Kodi Mumalakalaka Mungabwererenso Zina Zomwe Munanena?

Nkhani yodzanong'oneza bondo pazomwe zanenedwa pagulu yabwerera munyuzipepala ndi kuyesedwa kwa pa 4 February 2021 ndi Woimira ku United States a Marjorie Taylor kuti anena kuti sakhulupiriranso zomwe adalankhula kale pankhani yachiwembu.

Atavala zodzikongoletsera zokhala ndi mawu oti "Kuyankhula Kwaulere," adayimirira pamaso pa nsanja ku Nyumba Yamalamulo ndikuyesera kubweza zomwe adanenazo kale: "Ndidaloledwa kukhulupirira zinthu zomwe sizinali zoona ndikufunsa mafunso ndikulankhula za iwo, ndikumva chisoni kwambiri. ” Greene adanena izi kuti apewe kuchotsedwa mu komiti, koma zoyesayesa zake sizinaphule kanthu.

Ngakhale kuti Greene sanapepese kwenikweni, mawu ake oti "chisoni" mwina atha kunena kuti amadzimva kuti anali wolakwayo. Powunikiranso ndemanga zake, ndikuwona uthenga wotsutsana womwe waperekedwa ndi mawonekedwe ake, mutha kuzindikira kuti amagwiritsa ntchito mawu osafotokoza pofotokoza chifukwa chake adalankhulira izi (mwachitsanzo. "Ndidaloledwa kukhulupirira ..."). Kodi zikukukumbutsani za nthawi zomwe mudayesapo kubweza zomwe mudanena zomwe zidasokoneza moyo wanu?

Ngakhale kuti zomwe Greene ananena zidakonzedweratu, ndizotheka kuti mukanena chinthu chomwe simukadakonda, chidachitika mwachangu kutentha kwakanthawi. Mu kanthawi, mawu amatuluka mkamwa mwako omwe sungabwezeretse.

Mwina mnzanuyo anakukonzerani chakudya chambiri ndipo amakupatsirani monyadira. Poyembekezera mwachidwi momwe mungayankhire, mnzanu akugwa pansi pomwe munena kuti "Wokondedwa, ndi zabwino, koma nyama ndi yolimba pang'ono." Akutuluka m'chipindamo, mnzanuyo alumbira kuti sadzagwiranso ntchito molimbika kudyetsa winawake wosayenerera chidwi ichi. Palibe kutsatira kumbuyo komwe kumawoneka kuti kumakhudza mnzanu, ndipo kuwonjezera pakuwononga chakudyacho, mwapanga mphero yomwe ingakhale yovuta kuchotsa.

Sizachilendo kuti maanja azithana ndi zovuta zamtunduwu malinga ndi zokumana nazo zambiri za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe amagawana. Komabe, kuti apambane mipata iyi, kodi ndikulankhulana kwabwino komwe amafunikira, kapena china chake? Malinga ndi Enrico Gnaulati (2020) waku Seattle University, polemba za njira yatsopano yothandizira maanja, "Pali malingaliro omwe akutuluka kuti zomwe mabanja omwe ali pamavuto amafunikira kuthandizidwa sizabwino kulumikizana pawokha koma kukhazikitsa chikondi ndi kulingalira za wina ndi mnzake. ”(Tsamba 2). Banja losangalala, akupitiliza kuzindikira, samangokangana. Ndi imodzi, kutengera kafukufuku wakale, momwe abwenziwo "angathetsere" mikangano yosapeweka.

Malinga ndi nthanthi yomwe imadziwika kuti kukhalako chabe, kayendetsedwe kameneka kakhoza kuchitika bwino ngati maanja avomereza "mavuto omwe akuwoneka kuti ndi oletsa mabanja [monga] kusayanjananso mu kutentha kwa chipinda chogona, ... ” Mwa njirayi, simungamayerekeze ngati simunanene zomwe munanena za chakudyacho kapena choipa, nkuyerekeza kuti sizinachitike. Mukatero, mumavomereza udindo. Monga Gnaulati akunenera, "Pamafunika kudzichepetsa kuti uvomereze cholakwa ... mawu amakhala ndi zotulukapo; ndi kuti kukhulupirira kuti tikhoza kutuluka popanda chilango ndikunamizira "(tsamba 8). Kutanthauzira, izi zikutanthauza kuti simungathe kudzipatula nokha kuchokera kwa mnzanu chifukwa nonse mumakhudzidwa ndikulimbikitsana. Simuli ma atomu osiyana omwe samalumikizana.

