Kudzikonda

Zamkati

• Kudzizindikira
• Kudzidalira
• Kudzidalira
• Kudzisamalira

Ambiri aife timadziwa kuti kudzikonda ndi chiyani koma osamvetsa. Mumadya chifukwa mumamvetsetsa kuti mukufuna chakudya. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti ambiri a ife tikuyesera kuthana ndi nkhondo zakunja monga kupeza chikondi, kuchita bwino, kapena kupeza chisangalalo, koma sitikumvetsetsa kuti kudzikonda ndiko muzu womwe zonse zimachokera.

Kodi tingakonde bwanji munthu wotsatira tisanaphunzire kudzikonda mopanda malire? Mukadzikonda nokha, simungakonde wina mosavomerezeka, chifukwa chiyani mumamupatsa wina zomwe mulibe? Kumvetsetsa kwathu kudzikonda timaphunzira kuchokera paubwana kuchokera kwa omwe amatisamalira. Nthawi zambiri, amaphunzitsidwa mosazindikira; Tangokhala ndi chithunzithunzi powona omwe amatisamalira.

Kudzikonda kumangoposa kungovala zovala zabwino ndikupaka mafuta odzola odula kenako ndikunena kuti mumadzikonda. Kudzikonda ndi ambulera yokhudzana ndi machitidwe osiyanasiyana achikondi omwe timadzipangira tokha mwakuthupi komanso osati mwakuthupi. Pali anthu ambiri okonzekera bwino omwe ndikuwadziwa omwe sadziwa tanthauzo la kudzikonda. Kudzikonda wekha sindiye kudzikonda, ndikuchitira ena zabwino chifukwa pamene umadzikonda wekha, ena sayenera kuthana ndi mavuto omwe sanathe.

Kudzikonda kumakhala ndi mbali zinayi: kudzizindikira, kudzidalira, kudzidalira komanso kudzisamalira.

Ngati wina akusowa, ndiye kuti simumadzikonda nokha. Kuti tikhale nawo, tiyenera kulumikizidwa ndi mbali zinayi. Ulendo wopindulira kudzikonda sikusiyana ndikukumana ndi ziwanda zanu. Ndi chifukwa chake ambiri aife timasowa, chifukwa palibe amene amafuna kukhala pansi ndikukambirana ndi iwo okha. Kudzikonda ndi kovuta kukwaniritsa chifukwa kumatanthauza kuthana ndi zinthu zina komanso anthu omwe timakonda. Kuledzera kwathu kwa anthu ndi zizolowezi zomwe zimatsutsana ndi lingaliro la kudzikonda kumatanthauza kuti timanyengerera ndipo timadzikonda tokha, posinthana ndi kufulumira kwakanthawi komwe timalandira kuchokera kuzinthu zosokoneza izi.

Kudzizindikira

Kudziwitsa wekha ndiko kuzindikira njira zako zoganizira: malingaliro ako, momwe zimakhudzira mtima wako, komanso momwe zimakukhudzira. Kodi mukudziwa malingaliro omwe amakupsetsani mtima komanso kukupangitsani kuchita zinthu mopupuluma? Kodi akuchokera kuti, ndipo nchifukwa ninji ali kumeneko? Chifukwa chiyani zimakupangitsani kuti muzichita momwe inu mumachitira? Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito pazomwe zimakusangalatsani. Nchifukwa chiyani zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala? Ndikutuluka mwa iwe kuti udziyese wekha. Kudzizindikira ndichinsinsi cha luntha lamaganizidwe. Zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala okwiya mwina sizingakuletseni misala, koma mudzadziwa momwe mungayankhire moyenera kapena momwe musayankhire nkomwe. Anthu omwe ali ndi nzeru zambiri pamtima ali ndi malingaliro monga momwe ife timachitira. Koma amachoka pamalingaliro awo kuti akwaniritse bwino. Izi zimaphatikizaponso kusunthira kwina kapena kupewa zinthu zomwe mukudziwa kuti zimatha kuyambitsa malingaliro ena osayenera mwa inu. Ngati simungathe kuchoka kapena kupeŵa zochitikazo, kudzizindikira kwanu kumakuthandizani kuwongolera mphamvu zomwe mukuziyika m'malingaliro amenewo. Njira imodzi yodziwitsira kudzizindikira kwanu ndikusunga zolemba zanu, malingaliro anu, ndi zochita zanu.

