Chithandizo Cha Kulemba

Chithandizo Cha Kulemba ndi mutu wa buku lolembedwa ndi asayansi omwe amaphunzira mphamvu zochiritsira pakulemba momveka bwino - mtundu wa zolemba zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito payekha, komwe mumalongosola zomwe mwakumana nazo ndikuwonetsa momwe mukumvera.

Pazinthu zonse zamaganizidwe, kusunga zolemba ndi chimodzi mwazomwe ndimakonda. Osangokhala chifukwa choti ndimakonda kulemba, komanso chifukwa zazing'ono momwe zingamvekere (khalani pansi ndikulemba za tsiku lanu), zimaphatikizira zinthu zingapo zamankhwala zamphamvu kwambiri. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe izi ndi.

Chifukwa tiyenera kuyika zinthu m'mawu, kulemba kumalimbikitsa kuzindikira bwino momwe tikumvera. Tikasaka mawu oyenera kuti tifotokoze zomwe zili m'maganizo mwathu, timakakamizidwa kuti tifufuze za zomwe takumana nazo ndipo ngati tizichita izi tsiku ndi tsiku, titha kuyamba kuwona momwe timayankhira ndi malingaliro athu. Izi ndizothandiza kwambiri chifukwa zimatipatsa kumvetsetsa kwathu, chomwe ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira pakukhala bwino ndikukula kwamunthu.

Tikamalemba zakukhosi kwathu, potero timaziwonetsa ndipo izi zokha zimatha kuthandizira. Maganizo osafotokozedwa kapena kuponderezedwa ndi owopsa. Kupondereza kutengeka kumapangitsa kuti munthu akhale bwino atakumana ndi zoopsa ndipo zimasokoneza thanzi lathu (Gross & Levenson, 1997). Komabe, zina mwa zomwe timayenda nazo zimatha kukhala zachinsinsi kotero kuti sitingathe kugawana ndi aliyense. Kulemba m'nyuzipepala yachinsinsi kumatha kukhala malo ogulitsira.

Tikalemba za zomwe takumana nazo ndi momwe timachitira, zimatipatsanso mwayi woti tilingalire mozama pazomwe zidachitika ndikuwona zochitikazo mosiyana, osati momwe tidaziwonera poyamba. Zinthu sizimayamba kukhala zakuda ndi zoyera ndipo, zikangofika pamaso pathu, titha kufunsa zina mwaziyankhulidwe zoyipa zokhazokha ("Mwina, ili silinali vuto langa pambuyo pake. Mwina, silinali vuto la wina aliyense") .

Ndiye palinso zaluso komanso chisangalalo ndimafotokozedwe anu ojambula. Kukhutira komwe kumadza chifukwa chokhoza kutenga china chake chosasunthika komanso chosakhalitsa monga momwe akumvera, nkuchisintha kukhala mawu, ndikuchikonza mundime, ndikuchiyika pamalemba. Sizimachitika nthawi iliyonse yomwe mulemba, koma zikatero, zimakhala ngati kugwira gulugufe ndi manja anu. (Ndipo ngati muli ndi luso lokwanira, gulugufeyo adzakhalabe ndi moyo.)

Mukakhala nokha patsamba lanu, mutha kuchita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna - palibe amene akuwerenga pokhapokha mutasankha. Mutha kunena chilichonse chomwe mungafune momwe mungafunire. Mumapeza njira zatsopano zolankhulirana zomwe simunayesepo kale. Mumapeza mawu ena. Choyamba, zitha kumveka zachilendo komanso zosazolowereka, ngati kuti mukumva nokha pa tepi. Komano liwu ili limakhala lamphamvu komanso lodzidalira mpaka mudzazindikira kuti zomwe mukumvazo ndiye mawu anu enieni.

Mukamabwerera kukawerenganso zomwe mudalemba kanthawi kapitako, zimakuthandizani kuti muwone momwe moyo wanu ulili wolemera. Mutha kuzindikira kuti pali mitundu yambiri yazosiyanasiyana m'moyo wanu kuposa momwe mumaganizira. Mutha kuwona kuti mukuyenda, palibe chomwe chikuyima. Mutha kuphunzira za msewu womwe mukuyenda komanso kuthamanga komwe mukuyenda. Mwinamwake wanu ndi msewu wopapatiza komanso wokhotakhota wamapiri. Mwina ndi msewu wowongoka. Kulemba za izi kuli ngati kutuluka mgalimoto kuti mupume mpweya wabwino, kutambasula, ndi kubudula maluwa amphepo omwe amakula m'mbali mwa msewu.

Mutha kudabwa, "Ndilembere za chiyani?" Dziwani kuti, mukangokhala pansi ndikuyamba kulemba chilichonse chomwe chikubwera m'mutu mwanu, nkhaniyo imayamba.

Pezani nkhaniyi pa intaneti Lepore, S. J., & Smyth, J. M. (2002). Chithandizo Cha Kulemba: Momwe Kulemba Kwazolimbikitsa Kumathandizira Kukhala Ndi Moyo Wathanzi Komanso Wam'mtima. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.