Monga Gnaulati akupitilira kuwona, sizingathandize ubale wanu kunyoza mawu anu opweteka koma kuvomereza udindo wanu wopangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosasangalala. Pazithandizo, akutero, amatha kugwiritsa ntchito "kuchiritsa olakwa" (tsamba 8). Potchula nkhani ya banja lina pachipatala, kunali kufotokoza kwa Gnaulati za kulakwa kwa mwamunayo komwe pamapeto pake kunamupangitsa kuti apepese mochokera pansi pamtima, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti mkaziyo amukhululukire. Mwanjira ina, mkaziyo amamva bwino chifukwa mwamunayo akumva kuwawa.

Kuti kupepesaku kugwire ntchito, a Gnaulati akuti, sipangakhale "koma" yolembedwera kuti ichepetse kudzipepetsa. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a wolandirayo, kupitanso apo, kukonza kwa ubale kumapita pakakhala kuti mikangano siyikukulira kumadera akunja kwa zinthu monga kubweretsa "zolakwika za mnzake" mu equation.

Kubwereranso ku funso lodziona ngati wolakwa, zomwe Gnaulati amazitcha "kuyembekezera kulakwa" zingakulepheretseni kupanga ndemanga zopanda pake poyamba. Mnzanu akamakupatsirani chakudya chokoma ichi, imani ndi kuganiza musanalankhule mawu opweteka. Sikuti mukuchita zachinyengo, koma m'malo mwake mumangoganizira momwe zinthu zilili kuchokera kwa mnzanu.Potchula olemba akale, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa Seattle akuwonetsa kuti palibe chifukwa choti "musangalalire" musanayamikire. Inde, nyamayo ikhoza kukhala yolimba, koma mwina msuziwo ndiwokoma. Pitirizani kuyankhapo pa izo.

Kuyendetsa malingaliro onsewa ndikuti, malinga ndi Gnaulait, ndikuzindikira kuti maanja okondana amatha kupititsa patsogolo maulendowa polumikizana. Apanso, kubwerera ku lingaliro lomwe lakhalapo, kuzindikira kuti moyo ndiwosalimba ndikuti aliyense amwalira zitha kupangitsa maanja "kukhala moyo wawo mwadala komanso mwanzeru pano" (tsamba 12). Ntchito ya wothandizira, potengera izi, ndikuthandiza maanja kumvetsetsa "kufunikira kofunikira kwa maubale okondana."

Kuchokera papepala la Gnaulati, mutha kuwona kuti ngakhale simungathe kuletsa pakamwa panu kuyankhula zomwe mumanong'oneza bondo, mutha kuvomereza kuti mwanena. Pamenepo, kupepesa kochokera pansi pamtima kungathandize kuchepetsa kuwonongeka. Pochita izi, mutha kuthandiza machiritso powonetsa kuti ndinu otseguka kuti mumve momwe mnzanuyo adanenera izi.

Mukutha tsopano kuwona bwino lomwe cholakwika m'mawu a "chisoni" a Greene. Kugwiritsa ntchito kwake kwa mawu osayankhula ndikotsutsana kotheratu ndi kupepesa "modzichepetsa" komwe njira ya Gnaulati imalimbikitsa. Zowona kuti Greene samalankhula za chilichonse ngakhale patali ngati ubale wapamtima, koma mfundoyi imagwirabe ntchito. Akadatha kuyika mawu ake mu mawu achangu, ndikusiya gawo la "led to believe", ndikotheka kuti atenga Gawo # 1 kuti akonzenso mbiri yake yowonongeka ndi anzawo.

Powombetsa mkota , aliyense akunena zinthu zomwe amalakalaka akanapanda kunena. Kutha kwanu kukhala ndi mawu omwe mumalakalaka mutabweza kumatha kuyambitsa njira yobwezeretsa komanso kukonza ubale ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda kwambiri.