Kudzidalira

Chifukwa cha mapulogalamu olakwika omwe timakumana nawo mgulu la anthu, timayang'ana kwambiri pazinthu zoyipa komanso zosasangalatsa ndikudziwonetsa kuti izi sizitichitikira tokha nthawi zambiri osazindikira. Mumabadwa ndi nyanja yopanda malire; Muli nacho tsopano ndipo mudzakhala nacho mpaka tsiku lomwe mudzamwalire. Monga momwe sitingathe kupanga kapena kuwononga mphamvu, titha kungofufuza kapena kubisa kuthekera. Kudzidalira ndizikhulupiriro zomwe tili nazo za ife eni, ndipo nthawi zambiri zimativuta kukhulupirira tokha. Izi ndichifukwa cha zovuta zam'mbuyomu zomwe tidakumana nazo zomwe sizinagwedezeke kwathunthu. Kudzidalira kumagona pazabwino zonse za iwe. Aliyense ali ndi kanthu kena kabwino pa iwo. Ngati mukuvutika kuti mudzione kuti ndinu ofunika, pezani tsiku lomwe mutha kuthana ndi zomwe mwachita molondola kapena zomwe anthu ena amayamikira za inu. Mutha kukhala wotsutsa chifukwa simukudziwa kufunikira kwanu. Palibe tsiku lomwe simukuyenera. Kudzidalira sikutsimikiziridwa ndi chilichonse; simuyenera kuchita chilichonse kuti mukhale oyenera. Inu muli basi. Dziwani izi ndikumvetsetsa izi. Mphamvu zanu, maluso anu, ndi kukoma mtima kwanu kwa anthu ena zimangosonyeza kuti ndinu munthu wofunika.

Kudzidalira

Kudzidalira kumadza chifukwa chodzidalira. Kudziona kuti ndiwe wofunika kwambiri kumadzetsa kudzidalira. Kudzidalira ndiko kuzindikira kuti ndife ofunika mosasamala kanthu za zomwe takwanitsa kapena mikhalidwe yomwe tingakhale nayo; kudzidalira kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi mikhalidwe yathu ndi zomwe takwanitsa kuchita. Zochita zomwe zatchulidwazi zimalimbikitsa kudzidalira koma ndimazigwiritsa ntchito kudzidalira chifukwa timagwira bwino zinthu zomwe titha kuziona osati zinthu zomwe sitingathe. Mukayamba kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika, kudzidalira kumabwera mwachibadwa. Kudzidalira kumakhudza zinthu zitatu -momwe tidakondedwera tili ana, zomwe anthu azaka zathu, zomwe takwanitsa kuchita poyerekeza ndi omwe amatisamalira paubwana. Kudzidalira kumakhudzana ndi kukhala wokhutira ndi zomwe muli, zomwe muli, zomwe muli nazo. Ngati mukufuna kudzidalira, onetsani kudzidalira kwanu. Dzikumbutseni tsiku lililonse kuti simukuyenera kutsimikizira kukhalapo kwanu. Kusowa kwanu kuti mukwaniritse zinthu zina nthawi zambiri kumachitika chifukwa chakusowa kwanu kuti mudzipangire kukhalapo kwanu.

Kudzisamalira

Mbali iyi yomwe imakhudzana kwambiri ndi thupi koma siyathupi lathunthu. Kudzisamalira ndi zinthu zonse zomwe timachita kuti tikhalebe athanzi, monga kusamba, kudya chakudya choyenera, kukhala ndi madzi ambiri, komanso kuchita zinthu zomwe timakonda. Kudzisamalira kumatha kukhalanso mawonekedwe owonera zomwe mumadya, monga nyimbo zomwe mumamvera, zinthu zomwe mumawonera, komanso anthu omwe mumacheza nawo. Poyerekeza ndi zina za kudzikonda, kudzisamalira ndikosavuta kuchita. Ndikofunika kuyambira pano paulendo wanu wopeza kudzikonda.

Dzifunseni funso ili pafupipafupi momwe mungathere: "Kodi munthu amene amadzikonda yekha angatani?" Dzifunseni funso ili nthawi iliyonse yomwe mufunika kupanga chisankho, kaya chaching'ono kapena chofunikira. Ntchitoyi ibwera ndi nsonga imodzi komanso chenjezo limodzi.

• Langizo: Khulupirirani chibadwa chanu; umunthu wanu wamkati umadziwa bwino kwambiri.
• Chenjezo: Simudzakonda nthawi zonse zomwe chibadwa chanu chimakuwuzani kuti muchite.