Zomwe Aliyense Ayenera Kuzindikira Pokhudza Kukakamizidwa Kugonana

Zamkati

• Kukakamizidwa kugonana ndi chiyani?
• Zotsatira zakukakamizidwa kugonana
• Kodi kukakamizidwa kugonana ndi mlandu?
• Kodi tingapewe bwanji kukakamizidwa kugonana?

Mfundo Zofunika:

• Kukakamizidwa kumatanthauza kuchita zosayenera zomwe zimachitika munthu akakakamizidwa m'njira zosakhala zathupi.
• Amayi okakamizidwa kugonana amakhala ndi nkhawa pambuyo povutitsa, kudziimba mlandu, kukhumudwa, komanso malingaliro ena olakwika.
• Kukakamizidwa koteroko kumawonekera nthawi zambiri pamaubwenzi ankhanza.
• Kuvomereza zogonana ukakamizidwa ndi nkhanza, koma sikuwoneka ngati mlandu.

Chiyambireni kayendedwe ka #meToo, mawu oti kukakamizidwa kugonana kwatchulidwanso kwambiri munyuzipepala kutanthauza zachiwerewere zosafunikira. Komabe, kwa ambiri, dzinali silikudziwika bwinobwino.

Kukakamizidwa kugonana ndi chiyani?

Kuumirizidwa kumatanthauza kuchita chilichonse chosafunikira chomwe chimachitika munthu akakakamizidwa m'njira zosakhala zathupi. Akuyerekeza kuti m'modzi mwa akazi atatu ndi m'modzi mwa amuna khumi adakakamizidwa kugwiriridwa, ngakhale milanduyi itha kukhala yayikulu kwambiri popeza kukakamizidwa pakumvetsetsa sikumvetsetseka.Kukakamizidwa kugonana kumatha kuchitika mukamacheza ndi okwatirana ndipo nthawi zambiri kumachitika ndi munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi.

Kuumiriza kugonana kungaphatikizepo kukakamizidwa pakamwa kapena kupusitsa ndipo kungaphatikizepo:

• Kubwereza mobwerezabwereza kapena kumverera moyipa kuti mugonane.
• Kugwiritsa ntchito liwongo kapena manyazi kukakamiza wina—ukadachichita ukadandikonda.
• Kuopseza kutha kwa chibwenzi kapena kusakhulupirika ngati wina sachita chiwerewere.
• Mitundu ina yachinyengo.
• Zopseza ana anu, nyumba, kapena ntchito.
• Zopseza zonama kapena kufalitsa mphekesera za inu.

Komabe, sikuti kukakamizidwa konse kwamawu kumawoneka koyipa. Amayi ena amanena kuti amuna kapena akazi awo amagwiritsa ntchito mawu okhazikika monga mayamikiro, malonjezo, ndi zokambirana zokakamiza kugonana. Ngakhale kuyankhula mokoma kapena kukakamiza wokondedwa wanu kuti agonane angamve ngati gawo lachizolowezi cha chibwenzi, nthawi iliyonse yomwe munthu amachita zogonana chifukwa chokakamizidwa kapena kukakamizidwa, ndichokakamiza kugonana.

Zotsatira zakukakamizidwa kugonana

Kafukufuku apeza kuti azimayi omwe amakakamizidwa kukakamizidwa kugona nawo amakhala ndi nkhawa pambuyo povutitsa, kudziimba mlandu ndikudzudzula, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, ndikuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana ndikukhutira.

Kumva kuti wakakamizidwa kuchita zachiwerewere pomwe sukufuna, ndichokakamiza kugonana. Monga zinthu zambiri, pali kupitiriza. Mitundu yocheperako yakukakamizidwa kugonana ingakhale yovuta kapena ingakupangitseni kumva zoipa za zomwe zidachitikazo, pomwe mitundu yoopsa kwambiri imatha kukhala yopweteka komanso yotsogola. Kukakamizidwa kugonana nthawi zambiri kumawoneka potengera maubwenzi ozunza ndipo olakwira nthawi zambiri amachita mitundu ingapo yowongolera mokakamiza.

Ngakhale mchitidwe wogonanawo ndi wosafunikira, amai sangazindikire kuti ndiwokakamiza ngati adagonana kale ndi munthuyo.

Kodi kukakamizidwa kugonana ndi mlandu?

Pali mzere wabwino pakati pa kugonana mokakamizidwa ndi kugwiriridwa. Kugonana kulikonse komwe kumachitika popanda chilolezo kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zakuthupi ndikumenya ndipo ndi mlandu. Komabe, ngati mungavomereze kuchita chiwerewere mutapachikidwa, kudzudzulidwa, kapena kupusitsidwa ndi wina, uku ndi nkhanza, koma mwina sangawone ngati mlandu.

Ngati mukukakamizidwa kuti muchite zachiwerewere, ndikofunikira kufotokozera munthuyo kuti simukufuna kuchita zomwezo ndikusiya zomwezo. Ngati munthuyo ali ndi udindo wamphamvu komanso wolamulira, siyani vutolo ndipo mukawafotokozere akuluakulu, kapena ogwira ntchito. Ngati munthuyo akupitilizabe khalidweli ngakhale mwanena kuti akuyenera kusiya, kapena akukuwopsezani kapena banja lanu, chokani ndikuyimbira foni 911.

Kutengera ndi kutalika kwa nthawi komanso momwe mumakakamizidwira kukakamizidwa kugonana kapena kuchitiridwa zachipongwe mungafunenso kufikira mzere wazovuta kuti muthandizidwe ndikutumizidwa kuchipatala.

Kodi tingapewe bwanji kukakamizidwa kugonana?

Kuumiriza kugonana kuyenera kuchitidwa pamagulu angapo. Choyamba, tiyenera kusintha zikhalidwe zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu ogwirizana. Zina mwa ntchitoyi zidayamba ndi kayendedwe ka #MeToo ndipo tawona kusintha kwa malingaliro ndi machitidwe s. Kuumiriza kugonana sikungakhale koonekera nthawi zonse ndipo chifukwa chake maphunziro a momwe amawonekera komanso momwe akumvera komanso kuwononga komwe angapangitse ndikofunikira. Chotsatira, tiyenera kupitilizabe kulimbikitsa amuna ndi akazi kuti akazi ndi abambo awoneke ngati ofanana pachibwenzi ndikulimbikitsa kulumikizana momasuka ndikukambirana pazokhudzana ndi kugonana m'banjamo. Pomaliza, tiyenera kuphunzitsa ana ndi achinyamata zavomerezo komanso momwe angakhalire mogwirizana.

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