiza kuti ndidachita zodabwitsa, ndidafunsa aphunzitsi anga kuti ndi chiani chomwe chidali chovuta kwambiri. Adati 57%. Ndidadzifunsa ndekha kuti, "Ndi chitsiru chiti chomwe chapeza 57%?" Ndili ndi 57%. Ndinali wopusa uja. Kunena zowona, izi zidandipangitsa kukhala wophunzira bwino kwambiri. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha cha kubwerera m'mbuyo pang'ono komwe kwandichititsa kuti ndichite bwino.

Tsopano kwa inu, mwina ndikutuluka ku Gaga kapena kuchoka pa Alpine Tower mukangotsala pang'ono kukwera. Ziribe kanthu mtundu wa zolephera, zivute zitani, phunzirani pa zomwe zalakwika, ndipo pamapeto pake, mudzazindikira zolinga zanu.

Mfundo yanga ndi zitsanzo zonsezi ndikuwonetsetsa kuti nonse mukudziwa kuti kulephera kupita patsogolo ndikofunikira pakukula kwanu.

Ndikukuuzani nkhani ina. Pafupifupi miyezi iwiri yapitayo, ndinali kusewera masewera achitatu a baseball. Omenyerawo adagunda mpira wolimba kwa ine, zidatengera hop yoyipa pamenepo, BOOM. Ndikuyang'ana kumwamba ndi magazi pankhope panga ndi mmanja. Izi sizinali zolephera koma zambiri zophunzirira zomwe zidandiphunzitsa kuti nthawi zonse ndikweze dzanja langa lamanja ndikamasewera mpira.

Komabe, kuphunzira sikuti nthawi zonse kumangofunika kumenyedwa pamaso ndi baseball. Zitha kukhala zazing'ono ngati kunena chinthu cholakwika panthawi yolakwika ndikukhala ndi zomwe munanenazo kuwononga ubale womwe mudali nawo ndi munthuyo.

Newsflash, kulephera kupita patsogolo ndiye njira yopitira. Ziribe kanthu zomwe zimachitika kapena kalasi iti yomwe mupeze kapena zopinga zilizonse zomwe mungakhale nazo, nthawi zonse dziwani kuti atsogoleri amakhala atsogoleri abwino pakulephera komanso zolakwitsa.

Tsopano kwa inu, ndili ndi vuto, ndikufuna kuti aliyense wa inu aphunzire kuchokera pazolakwitsa sabata yamawa ndikukumbukira kulephera kutsogolo.

Inde, ana amaphunziranso kukhala odekha kunyumba. Lizzy Francis, m'nkhani yake "Ana Otsitsimuka Amachokera Kwa Makolo Omwe Amachita Zinthu 8 Izi," akuti, "Ukakhala mwana, chilichonse chimakhala chovuta. Kodi tchizi wanu wokutidwa ali ndi kutumphuka? Zowopsa. Simungathe kuphatikiza Lego? Tikhoza kupondaponda pansi. Simungasinthe izi. Zomwe mungachite, komabe, ndikulimbikitsani mwana wanu ndi njira zomwe zimawaphunzitsa momwe angabwerere ku zovuta zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku kuti, mtsogolo m'moyo, mitengo ikakwera, adziwe choti achite "(Francis, 2018) . Malinga ndi a Francis, makolo a ana opirira amachita zinthu zisanu ndi zitatu zotsatirazi. Iwo:

1. Lolani ana azilimbana
2. Lolani ana awo azimva kukanidwa
3. Osaloleza malingaliro a wozunzidwa
4. Osangowauza kuti "azikonzekera" pakakhala zovuta
5. Thandizani ana awo kudziwa momwe angatchulire zakukhosi kwawo ndi momwe akumvera
6. Apatseni ana awo zida zodzithandizira
7. Vomerezani zolakwa zawo. Ndiyeno amawakonza
8. Nthawi zonse lolumikizani kudzidalira kwa mwana wawo pamlingo wawo wolimbikira

Mwina sizosadabwitsa kuti, m'nthawi ino ya mliri, kupirira kwatenga vuto. Zambiri zatsopano kuchokera ku Center for Adolescent Research and Education (CARE) ndi Total Brain zikuwonetsa kuti ophunzira aku sekondale komanso ku koleji amalemba bwino kwambiri pansi pa 50th percentile pakudziletsa komanso makamaka kupirira.

Izi zimapangitsa maudindo m'misasa yotentha komanso makolo kukhala ovuta kwambiri ... komanso mwachangu.

Pamodzi, sitiyenera kupulumutsa ana athu koma m'malo mwake tiwathandize kuwakonzekeretsa dziko lomwe likubwera, ndi zovuta zake zonse komanso zosakhazikika.

(Adasankhidwa) Benard B. (2021). Maziko okhazikika. Kukhazikika Pakuchita. https://www.resiliency.com/free-articles-resource/the-foundations-of-the-resiliency-framework/ (18 Jan. 2021).

[Adasankhidwa] Benard B. (1991). Kulimbikitsa Kukhazikika kwa Ana: Zinthu Zodzitetezera M'banja, Sukulu, ndi Gulu. Portland, OR: Western Center ya Sukulu Zopanda Mankhwala Osokoneza bongo ndi Madera.

Francis, L. (2018). Ana opirira amachokera kwa makolo omwe amachita izi 8 zinthu. Monga bambo. Novembala 26, 2018. https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/build-resilient-kids-prepared-for-life/ (18 Jan. 2021).

(Adasankhidwa) Keates N. (2021). Ngakhale zowopsa za Covid-19, misasa yachilimwe imadzaza mwachangu. Wall Street Journal. Januwale 12, 2021.

Ogwira Ntchito Pachipatala cha Mayo. (2020). Kukhazikika: pangani maluso kuti mupirire zovuta. Ogasiti 27, 2020. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/resilience-training/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311 (18 Jan. 2021).

Pezani nkhaniyi pa intaneti Ungar, M. (2012). Makampu amathandiza kuti ana athe kupirira. Magazini Yamsasa. Seputembala / Okutobala 2012. https://www.acacamps.org/resource-library/camping-magazine/camps-help-make-children-resilient (18 Jan. 2021).