Chifukwa Chimene Muyenera Kulankhula ndi Alendo

Zamkati

• Mfundo zazikuluzikulu
• Kukhala Ochenjera Kwambiri Kumatipangitsa Kusowa Chibwenzi
• Lankhulani ndi Mlendo

Mfundo zazikuluzikulu

• Mauthenga atolankhani okhudza kusowa kwa ana adadzetsa mantha kwa makolo, omwe adateteza, kukhala tcheru.
• Gen Z ndi Millennials, ophunzitsidwa kuti asalankhule ndi alendo, adakula osaphunzira momwe angayanjanirane ndi alendo.
• Monga mtundu wamagulu, tifunikira kuyanjana ndi ena osati kuti tingochita zinthu, komanso kuti tikhalebe osangalala.

Mu 1979, Etan Patz wazaka 6 adasowa akupita kokwerera basi pasukulu yake kumunsi kwa Manhattan. Ndipo, mu 1981 ndikusowa kwa a Adam Walsh, mtunduwo udachita mantha. Zithunzi zosowa za ana zimawoneka pamakatoni amkaka kuti ana aziyang'ana akamadya mbale zambewu zam'mawa. Zoletsa zomwe ana sangachite komanso zomwe sangachite sizinasinthe.

Ngakhale izi zisanachitike zosautsa komanso zodziwika bwino, ndidalemba kabuku kakafupi koti, "Ice Cream Sichabwino Nthawi Zonse," potengera nkhani yakomweko yonena za munthu wachilendo pagalimoto yabuluu pafupi ndi sukulu ya pulaimale ya ana anga opeza. Kabukuka kanagawidwa mdziko lonse ndi apolisi ndi masukulu, komanso kwa makolo. Pambuyo pake linakhala buku Osayankha inde kwa mlendo: Zomwe Mwana Wanu Ayenera Kudziwa Kuti Akhale Otetezeka ndipo yakhala ikusindikizidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana kwazaka zambiri. Nkhani ndi uthengawu zidathandiza makolo ndi aphunzitsi kuphunzitsa ana aang'ono kusiyana pakati pa alendo omwe ndi abwino komanso omwe angakhale othandiza ndi omwe angawavulaze. Linapangidwa kuti lipatse zida zomwe ana aang'ono amafunikira kuti azitetezedwa akakhala paokha, osayang'aniridwa.

Mauthenga atolankhani okhudza kusowa kwa ana, nthawi zina amasocheretsa polephera kusiyanitsa pakati pa ana omwe adathawa ndi omwe adatengedwa, makolo owopsa omwe adachepetsa kwambiri ufulu wa ana. Makolo adayamba kuyimilira ndipo amakhalabe otetezedwa mopitirira muyeso.

Kukhala Ochenjera Kwambiri Kumatipangitsa Kusowa Chibwenzi

M'buku lake, Kutembenuka Kwanu: Momwe Mungakhalire Wamkulu, Julie Lythcott-Haims akufotokoza momwe kayendetsedwe kake kasamalidwe komanso momwe kuwongolera ana athu kwakhudzira achinyamata masiku ano "ndikuwatsogolera kuti azikhala osamala ndipo chifukwa chake [akusowa] momwe angapangire ubale womwe ungatithandizire kukhala osangalala . ”

Chaputala chake, "Yambani Kulankhula ndi Alendo," chimayamba ndi mawu oti, "Osalankhula ndi alendo," omwe amakopeka ndi "Aliyense." Uku kunali kulakwitsa, analemba kuti:

"Chifukwa chake, ana ambiri a Millennial ndi Gen Z adaleredwa ndi mawu oti" Osalankhula ndi alendo. ' Izi zikutanthauza kuti musayanjane ndi alendo ndipo zachidziwikire musapite nawo kulikonse, mwina. Koma zidasokonekera osayang'ana maso ndi alendo, komanso kusakhala ndi macheza ochepa ndi alendo panjira kapena m'masitolo. Kenako kunayamba kunyalanyaza alendo. Ana ambiri amakula osangowopa lingaliro la alendo, koma osadziwa momwe angayanjanirane nawo. Zotsatira zake, ana sanaphunzire kuyanjana ndi anzawo omwe sanamudziwe kale. Ndipo pamapeto pake adamaliza sukulu yasekondale ndikupita kudziko lapansi, komwe moyo wawo udadzaza. . . alendo.

“Apa pakubwera mfundo yomwe ingakhale yodziwika bwino kwambiri yomwe ndikupanga m'bukuli: tonsefe timakhala alendo kwa wina ndi mnzake poyamba. Ndiye, mwanjira ina, timakhala anzathu ndi ena mwa omwe kale anali alendo, ndipo ena mwa omwe timadziwanawo amasandulika oyandikana nawo, abwenzi, anzawo ogwira nawo ntchito, othandizira, okonda anzawo, othandizana nawo, ndi banja. Kafukufuku wochokera ku biology yokhudzana ndi chisinthiko, anthropology, ndi psychology psychology akuwonetsa kuti ndife mitundu yofunika kwambiri yolumikizana yomwe imayenera kuyanjana mogwirizana komanso mokoma mtima wina ndi mnzake osati kuti tichite zinthu zokha koma kuti tikhale olimba mtima. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kuyanjana ndi anthu omwe sangakhale alendo kwamuyaya kwa ife (mwachitsanzo, munthu amene akudutsa mumsewu) amatithandizanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. "

Lankhulani ndi Mlendo

Ndikukwera basi ku New York City zaka zingapo zapitazo ndidamva azimayi awiri akukambirana malo odyera omwe ndimafuna kudziwa. Chifukwa chake m'malo mongomvetsera, ndidawapempha kuti andiuze. Tinayamba kucheza. Zinangochitika kuti m'modzi mwa azimayiwo amakhala pafupi ndi ine ndipo amakhala bwenzi lapamtima. Mliri usanachitike tidachitirana zinthu zambiri mumzinda ndipo takhala tikulimbikitsana. CDC ikangonena kuti ndiyotetezeka kuyambiranso kulumikizana ndi ena omwe ali kunja kwa zipolopolo zathu, ndili ndi chitsimikizo kuti tidzayambiranso kucheza kwathu pamasom'pamaso-wobadwa osalankhula ndi mlendo.

Mliriwu watsimikizira kuti kaya ndi azaka zingati, tifunikira kulumikizana pamasom'pamaso-osati masamba azanema "abwenzi," koma anthu omwe titha kuyang'ana m'maso, ndipo, posachedwa, kukumbatirananso. Ngati munaleredwa pansi pa mawu oti "Osalankhula ndi alendo," kupanga maubalewo kumatha kukhala kovuta poyamba, koma monga a Lythcott-Haims akukumbutsa owerenga, "sikuti ndizolondola kungolankhula ndi alendo, mukufuna kutero. Muyenera. Tiyeni tizipita."